How do i get over my fear of getting hurt in relationships?

[Mintee]

okay... well i kind of miss being in love and i hope i will get to be with that "mr.right" sometime soon..but...

after some thinking and being honest with myself, i realized why i still don't have a boyfriend. i'm afraid of getting emotionally hurt and i have major trust issues. i see so many men cheating on their girlfriends and being unfaithful..it makes me even more scared because getting cheated on is one of my biggest fears. i have some scars on my heart and i don't want to go down that route of getting screwed over again. i know that there are great men out there, but how do i get over this?

 

[naisho]

Don't date exclusively to online, I think it is harder to trust someone over the internet than it is to trust someone in reality.

On the internet, you don't know what they do and their browsing habits are if it reflects a cheater.
But if you are with someone in reality you can get the vibes or see them cheating or flirting or watching other women.

 

[sallylou]

Take your time before you commit to a new exclusive relationship. When someone trustworthy comes along, it will be worth the risk.

 

[DeafCaroline]

'tis better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

the question you need to ask yourself is "do I want to be alone or do I want to take a chance and fall in love?"

Do some guys cheat? Yes. But the primary reason for cheating (especially in long term relationships) is first and foremost: the guys were no longer getting what they needed - which is sex and attention.

Whenever women who are in long term relationships tell me that they've lost interest in sex and that resulted in them also failing to give their husbands loving attention, I would always think to myself "their chances of being cheated upon have increased greatly."

 

[Mintee]

Don't date exclusively to online, I think it is harder to trust someone over the internet than it is to trust someone in reality.

On the internet, you don't know what they do and their browsing habits are if it reflects a cheater.
But if you are with someone in reality you can get the vibes or see them cheating or flirting or watching other women.

i agree with you... online relationships =iffy. i'd rather meet the guy in person

 

[Mintee]

'tis better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

the question you need to ask yourself is "do I want to be alone or do I want to take a chance and fall in love?"

Do some guys cheat? Yes. But the primary reason for cheating (especially in long term relationships) is first and foremost: the guys were no longer getting what they needed - which is sex and attention.

Whenever women who are in long term relationships tell me that they've lost interest in sex and that resulted in them also failing to give their husbands loving attention, I would always think to myself "their chances of being cheated upon have increased greatly."

thanks that's true... i definitely don't want to be alone and i'm willing to take risks when it comes to finding love.

i know that's always the reason people cheat. when i'm in a relationship, i always do my best to make the guy happy & satisfied.

 

[dereksbicycles]

Basically, it won't matter if you are single or not. If you've a low self esteem, you'll be more likely be hurt in any relationships.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

'tis better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

the question you need to ask yourself is "do I want to be alone or do I want to take a chance and fall in love?"

Do some guys cheat? Yes. But the primary reason for cheating (especially in long term relationships) is first and foremost: the guys were no longer getting what they needed - which is sex and attention.

Whenever women who are in long term relationships tell me that they've lost interest in sex and that resulted in them also failing to give their husbands loving attention, I would always think to myself "their chances of being cheated upon have increased greatly."

I know women that gave their husband all the sex an attention they wanted and they still cheated on their wife. I think is wrong put all the blame onto the women. There are some men and women that just do not care who they hurt.