kaseymariex15x
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Alright, so I am a 19 year old girl who started to date this guy that was deaf. However this is where things get pretty interesting. I knew him from high school and then I wanted to get to know him because the physical attraction was there. At the time people knew more about him then I did and told me he was born a girl. 2 years later I met him again at a club in our local city, and we started talking, I had remembered that the people informed me he was born a girl but I thought it would be better to find out myself. I did not have a problem with the possibility of him actually being a girl because I accept both sexes and dont base my relationship off gender. Once we hung out a couple of times and I observed closer ... I realised that the aligations were true because I could see wrapping around the breast area to hide any evidence of female parts. Once I confronted that I knew about his secret, it allowed him to open up to me more and found out later he was still biologically a female in search of becoming transgender, I accepted all of it without a doubt, in my view I thought the transgender was more of something to focus on but I think I was wrong.... After we were together for 2 weeks I was able to adapt to the sign alphabet and he taught me basic ASL so I was able to communicate and it made it easier.
However I came up with some issues because we started working at the same place, he was there first... and for some reason when we started working together our relationship went downhill because he was communicating with other people at work and they were talking about me and giving him their opinions and he would listen not knowing right from wrong.
He always doubted that I was loyal to him and always ask if I cheated on him which I never did... he didnt believe me and I got very angry and frustrated and I scared him.... I was fine with breaking up with him but when I would see him at work he would always want to hang out and the same thing would happen all over again... I tried to be the best girlfriend I possibly could but no matter how hard I tried he would never listen to me or understand my point of view... He is very influenced about what everyone else says and do around him. I tried to be the best girlfriend possible but he would never try ... I asked him to get me ASL books so I could understand him better but he never really took the time to really teach me more, I dont know if he did lie for real or not to me, but I really think he did in most cases, I think that he has a mental health issue problem , ive been doing a lot of research lately and it says that Deaf people can be treated for that with the right care and guidance... Another problem that caused a big dent in the relationship is that he found the need to communicate with every pretty girl he saw and would always put me last, but then again I was the only one he could seek pleasure with because of our small town, people knew about his gender issues and were cautious about getting into that situation. He would always say unnecessary things about sex and other stuff which never made any sense.
The reason why I am writing this is because I need help in understanding why he acts the way he does, because he has really scarred me and now I dont know how to cope with it. I dont know if anyone has ever been in my situation, but Im honest when I say i tried everything to help the guy/girl out but it never worked, I tried to tell him that he needs to talk to someone but he would respond with saying I had problems... im so frustrated with it, I need to understand it better.. help
However I came up with some issues because we started working at the same place, he was there first... and for some reason when we started working together our relationship went downhill because he was communicating with other people at work and they were talking about me and giving him their opinions and he would listen not knowing right from wrong.
He always doubted that I was loyal to him and always ask if I cheated on him which I never did... he didnt believe me and I got very angry and frustrated and I scared him.... I was fine with breaking up with him but when I would see him at work he would always want to hang out and the same thing would happen all over again... I tried to be the best girlfriend I possibly could but no matter how hard I tried he would never listen to me or understand my point of view... He is very influenced about what everyone else says and do around him. I tried to be the best girlfriend possible but he would never try ... I asked him to get me ASL books so I could understand him better but he never really took the time to really teach me more, I dont know if he did lie for real or not to me, but I really think he did in most cases, I think that he has a mental health issue problem , ive been doing a lot of research lately and it says that Deaf people can be treated for that with the right care and guidance... Another problem that caused a big dent in the relationship is that he found the need to communicate with every pretty girl he saw and would always put me last, but then again I was the only one he could seek pleasure with because of our small town, people knew about his gender issues and were cautious about getting into that situation. He would always say unnecessary things about sex and other stuff which never made any sense.
The reason why I am writing this is because I need help in understanding why he acts the way he does, because he has really scarred me and now I dont know how to cope with it. I dont know if anyone has ever been in my situation, but Im honest when I say i tried everything to help the guy/girl out but it never worked, I tried to tell him that he needs to talk to someone but he would respond with saying I had problems... im so frustrated with it, I need to understand it better.. help