Thank you for the replies, everyone. I will look at all the reading material you have suggested. I love to read, so it will be enjoyable for me.
In regard to my future husband's aunt being HOH, I guess I should have said she's partially Deaf? I'm not quite sure how to appropriately explain. She is fluent in spoken English, and I can have a conversation with her just fine without using ASL, I just have to talk very loud or make sure I'm standing in front of her. Even when she's around people who do not know ASL, she does it while she's talking. And you can hear in her diction when she speaks that she's almost completely Deaf. I have not asked her about it because I don't know her well and I am very shy and do not want to seem rude. I do not know if she has a CI or not, but I would assume she doesn't. Her son and daughter (one is just starting collage and the other is a sophomore in college) know ASL, but I have never seen them use it. I only know that because my fiancee told me she raised them with verbal English and ASL at the same time.
About making friends with those who are Deaf: I would LOVE to!!! But do you think it would be kind of offensive for me to want to start a friendship with someone just because they're Deaf? I understand that some people are proud to be Deaf, however, if someone wanted to be friends with me just because I'm American or have black hair, I wouldn't want to be friends with them. That would make me think they are being shallow. I would want someone to be my friend because they think I am smart or nice or fun to be around, you know? So while I would absolutely love love love to be more engaged in the Deaf community and have friends who are Deaf, I am not sure how to go about it. (Anyone in SE North America want to be my friend? Haha.) I only have one Deaf friend, and she lives far away, so we only get to talk via facebook or email.
I have lots of other questions. Is it okay if I ask them here?
