Okay so on the drug thing. Every drug causes you to act differently and everyone acts differently with each drug. Back 7 years ago I used to use drugs. Only on the weekends when I would go to clubs and party. I used to use ecstasy every weekend all weekend. No one could tell during the week what I did on the weekend. Most people that use ecstasy love to dance and talk. Not me. I was quiet and sat in one place normally. I used “K” (kedamine although I know the spelling is wrong). Okay so let me list them all. X, K, GHB, acid, pot, crystal meth, cocaine, I think that is all of them I used to use. A lot of times I would start with X then smoke pot then do some K then some more X then start with G then more K and end the night with crystal meth. All that in one night. How these drugs affect you really depends on the person. I have never heard of a person overdosing on cocaine and cocaine doesn’t make you angry. Paranoid yes but not angry. I looked and acted different with each drug. With K most people like to sit. I liked to dance and walk around and be active. Complete opposite from the majority of people that used it. X your eyes have a tendency to be wide open, but pot your eyes are more almost closed. On coke most people’s jaw moves around like they are chewing gum even if they aren’t. If they are then they really look crazy. I used all these drugs and did not become addicted to any of them but I don’t have an addictive personality. I don’t hang out with the people I did all those years ago and I don’t do those drugs anymore either.
As far as your friend. I am a sweet patient kind hearted person that lets so much stuff roll off my back. I can be bitchy sometimes but for the most part I am not. When I become really angry people are shocked. There are times that I cannot hold all those feeling down anymore and I am tired of being nice to people who treat me like shit. When that happens my entire personality gets turned on it’s head and then I become the opposite of who I normally am for a while. Your friend may just be fed up with people taking him for granted, taking advantage of his good nature, and using him but not giving anything in return. Speaking from experience it is very tiring being there for everyone but when you need something people that you have helped scatter like cockroaches in the light. People like us get worn out by this and we break. Most of us come back pretty soon but there are some that once this has happened the refuse to go back to that nice person that showed care and compassion for other people, but never got that in return. It really hurts. Some people like me refuse to be hurt repeatedly and as a form of defense decide to hurt people before they have a chance to be hurt and decide to be the ones controlling the situations. What is funny, we are acting to other people exactly how those people treat us. They think we have gone crazy…. No I am just treating you how you treat me. Doesn’t feel good does it?
I am not saying you have treated your friend poorly but jumping to drugs is not necessarily the right answer, although it may be. And if you approach it like that and it isn’t then it may cause the situation to be worse. Just talk to him. Don’t mention the drug thing, but say that you are concerned about his change in behavior. That you love and care for him and the person he used to be is not around anymore and you wonder where your great friend has gone and if he will return. The thing you have to be prepared for, if it isn’t drugs, he may have consciously decided to change his personality. If that is the case, the person you used to know may be gone for ever.
