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I have been thinking on something recently and I need your input. I was out with my Deaf friend a while back at a local bar and this hearing guy he spoke to earlier in the night and was obviously acquainted with really pissed me off! The guy was fine at the beginning of the night but then we happened to be right beside him when he was drunk. I know drunk people can be stupid and belligerent and so on. Well he turned around to my friend who was signing with another hearing friend and started waiving his hands around. Mock signing!! Then he started saying blah blah blah in a mock deaf voice and was doing this in my friends face. My friend ignored him. I wanted to punch the guy in the mouth so bad; it took all I had not to. :pissed: And yes I realize he was drunk to almost passing out and most likely would not have done that sober but still it pissed me off! I am very easy going and like a duck I let pretty much everything that would anger most people roll off my back. HOWEVER, when it comes to my friends or family I am fiercely protective. :rl:
So I want to know, what do Deaf people feel about that situation? If your hearing friends hear some ass hole making fun or some hearing person moving their hands around like you are supposed to understand, (this woman did that to another deaf friend while she was talking) do you want your hearing friend to say something about it? Do you feel that the hearing person is overstepping their bounds and you are fully able to take care of yourself? Do you not even want to know it is happening or if you see it happening do you just chalk it up to yet another idiot hearing person who obviously has a sad life and cannot deal with their own insecurities so they feel the must make fun of some one to feel better about themselves? :ty: :ty:
 
I would mock that person back... if that person mock me, I'll mock that person back and let them know how it feel.
 
I would just say to be the better person and ignore it and not take it personal. Chances are everyone else who witnesses it is realizing how stupid and shallow the person making fun really is. Nothing even needs to be said to get back.
 
Southern.... I used to bar hopping and i had few big bouncers as friends.. Sometimes I reported to my bouncer.. he threw guys out of the bars... sometimes I threw a heavy ashtrays at them... then bouncer came to me i told him what they had done to me.. they got thrown out.... You should report to the bouncer....

I stopped going to the bars... i got old...
 
I would be tempted to go up and pop him one. But, he is an asshole. Everyone around him saw the same thing you did. I would address it by letting him know that he is being an asshole. Then leave it at that. And please, do not use the "he was drunk routine" he is an adult. He is accountable for his actions regardless of his sobriety. If he punched you in the face, would you hit him back or let it go because "he was drunk". An asshole is an asshole regardless of what he is drinking.
 
In my own opinion, when you're drunk to the point where you don't realize anything of what you're doing then.. That's where your true morals, viewpoints and standings on things all come out, because likely you're not restricted by any means and let loose anything you feel naturally confident to show, no matter how accidental it may be.

That friend definitely does not deserve a friend like that.
 
Lillys dad said:
I would be tempted to go up and pop him one. But, he is an asshole. Everyone around him saw the same thing you did. I would address it by letting him know that he is being an asshole. Then leave it at that. And please, do not use the "he was drunk routine" he is an adult. He is accountable for his actions regardless of his sobriety. If he punched you in the face, would you hit him back or let it go because "he was drunk". An asshole is an asshole regardless of what he is drinking.
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I agree about the drunk routine. I read somewhere that when drunk, your true feelings come out so obviously this guy have always wanted to make fun of deaf people and being sober, he wouldnt dare. With being drunk, he doesnt give a flying f*ck, so he lets his true feelings about deaf people come out. He is an asshole PERIOD!

As for being out with hearing friends and other people making fun of me, I usually act too fast for my hearing friends to take any action. I usually go up to the person and ask them what is their problem and if they are willing to talk it out, then I will explain nicely that it is very rude and disrespectful to do that. If the person refuses to listen and continues to make fun of deaf people, then I just walk away and move away from that person. Not worth getting into a fight about it if the person is not willing to listen.

I dont know how I would feel if my hearing friends took action to defend me. Never had that happen yet.

Besides, like Skyportie said, I dont go to bars that much these days. Getting old and prefer to do things with my husband and kids.
 
Easy, that guy needs a freaking life if he goes and makes fun of deaf people, and also he needs a life if he goes to the bar and gets drunk! By the way I'm hearing. Some people in this world need lives, and need to stop making fun of people, it's just low.
 
I have spent many, many hours dealing with drunks while working. I used to do "Perimtere securtiy" for extra $. Basically it was to maintain a police presence in front of a bar and to make sure everyone played nice. I always dealt with drunk idiots that thought they knew everything and everyone. They think they can do what they want, when they want with absolutely zero consequence for their actions, and they all "know their rights", gotta go.
 
Hey forgot to update on this. Sorry!!
So i was talking to my friend that this happened too about it a few weeks ago, maybe 2 weeks ago. Like i said he saw it and just ignored it. I told him my feelings and how i wanted to attack the bastard for doing that. He said oh lord whatever. Yeah it is annoying but the guy was ignorant. He is ignorant to begin with. If some one makes comments at me i laugh at them. They have made fools of themselves. They think they hurt me, or tried to. They don't. If some one wants to make an ass of themselves infront of everyone, let them. They have just hurt themselves worse than i could by hitting them.
But it still does not change my feelings of wanting to break a bottle off on this guy. Oh well it is well passed now.
 
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