Jillio: I think you are correct. My parents spent a lot of time with me and working for me. They took many ASL classes. They made my brothers and sisters learn ASL and use ASL at home. They did speech therapy with me and paid for extra speech therapy (they still pay for a therapist - we work on new words in my college classes and old problems) and tutors. My mom worked and worked with me on my English assignments. She is on my college campus and we spend a lot of time together. I always thought ASL made a special bond with my parents and me, but it wasn't ASL maybe. Maybe it was me "the disabled kid". I think a lot of our family revolved around making a great home for me.
Thinking now, I don't know a correct emotion. It makes no sense to feel guilty - I didn't ask my parents and would have say "less" to speech therapy, English lessons, tutors etc. Now I am grateful but when young I hated it sometimes. I know I am lucky - my parents have great salaries and are the best for support, love, encouragement. My brother got the same for support, love, and encouragement, but he didn't get so much attention. My grades maybe were better because of tutors, my mom etc. He maybe needed more help (but he did good and graduated college with some award). I don't know.
With such a consideration, what do I do? I know I can't discuss anything with him now. But later, with less anger from him and me, what should I tell him? Apologize? That feels partial wrong and partial right. I work so hard at school, friends, socializing, and living independently - I don't want to apologize for my life. But I can see his feelings more maybe.
