I must say, this is an excellent thread to begin with.
I think the word "rejection" can come on as a strong thing but aside from that, its about how both sides generalizes the attitude for each other.
From what I see, it is also about instilling the fear itself for both sides because when that happens, both sides are asking to get the bigger picture of how one can possibly fit in. When that does not happen, that also gets to a point where everybody feels they are not able to meet halfway or better yet, to set a parallel line.
I'm on the sidekick at the moment and will bring some more insight to this later on to continue this discussion.
