im so confused on what to do at this point..

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so i have this boyfriend from another state. we met on the internet like about a year ago n we been dating since feb. its kinda been on and off because he cheated on me with this girl. he told me that he will never do it again because he doesnt want us to be apart. when he says he loves me i know he does. i have never met hiim though but we talk every single day. we get into fights a lot though because he talks to a lotttt of girls and he talks to them how he talks to me. i told him if he keeps doing this i cant be in this relationship. but he knows that i cant leave him because i have never loved anyone and i dont want to love anyone else. he use to be a huge player and would just date girls for a few days and like have a few on the side. this is the longest relationship me and him have ever been in. i just dont want him to cheat on me and for him to stop talking to all theses girls. he had sex with a ton of girls that i have no idea how many but i havent have sex with anyone and i want to meat him in person but i am afraid that he will try and push me into having sex with him and i dont know if im ready for that. he even told some girls that he was single which really pissed me off. idk what to do my best friend hates him because of the stuff he does to me and she doesnt like seeing me go threw this. but he isnt all bad n she doesnt see that. idk i just need some advice about this situation that im in.. HELLPPPPP!!
 
Stop wasting your time with this guy. I agree with your best friend. Sorry for being blunt, but you can't change people.
 
Spend your energy on meeting people and socializing where you live.
 
How could he be your boyfriend when you have not met him in real life yet? You can't pursue a relationship with him without seeing him first, You know what I'm saying? You gonna see if sparks had flied, and truly know him I mean know everything about him, how good you both can communicate in real life if you're deaf. These are important before considered being in a real relationship with him.

Long distance relationships can be very hard, because of lack of physical aspect. (kissing, hugging, cuddling and holding hands).

From reading your post, he doesn't seem like a guy that understands long distance relationship, if he can't hold off other girls until he meets you first, then he's not worth your time. I'm sorry.
 
Sorry about that .. My Advice.... find another guy! :)
 
Your post kinda reminds me of one of our members. drop him.
 
Cheri said:
How could he be your boyfriend when you have not met him in real life yet? You can't pursue a relationship with him without seeing him first, You know what I'm saying? You gonna see if sparks had flied, and truly know him I mean know everything about him, how good you both can communicate in real life if you're deaf. These are important before considered being in a real relationship with him.

Long distance relationships can be very hard, because of lack of physical aspect. (kissing, hugging, cuddling and holding hands).

From reading your post, he doesn't seem like a guy that understands long distance relationship, if he can't hold off other girls until he meets you first, then he's not worth your time. I'm sorry.
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I agree with you 100 percent.
 
I agree with most people here that it's probably best to try and move on.

If you still want to make it work, you both have to be willing to bend. You have to be able to accept that he is flirtatious in nature, and he has to be able to accept that in being with you he's made a commitment to you. For it to work you both have to be able to meet in the middle.
 
dump'em. chuck'em. bye bye
 
How does Cheri know they are deaf? I don't see that written down. Seems like a bored kid coming around to forums and writing some nonsense to get attention.
 
Bottesini said:
How does Cheri know they are deaf? I don't see that written down. Seems like a bored kid coming around to forums and writing some nonsense to get attention.
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I don't, that's why I said "how good you both can communicate in real life if you're deaf. Noticed the "if" lol
 
Cheri said:
I don't, that's why I said "how good you both can communicate in real life if you're deaf. Noticed the "if" lol
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Oh, well. Comprehension is not my strong point. :wave: :Oops:
 
If this relationship is causing you stress, it is not healthy. Get out of it.
 
Try not to hold onto the fact that he's the only boyfriend you've ever loved. It's a lie. If you're able to love a person, then you're able to love another. The most important thing is to love yourself first before anyone else.

From what I've heard so far, your "boyfriend" is really playing you like every other girl he's been with and once he's had sex with you - that's the end of it. I know it hurts to hear this but you know what, you're so much better than him and what you offer; he does not deserve.

Listen to the other members here, ditch him. I wish you the best.
 
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