When my mom reached out to the deaf community when I was three and was rejected, what would have happen if she wasn't???? That is the universal question. I'm sure my educational environment would have been different. I have already told you my mother's goal, don't read into your ideas.
Technology is the issue. That is the key differences from when you raised your son. The choices are different. Why is it hard to believe that parents make choices that might be different then yours, but they did the research and made a different decision. Life is different.
