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pinkster

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I have an older sister who is 20 years old (will be 21 in november.) She joined the army about 2 years ago, so I have not really known her since then. But then again, she moved out when I was 12, and she was 14 (1 week before i turned 13) We havent been close since. She got mad at me awhile ago for not writing to her when she was stationed in Kuwait.

Now the sad news, our birth mom just told me that she got married 2 weeks ago. I didnt even know. Now, I know its my fault but still. SHE GOT MARRIED. :( All I know is that she is in California and I have no contact with her. Sucks huh, but its all my fault anyways.

Just thought I'd get that off my chest. :/
 
pinkster said:
I have an older sister who is 20 years old (will be 21 in november.) She joined the army about 2 years ago, so I have not really known her since then. But then again, she moved out when I was 12, and she was 14 (1 week before i turned 13) We havent been close since. She got mad at me awhile ago for not writing to her when she was stationed in Kuwait.

Now the sad news, our birth mom just told me that she got married 2 weeks ago. I didnt even know. Now, I know its my fault but still. SHE GOT MARRIED. :( All I know is that she is in California and I have no contact with her. Sucks huh, but its all my fault anyways.

Just thought I'd get that off my chest. :/
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Don't blame yourself pinkster, perhap u can ask ur mom on how to contact her. Just keep trying...
 
Did she keep in touch with you in the past? If not, I don't see why it is only you that should be blamed on. It is both between you and your sister however it is never too late. Try to make a move. Maybe send her a card congratulating her for getting married. See what she has to say. Which part of California does she live.. I am curious but of course if you don't mind.
 
its never too late to extend the olive branch :dunno: Just write to her and congratulate her on her marriage and many years to come and how proud you are of her for serving in the army.
 
*huggies* Pinkster :(

i dont believe its YOUR fault -- u and ur sister should get back in touch and talk -- get her address or email addy and send off an email or snail mail letter to her
 
our birth mom just told me that she got married 2 weeks ago. I didnt even know. Now, I know its my fault but still. SHE GOT MARRIED. All I know is that she is in California and I have no contact with her. Sucks huh, but its all my fault anyways.


:confused: your birthmom lives in Colorado Springs? I am sorry I am lost.

By the way, it is not your fault. You have my hugs. I have a hard time dealing with my birth mom as well because she did not provide me enough information on health history and family tree. I have to track down my roots by using a paper trail (death notices). I have experienced having rejections from the people (birthmom, idiotic teachers, immature buddies, so on).

You will have contact with them somehow soon. :grouphug:
 
Hey, it's never too late to write her a letter. Why don't you take a few moments of your time and write her a letter congratulating her on her marriage. That might bring a smile on her face.
 
Thanks.

For those who said to try and keep in touch - I will. My birth mom, however, is going to california for 2 weeks and I cant ask her for my sister's address.

I dont think she lives in California. Thats just where her husband is from.

It still feels like my fault, even tho for like the first 6 months of her enlisting, I didnt know where she went. There was bootcamp in South Carolina, then job training in Virginia, then she was stationed in North Carolina. WTF! How am I supposed to keep track? She said she would get my mail either way, no matter where she went cause the Army always knows.

As for now, I'll try and see if i can send her a letter or something.

Oddball - when you came to see me in Colorado, that was my birth mom's house you were at. My parents have been divorced since i was 3. My mom stayed in Colorado (where I was born) and then my dad moved to Minnesota with my sister and I shortly thereafter. :)
 
hey pinkter u could ask for her e mail addy ... Thats how i keep in touch with my half brother as well as he is in army and he went to many different station but we keep in touch with each other via e mail which is best way to get hold of each other over the years. so I suggest u to do same thing ...
 
I agree with KW, and yes do that. and also snail mail too, personal touch brings it home too, that's good that u want to reaquintice with ur sister, and ITS NOT UR FAULT regardless!
 
knightwolf68 said:
hey pinkter u could ask for her e mail addy ... Thats how i keep in touch with my half brother as well as he is in army and he went to many different station but we keep in touch with each other via e mail which is best way to get hold of each other over the years. so I suggest u to do same thing ...
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I did. I wrote her twice but only heard back once.
 
aw pinkster :( *huggs* it's okay.. as long u can catch up all the news etc...

If your sister lives in california.. that's cool! My Brother lives in California at Dana Ponite, CA.. I tend to go there every 2 or 3 years to visit him :)
 
Life's too short, pinkster...I'm pretty sure that you'll do good for yourself and your sister by making the first move and contact her. See how she's doing and so forth. Families are very important, especially parents and siblings. Like I said, Life is too SHORT. Make the best out of it. :) :grouphug:
 
Send a postcard :)

It's how I keep in touch with family, and they really appreciate it. I haven't written to my relatives for years, until last year.... havent heard from some of them, but it is worth the correspondence I am having with my grandmother!

Better later than never......
 
pinkster said:
I did. I wrote her twice but only heard back once.
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DON'T STOP THERE ... KEEP WRITING BACK TO HER MANY AS MUCH AS U CAN ... MAYBE SHE WILL CHANGE HER HEART TO RESPOND BACK AS MUCH AS SHE CAN.. BUT IT WILL TAKE SOMETIMES TO GET THROUGH BECAUSE I HAVEN'T HEARD FROM MY STEP BROTHER LIKE ONE TO THREE WEEKS UNTIL HE FINALLY RESPOND BACK BECAUSE OF WEIRD HOURS FOR ARMY TO CHANGE THE SHIFTS OR EXCRISE ETC .. U KNOW HOW MILITARY IS .. JUST DON'T GIVE UP ... AND TELL HER HOW U FEEL .... MAYBE SHE WOULD ANSWER BACK TO U WITH EXPLAINATION OR APOLOGY ETC WHO KNOW WHERE IT WOULD END UP TO ...
 
pinkster said:
Thanks.

For those who said to try and keep in touch - I will. My birth mom, however, is going to california for 2 weeks and I cant ask her for my sister's address.

I dont think she lives in California. Thats just where her husband is from.

It still feels like my fault, even tho for like the first 6 months of her enlisting, I didnt know where she went. There was bootcamp in South Carolina, then job training in Virginia, then she was stationed in North Carolina. WTF! How am I supposed to keep track? She said she would get my mail either way, no matter where she went cause the Army always knows.

As for now, I'll try and see if i can send her a letter or something.

Oddball - when you came to see me in Colorado, that was my birth mom's house you were at. My parents have been divorced since i was 3. My mom stayed in Colorado (where I was born) and then my dad moved to Minnesota with my sister and I shortly thereafter. :)
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Ohhh, thanks for clarification. I am surprised that she moved to California. Keep in touch with them as possible. Like I said, it is not your fault. Hugs.
 
Oddball said:
Ohhh, thanks for clarification. I am surprised that she moved to California. Keep in touch with them as possible. Like I said, it is not your fault. Hugs.
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*hugs* thanks. I dont know whether Janna (my sister) moved TO california. Shes still got 2 years service left. Her husband grew up there i think so they are just visiting.
 
I know this thread is a few month old but just wanted to say something....


Pintster, don't feel bad...I'm very lousy with staying in touch more importantly what I always try to do with my friends and families is to be fully aware that they are in my thoughts and love.

hummm christmas is coming...good excuse to try to get in touch with the loved one....

Thought I'd share that...

Happy belated halloween its nov 1 at 4 40 am here now LOL
 
pinkster said:
I have an older sister who is 20 years old (will be 21 in november.) She joined the army about 2 years ago, so I have not really known her since then. But then again, she moved out when I was 12, and she was 14 (1 week before i turned 13) We havent been close since. She got mad at me awhile ago for not writing to her when she was stationed in Kuwait.

Now the sad news, our birth mom just told me that she got married 2 weeks ago. I didnt even know. Now, I know its my fault but still. SHE GOT MARRIED. :( All I know is that she is in California and I have no contact with her. Sucks huh, but its all my fault anyways.

Just thought I'd get that off my chest. :/
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I hardly think its all your fault. Communication & friendship is a 2 way street, if your willing to make the effort, and she's not, then its on her side. Seeing as how she didnt send you any notice, or invitation to attend her wedding, i dont see it as your fault.

I think Tool said it best:

Cold silence has a tendency to atrophy any
Sense of compassion
Between supposed lovers/brothers

(just substatute sisters where brothers is :wiggle: )
 
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