I have a few questions for the Deaf Community?

[liv1ngd@ybyd@y]

Hi my name is Diana and I am learning ASL. I also have a Deaf Culture class and I have a few quetions to ask a member of the Deaf Community? Thank You Very Much in advance
Is anyone willing to give me a few moments of their time?

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

What are your challenges with the hearing community?

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?

What do you do for a living today?

I know these questions might seem a bit odd but I want to know about a Deaf Person life. Thank You Again

 

[kashveera]

Hi my name is Diana and I am learning ASL. I also have a Deaf Culture class and I have a few quetions to ask a member of the Deaf Community? Thank You Very Much in advance
Is anyone willing to give me a few moments of their time?

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

What are your challenges with the hearing community?

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?

What do you do for a living today?

I know these questions might seem a bit odd but I want to know about a Deaf Person life. Thank You Again

Will try to help you!!

I am profoundly deaf. I hope I can answer your questions!!

I grew up as any normal child would grow up, except that I had a disability, but I must say that I didn't have much of a childhood, as most of it was learning how to speak, so when kiddies were playing with their little toys, Kashveera was learning how to read, the result, i could pronounce words beyond the average toddler's comprehension at that time!! Maybe thats why at 19, I still probably behave like a kiddo!!

I played with anyone, although in my younger years I used to be so frustrated, I used to be very isolated, because having went to a normal hearing school, and no one really understood how to communicate with a deaf person! Nowadays, I talk to absolutely anyone, and my parents have to sometimes tell me to shut up, which I reply (just to annoy them), that they were the ones to teach me how to speak!!

I give all the credit of my success to my parents because without them I wouldn't be where I am right now...My parents supported me in everything I did, whether it was my religious life, where I addressed conferences, or whether it was my sport life, where they watched me win matches to clinch my national colors, or whether they watched me act on stage, which often bought tears of joy to their eyes! My parents have stood with me at every stage of my life...So, I give them my life, in return for all they've done for me!!

As I have always said before, the hearing community is one that is very deaf unaware, and I think that is one of the areas in which they need to improvise on...I think the other problem is the lack of compassion or understanding, but that stems from sheer ignorance unfortunately!! If the illusion of deaf people being worthless, or whatever people may think, becomes dispelled, my word, It will be a wonderful world!! However, I tend to forgive and forget!! Thats because I don't know whether to blame the person who has hurt me by being ignorant, or actually feel sorry that they have a lack of understanding, I believe hearing people should stand with deaf people, because really we are human beings at the very end of the day!!

Fortuantely for me, I lipread and speak really well (well , thats a compliment that a lot of my hearing counterparts have said to me)...So, I do not have a problem, I think a person who only knows sign-language is bette suited for this question!! I do not have any problems in communication!! So far!!

I am studying in my second year towards a bcom(acc) degree! So, at the moment my bursary money goes towards everything else, and by god's grace I have such wonderful parents who really give me the very best and they do stretch their limits...but I have assured myself, that when I start work...its payback time, so I don't feel so bad!! Fortunately, a worldwide accounting firm, Deloitte & Touche, has signed me on to work in 2009! So yeah I have a guaranteed job!!

Hope this helps!!

Sorry if I bored you!!

Kashveera

 

[liv1ngd@ybyd@y]

Thank you, yes it does. Thanks again

 

[kashveera]

Thank you, yes it does. Thanks again

Pleasure, it gives delight knowing you helped someone today!!

God bless, and happy posting.

Kashveera

 

[liv1ngd@ybyd@y]

Thank You Kashveera, you are the only one that replied to my post. As for the others, my teacher always tells us how you are proud to be deaf and that you are always willing to teach others about your beautiful culture but yet a few simple questions are only answered by one person. Thank you again Kashveera

 

[kashveera]

Thank You Kashveera, you are the only one that replied to my post. As for the others, my teacher always tells us how you are proud to be deaf and that you are always willing to teach others about your beautiful culture but yet a few simple questions are only answered by one person. Thank you again Kashveera

Its fine, only my pleasure, I am sure the others will help if they had the time, really, this is one friendly place, trust me!! But, I am glad at least I managed to help you, if you need any other questions to be answered, PM me!!

All the luck!!

Kashveera

 

[BearBeauty]

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

What are your challenges with the hearing community?

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?

What do you do for a living today?

HI Diana..

For me, I had a normal childhood growing up except my summers from age 5 until i turned 11 were spent in a special summer school for deaf students who were mainstreamed. But most of my childhood was a normal childhood with my family. I grew up in mainstreamed school so It was pretty normal, aside from contunited speech therapy until I decided to quit since my therapist didn't seem to think i was good enough to teach. There were bad times I don't like to talk about. I played with hearing kids as to my family didn't know any deaf families or kids that were deaf. the exception was my best friend who was Hoh.
I didn't really join sports or clubs until High school, mostly due to lack of interest, until I met one of my high school teachers who got me involved in soccer and softball, plus my interpreter got me into theater and writing.
I have the problem that when I speak, not everyone understands me which can be a challenge in the hearing community, but I've found ways to get around this, such as writing, pointing, whatever. I grew up learning how to deal with change, so it comes naturally to me now.
Talking to hearing people has become progressively easier for me as I grew older, mostly i write what I want to say or I ask if they understand, if they understand then we communicate just fine. if not, we write to each other. it works for me.

Up until Last year, I was a waitress at a retirement home.. yeah.. imagine that, deaf girl working as a waitress LOL. But it was an eye opener for the people who I served while I worked there. Now I spend most of my time at home doing online work. It's served me well.

Hope this helps.

Good luck with your studies.

 

[Cheri]

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?
My childhood was a bit tough, The day I was born, nobody knew that I was losing my hearing until the age of five, My mother was the only person that took it harder than anyone else, from that day forward, she never accept me for who I was and am today, You could say, she wanted a perfect child, I never understand what's perfect? What's normal? I'm no different than anyone expect that I cannot hear, It was hard being in the same house with her, being rejected, treated like second class citizen, My dad was the biggest role in my life, He had done his research on Deaf Culture, and hearing world, for a better education how to raise a deaf child, I attended public schools district, being in mainstreaming, I've been in total communication and oral method. I've never attended any deaf schools in my entire childhood life. I know American Sign Language but not as fast as other deaf individuals, My primary sign language communication is Signed Exact English. I also use method of cued speech which meaning to speak and process language mostly through lip reading. I've learned how to speak through a speech-language pathologist, I never really had much time of play like other children. I've had to learn so much to be part of the society the real world.

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?
My mother wouldn't allow any deaf to come over our place of home or on our property, so I had to stick with playing with the hearing kids instead.


Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?
My mom never support anything I do, or will she ever? My dad did support my choices when I played softball and volleyball during my school years, I've also became a student council representative for the class of 88. Took classes at Mayfield for word processing, and Cleveland Hts for data processing.


What are your challenges with the hearing community?

There are some discrimination along in the hearing community when it comes to finding jobs, They don't give us a chance to prove ourselves that we can do the job just like anyone else would, I'm a very hard worker and it is very frustrate not to get hire based on your hearing, That's discriminated. Those people need to open their mind, their heart and give us a chance. Some hearing people have a lack of understanding about deaf people, Being deaf isn't necessary a bad thing, It's not hard to communicate with the deaf, If they had done their research on how to communicate with the deaf, we wouldn't be having this problem, but now there are some college and school are teaching hearing children American Sign Language, and I do think that's a good thing, because the more people are aware about the deaf the more comfortable deaf people would feel.


How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?
Since I can speak and read lips very well, there are times there are miscommunication between hearing and deaf, I've try my hardest to let them be aware that their lips should be clear enough for me to catch the understanding what they're trying to say to me, and I have no trouble with them understanding me.



What do you do for a living today?

I work for my father, been with the same company for the past 15 years, traveling on the roads to different states selling our famous bbq ribs.

 

[jillio]

Thank You Kashveera, you are the only one that replied to my post. As for the others, my teacher always tells us how you are proud to be deaf and that you are always willing to teach others about your beautiful culture but yet a few simple questions are only answered by one person. Thank you again Kashveera

A bit judgemental in attitude for someone who claims to want to learn. don't you think?

 

[darkflare83]

Hi my name is Diana and I am learning ASL. I also have a Deaf Culture class and I have a few quetions to ask a member of the Deaf Community? Thank You Very Much in advance
Is anyone willing to give me a few moments of their time?

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

What are your challenges with the hearing community?

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?

What do you do for a living today?

I know these questions might seem a bit odd but I want to know about a Deaf Person life. Thank You Again

answer number one my childhood was bad abandoned and screwed over many times
answer number two i didnt play with much people until later in life i was forced to socialize thru jobs other than that videogame is my world
answer number three what parents? and i joined basketball for a bit
my challenge with hearing community is they think i m stupid makes me want to kick them in the groin for thinking that but oh well cant do that
and as for communciation i use paper and pencial
i build computers for an living
at least my life re getting better

 

[liv1ngd@ybyd@y]

Thank you to everyone that has responded to this post. I have a better understanding now. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You. I'm done here Thank You!!!!!

 

[jazzy]

Hi my name is Diana and I am learning ASL. I also have a Deaf Culture class and I have a few quetions to ask a member of the Deaf Community? Thank You Very Much in advance
Is anyone willing to give me a few moments of their time?

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?

My childhood was unqiue and advanture. I enjoyed my childhood despite being deaf. One thing I had trouble was communication and language delayed. Thank God for His gift to me by having a deaf teacher and she helped my family to learn to communicate with me. Teens year was best for me and I loved it every bit of it.

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

Of course, I was allowed to play with them both. Not many deaf kids in my area so I spend my most childhood play with neighbor kids. I had no problem with them.

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

Of course yes. I remember one class I signed up for English class at public school, my principal called my mother and told her about it. She told him to let me take this course. He repsected my mother because she was one of most activity parent at schools. Always fight against school board for me and got what I need. I was memeber of many clubs and I was president, vice president and treasurers. I was in drama class and did some plays at school and went to drama contest. All of them we made in final and won third place once. We did alot thanks to my parents and others too.

What are your challenges with the hearing community? My challenge was to let them know I can be their mail carrier and they need to learn to deal with me when they come to me and communicate with me. As for others, I think they did very well with deaf community because of them being aware of us more daily. Only I had problem with some of them staring at us when we sign to each other which it is my pet peeve from them stare at us all the time.

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language? Use paper and pen. sometime they will do make up sign with me.

What do you do for a living today? I am RCA and hope to be RC when this lady is retiring, dunno when she was supposed to retired last year but thanks to high cost of living, she stays work till when???

I know these questions might seem a bit odd but I want to know about a Deaf Person life. Thank You Again

Hope it helps u some.

 

[deafdyke]

How is/was your childhood?

Well, my parents treated me like a hearing kid. Which is good.....I am just like anyone else....I just can't hear, and I am also kind of young for my age. VERY luckily, they didn't go overboard with therapy 24/7 to the max, the way some parents do. They are also very libral and hippy......
Social issues however, were horrible. I grew up in a VERY whitebread suburb. I can remember not feeling like I fit in, and feeling like I was the only dhh/ disabled kid in the world.

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

When I was a little kid, our next door neighbor was Deaf, so I had exposure to her. However, when I was seven, we moved to a town that was REALLY whitebread. I remember thinking that I was the only dhh kid in the entire world.....I was picked on and harrassed to the extreme....like I still remember some boys sending me an obscene letter, and one time being out riding my bike, and hearing "you suck" from some guy who was driving around in a car.
Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

I really wish they'd been able to find out more about adaptive sports and clubs for kids with mild disablities. I felt like they were being encouraged to encourage me to totally assimulate into the hearing world. While I am glad I have some access to the hearing world, why did it have to come as a result of denying me access to something that while I didn't nessarily NEED it (the way other deafer and less orally skilled kids needed it) it might have really helped me a lot. I did parcipate in adaptive skiing in high school, and that was a lot of fun!
What are your challenges with the hearing community?

Although I have very good oral skills, I still have a "deaf voice"....Some hearies think b/c of that I am retarded. Younger and or more educated hearies tend to be more accepting then older and or kind of out of it (like the ones who are "Ummmm who's President Bush?") hearies.
How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?

What do you do for a living today?

On disablity, although I freelance write on civil rights issues. I want to be the next Micheal Moore or next Molly Ivins!

 

[LuciaDisturbed]

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?


I was born hearing but became deaf around 1 or 2 years of age after too many ear infections. My childhood was okay up til my mother died when I was almost 10, and then after that it was just hell. My mother allowed me to play with everyone in the neighborhood, I had lots of hearing friends in the area and just a few deafies from school. I mostly played with the hearing kids because I could relate to them more. I did have speech therapy when I was a child, I've gone to 2 different schools for the deaf, also have gone to two different oral program at two different local public schools as well, and also completely mainstreamed as well as participated in a DHH program at another local school. I guess I've done just about everything, except cued speech.

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

When my mother was alive, she always encouraged me to play with both deaf and hearing children, after her death I was no longer allowed to play with others at all, deaf or hearing. I wasn't even allowed to play with my siblings either!!! (my stepmother prohibited it!)

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

My mother did. She encouraged me in everything. She was a great advocate, we went to the deaf club, deaf bowling, she was one of the leaders in my girl scouts troop (all deaf). My dad and stepmother didn't let me do anything at all, they made ALL the decisions. I wasn't allowed to join anything at all or be involved with anything both at school and outside of school.

What are your challenges with the hearing community?

The communication barriers were the biggest challenges.

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?

Paper and pen. I can speak some, but I didn't speak that well when I was a kid. I've gotten better in the last few years, but it isn't that great. I was in speech therapy over a year ago to improve my speech and I was progressing really well, then I had to quit because I'd lost my apartment in Saint Cloud and had to move 1 1/2 hour away to a friend's father's house on a farm because I had nowhere else to stay and I would of been homeless. And due to me not having a car and no reliable transportation I had to stop the therapy. I was so pissed off because I was getting free speech therapy provided by my university! They usually charge you a little bit but they let me have it for free. I want to go back now but I live in Texas now (university is in Minnesota) so I dunno if UTSA or one of the other universities here in town will provide free speech therapy. I thought that since I hadn't been in speech therapy for over a year, I'd lost what I gained in therapy....nope, I still had it. A couple of weeks ago I was at this deaf gathering and there was one lady there who I knew who has a CI and signed a little...I was actually able to talk to her, supplemented by a few signs, and she understood me...that was a big deal for me!

What do you do for a living today?

I'm a Graphic Design major.

I know these questions might seem a bit odd but I want to know about a Deaf Person life. Thank You Again

 

[darkflare83]

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?


I was born hearing but became deaf around 1 or 2 years of age after too many ear infections. My childhood was okay up til my mother died when I was almost 10, and then after that it was just hell. My mother allowed me to play with everyone in the neighborhood, I had lots of hearing friends in the area and just a few deafies from school. I mostly played with the hearing kids because I could relate to them more. I did have speech therapy when I was a child, I've gone to 2 different schools for the deaf, also have gone to two different oral program at two different local public schools as well, and also completely mainstreamed as well as participated in a DHH program at another local school. I guess I've done just about everything, except cued speech.

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

When my mother was alive, she always encouraged me to play with both deaf and hearing children, after her death I was no longer allowed to play with others at all, deaf or hearing. I wasn't even allowed to play with my siblings either!!! (my stepmother prohibited it!)

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

My mother did. She encouraged me in everything. She was a great advocate, we went to the deaf club, deaf bowling, she was one of the leaders in my girl scouts troop (all deaf). My dad and stepmother didn't let me do anything at all, they made ALL the decisions. I wasn't allowed to join anything at all or be involved with anything both at school and outside of school.

What are your challenges with the hearing community?

The communication barriers were the biggest challenges.

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?

Paper and pen. I can speak some, but I didn't speak that well when I was a kid. I've gotten better in the last few years, but it isn't that great. I was in speech therapy over a year ago to improve my speech and I was progressing really well, then I had to quit because I'd lost my apartment in Saint Cloud and had to move 1 1/2 hour away to a friend's father's house on a farm because I had nowhere else to stay and I would of been homeless. And due to me not having a car and no reliable transportation I had to stop the therapy. I was so pissed off because I was getting free speech therapy provided by my university! They usually charge you a little bit but they let me have it for free. I want to go back now but I live in Texas now (university is in Minnesota) so I dunno if UTSA or one of the other universities here in town will provide free speech therapy. I thought that since I hadn't been in speech therapy for over a year, I'd lost what I gained in therapy....nope, I still had it. A couple of weeks ago I was at this deaf gathering and there was one lady there who I knew who has a CI and signed a little...I was actually able to talk to her, supplemented by a few signs, and she understood me...that was a big deal for me!

What do you do for a living today?

I'm a Graphic Design major.

I know these questions might seem a bit odd but I want to know about a Deaf Person life. Thank You Again

graphic design major? hmm can you make me an most flawless game? or an flawless 3d woman s body with authentic cum? dang i m horny now forgive me

 

[Nesmuth]

My questions are;

How is/was your childhood?
Almost fairytale, born with a silver spoon, lived high up on the face of San Gabriel Mountains, it was wonderful.

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?
Sure I co-founded the Leanderson society, group of rich kids living on the mountainside.

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?
Yes I was a cub scout, boy scout, and webelos, and was in the softball team, the mother green cross society day camp, diver, and fishing.

What are your challenges with the hearing community?
Combating hate in the deaf community

YouTube - Protest Mr. Ricky Taylor Coming To California

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?
I spoke to them and we wrote to each other.

What do you do for a living today?
I run the deaf center in Irvine.

Richard

 

[SxyPorkie]

My questions are;

How is/was your childhood?
Almost fairytale, born with a silver spoon, lived high up on the face of San Gabriel Mountains, it was wonderful.

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?
Sure I co-founded the Leanderson society, group of rich kids living on the mountainside.

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?
Yes I was a cub scout, boy scout, and webelos, and was in the softball team, the mother green cross society day camp, diver, and fishing.

What are your challenges with the hearing community?
Combating hate in the deaf community

YouTube - Protest Mr. Ricky Taylor Coming To California

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?
I spoke to them and we wrote to each other.

What do you do for a living today?
I run the deaf center in Irvine.

Richard

Thank you for answering these questions... It does helped me understanding you little better,,,,

 

[SxyPorkie]

My questions are;
How is/was your childhood?


I was born hearing but became deaf around 1 or 2 years of age after too many ear infections. My childhood was okay up til my mother died when I was almost 10, and then after that it was just hell. My mother allowed me to play with everyone in the neighborhood, I had lots of hearing friends in the area and just a few deafies from school. I mostly played with the hearing kids because I could relate to them more. I did have speech therapy when I was a child, I've gone to 2 different schools for the deaf, also have gone to two different oral program at two different local public schools as well, and also completely mainstreamed as well as participated in a DHH program at another local school. I guess I've done just about everything, except cued speech.

Where you allowed to play with others, deaf or hearing?

When my mother was alive, she always encouraged me to play with both deaf and hearing children, after her death I was no longer allowed to play with others at all, deaf or hearing. I wasn't even allowed to play with my siblings either!!! (my stepmother prohibited it!)

Do/Did your parents support you in your personal choices? ex. Did they encourage you to join sports or clubs?

My mother did. She encouraged me in everything. She was a great advocate, we went to the deaf club, deaf bowling, she was one of the leaders in my girl scouts troop (all deaf). My dad and stepmother didn't let me do anything at all, they made ALL the decisions. I wasn't allowed to join anything at all or be involved with anything both at school and outside of school.

What are your challenges with the hearing community?

The communication barriers were the biggest challenges.

How do you communicate with people who do not know any sign language?

Paper and pen. I can speak some, but I didn't speak that well when I was a kid. I've gotten better in the last few years, but it isn't that great. I was in speech therapy over a year ago to improve my speech and I was progressing really well, then I had to quit because I'd lost my apartment in Saint Cloud and had to move 1 1/2 hour away to a friend's father's house on a farm because I had nowhere else to stay and I would of been homeless. And due to me not having a car and no reliable transportation I had to stop the therapy. I was so pissed off because I was getting free speech therapy provided by my university! They usually charge you a little bit but they let me have it for free. I want to go back now but I live in Texas now (university is in Minnesota) so I dunno if UTSA or one of the other universities here in town will provide free speech therapy. I thought that since I hadn't been in speech therapy for over a year, I'd lost what I gained in therapy....nope, I still had it. A couple of weeks ago I was at this deaf gathering and there was one lady there who I knew who has a CI and signed a little...I was actually able to talk to her, supplemented by a few signs, and she understood me...that was a big deal for me!

What do you do for a living today?

I'm a Graphic Design major.

I know these questions might seem a bit odd but I want to know about a Deaf Person life. Thank You Again

Wow sounded like Cinderella.... Your step-mother was a real Bitch,,, i am sorry...

 

[bubblefart]

Questions

Hi I am a 41 year old married man that has no hearing in the left ear and wear a aid in the right and was looking into financal aid for the HOH or deaf and the states and pretty slack in the regards for assistance I have a job that requires me to answer a phone which is not a problem but when I go out to the MFG floor then it is a problem. I have recently got a ear infection in the right and now the hearing in the right is affected but doc says that there is junk in the ear and needs to be flushed. I was wondering if there are any groupes out there that help with the financal burden of losing your hearing I mean I have a house and if I lose my job I will lose my house and have no place to live. I am open to any helpful hints. Drop me a line at my E-mail which is bublefrt@hutchtel.net