How do you talk with your boy/girlfriend?

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Ok, I don't care if you live 3 hours or 15 hours away from your boy/girlfriend. I'm interested in how you talk to them. Let's me go first.

I used to date a woman who was hard of hearing and fluent in ASL/voice. We dated for 2 years. We hardly texted nor did we E mail much. We both had VP 200, but we hardly used it because I didn't like to sit down and use phone. We communicated just fine because we kept our AIM on Sidekick open. Therefore, she would AIM me any time. I would AIM her any time. It worked out fine. We communicated that way every day. We did see each other 2 or 3 times each month.

Now, I have a hearing girlfriend who is learning ASL. She doesn't have AIM on her phone---yet!! Ok with me, because we communicate via texts every day. She would AIM from computer 4 or 5 days a week, but she has an old lap top which she hates to use. For that reason, I don't keep my AIM open. I keep it open only when I think she will be online or when I make a call via siprelay.com only.

So my question is does it matter how you connect to your loved ones? How do you do it?
 
My children through Skype and text and my husband through text when he is not home.
 
THAT you connect is far more important than HOW (the device) you connect.

As long as you are able to be open, honest, caring, understanding and supportive of your partner (girl friend, boy friend, wife, husband, SO etc) using whichever modes of communication you use, then that's what really matters.

One thing to keep in mind - for some people it makes more financial sense to use primarily text/sms because they can get unlimited incoming & outgoing texting for $0 - $10/month on their phone, versus using IM (yahoo,AIM, gtalk etc) which often requires a data plan - if you use IM a lot (ie main form of communication, sending 10-40 messages back and forth a day) she might need a more expensive data plan ...

it's just one of those things worth looking into or at least considering.

In my case, with one of my friends I mostly IM on the computer to communicate - we'll casually chat over a matter of hours and IM works best for what we do.

My other friend I text, because we're mostly chatting via cell phones, not computers - and it's cheaper, easier & faster to text. For the way we communicate texting is better than leaving IM open on our phones (having the app open drains battery, uses data, versus text that doesn't drain battery at all and is free on my unlimited SMS/MMS plan)


... in each case (for me) it's what is easier/better for the other person.


I think it's important to find what works best for both people in the relationship and then work with that ... it doesn't work to have one person tell the other person "you have to do this because I prefer it, even if you don't". Flexibility is very important, and that often means using multiple communication methods - ie texting, IM, relay, email, video (even if they don't sign- just to see them, and then type back and forth).

HTH
 
Anij said:
THAT you connect is far more important than HOW (the device) you connect.

As long as you are able to be open, honest, caring, understanding and supportive of your partner (girl friend, boy friend, wife, husband, SO etc) using whichever modes of communication you use, then that's what really matters.

One thing to keep in mind - for some people it makes more financial sense to use primarily text/sms because they can get unlimited incoming & outgoing texting for $0 - $10/month on their phone, versus using IM (yahoo,AIM, gtalk etc) which often requires a data plan - if you use IM a lot (ie main form of communication, sending 10-40 messages back and forth a day) she might need a more expensive data plan ...

it's just one of those things worth looking into or at least considering.

In my case, with one of my friends I mostly IM on the computer to communicate - we'll casually chat over a matter of hours and IM works best for what we do.

My other friend I text, because we're mostly chatting via cell phones, not computers - and it's cheaper, easier & faster to text. For the way we communicate texting is better than leaving IM open on our phones (having the app open drains battery, uses data, versus text that doesn't drain battery at all and is free on my unlimited SMS/MMS plan)


... in each case (for me) it's what is easier/better for the other person.


I think it's important to find what works best for both people in the relationship and then work with that ... it doesn't work to have one person tell the other person "you have to do this because I prefer it, even if you don't". Flexibility is very important, and that often means using multiple communication methods - ie texting, IM, relay, email, video (even if they don't sign- just to see them, and then type back and forth).

HTH
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Interesting idea. I've been curious on whether a person can buy an internet browser plan, but skip on messenger? Or do you have to have messenger if you chose to have internet on your phone?
 
by texting one another,but when we are together since i lipread i can understands what she is saying but if i did not hear her clearly .she will write it down on paper
 
dereksbicycles said:
Ok, I don't care if you live 3 hours or 15 hours away from your boy/girlfriend. I'm interested in how you talk to them. Let's me go first.

I used to date a woman who was hard of hearing and fluent in ASL/voice. We dated for 2 years. We hardly texted nor did we E mail much. We both had VP 200, but we hardly used it because I didn't like to sit down and use phone. We communicated just fine because we kept our AIM on Sidekick open. Therefore, she would AIM me any time. I would AIM her any time. It worked out fine. We communicated that way every day. We did see each other 2 or 3 times each month.

Now, I have a hearing girlfriend who is learning ASL. She doesn't have AIM on her phone---yet!! Ok with me, because we communicate via texts every day. She would AIM from computer 4 or 5 days a week, but she has an old lap top which she hates to use. For that reason, I don't keep my AIM open. I keep it open only when I think she will be online or when I make a call via siprelay.com only.

So my question is does it matter how you connect to your loved ones? How do you do it?
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hi friend what is kinds of phone is a vp200?i am for nigeria and i have not see this kinds of product for the deaf here,is still only available in america
 
enomakos said:
by texting one another,but when we are together since i lipread i can understands what she is saying but if i did not hear her clearly .she will write it down on paper
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You flat out don't understand the subject of the post.
 
post is about communication.. with your significant other.. Taken litteraly its about how you speak to them ..
Taken as a whole it's about what type of communication you have between you not just how you accomplish it but what is the basis of communication
I believe
 
Well, I slap him on the back of the head and say..."what's the matter? You deaf or something?...I've called you 10 times."....
 
rockin'robin said:
Well, I slap him on the back of the head and say..."what's the matter? You deaf or something?...I've called you 10 times."....
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lol. I might have said that too my fiance a few times, especially when he's on the computer. I love the weird look he gives me.

Other than that I think we do pretty good. He's learning sign with me ( we made it like a competition) and I voice good enough for most to understand.
 
when i wasnt single i would text him all the time and i would call him even though its more like im just yelling at him. lol but he understood me.
 
dereksbicycles said:
So my question is does it matter how you connect to your loved ones? How do you do it?
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We typically shout back and forth across the apartment to each other until she gets mad at me for being unable to hear her without her shouting loudly or being in direct vision with each other. She always whines about me being too loud, too, though she seems to be the only one who thinks that.

How we communicate is less important than what we communicate, though.
 
we text everyday, we vp to one another everyday/night, we e-mail everyday/night, we see one another in person everyday for more than 5 years now.
 
i always talk my boyfriend online yahoo all the times sometimes he not online i left him messages..
 
I already commuication to msn and text i am pretty sound, She is busy, I was serious relationship! she love me forever almost 3 yrs not sure I don't remember
 
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