How exactly, was your mother rejected by the deaf community? You did not, by your own admission, even use hearing aids at the age, so you would not have been using any technology that would have created rejection. IF, indeed, whe was rejected, there has to be another explantion.
And, no, technology is not the issue. Not in this thread. You will need to visit the CI and HA thread if you wish to focus on the technology. The issues in this thread are cultural and psycho-social-emotional in nature.