One can debate without putting each other down, that's true....what what people have to accept it that part of the debate involves expressing anger or sarcasm, which is not necessarily directed at a specific person but at the culture itself.
So if when I shake my fist and spit at heterosexuality, I'm not saying Silence, Levithan, This Person or that person....unless we are talking about lowlife scum like Politicians...........the original comment I made in this forum hardly qualifies as "rude". It is par for the course for oppressed groups and minorities to berate their oppressors. The enlightened ones will see it for what it is.....and when u think about it, Gay/ Lesbian and Women's humour are so alike!
I mean, what's that useless piece of skin at the end of a penis called? A man! I find this hilarious cos I know it's a pot shot at men's delusions about themselves...or as another women comic once remarked: Her boyfriend cooked her dinner. She told him how much she enjoyed it. He gets up to go get her some more. She tells him, oh darling, but you don't have to open another can, just for li'l ol' me!
