Hearing people who wish they were Deaf

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When I was younger, there were times when I wish I was hearing. I used to wish I was hearing so that I can easily hear and communicate without worrying that I might miss something out of the conversation. I used to wish I was hearing so I can hear people talk in the other room. I used to wish I was hearing so I can get hired easily. I used to wish I was hearing so I can feel "normal" just like the hearing folks. Those are some of the reasons why I used to feel that way, wishing to be a hearing person so everything would be easier for me.

Now, I wonder if there are hearing people who wish they were deaf. I don't mean those that play around wishing they were deaf so they don't have to listen to arguments and stuff. I'm talking about one that actually wishes he/she was deaf because they are so much in love with the deaf community, or whatever.

Ever wonder about that?
 
Oh, yeah... I wish I was hearin' so I could hear the Mother's Nature's songs in the forests, ocean, bird's songs, and everything. The most of all I would love to hear Mother's Nature's Echos where the Love sprang!
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I had a friend once who said to me she wishes she was deaf like me cuz of the noises that she had to put up with early in the morning on weekend the constructions noises or the phone ringing or the clock alarm going off or the nagging from people she wishes that there are silences that (I hear) I told her sometimes I wishes to hear one day in life what it sounds like the ocean, the music, voices, laughter's, crying, etc. I know it would be a great experiences for me.
 
my dad actually talked to me this morning and said, i wished i was like you, u know Deaf, i said why? i may never go thru the headaches and the heartaches i went thru last weekend and i could have worked things out when everyone felt clamer ( last wekeend was hell if u all wondering) and we both cried this mroning he felt sad abt his own daughter being kicked out.... consquences are verbal abusing is byebye there's the door!

anyway... he just wanted to have peace and i told him he does, in his heart with his family and one day when things look better the rest of the family will be ALOT better too.
 
Oh yes!

I wish I could hear so I could get any job I wanted or dream of....Also, I wish I can hear the noises from outside such as a dog barking miles away, car/trucks honking , birds singing , water splashing or waterfalls sounds, hearing my children talking, laughing and crying....

And Most of all to hear my children say ' I love you Mom '....*eyes watery*... :ily:
 
^Angel^ said:
And Most of all to hear my children say ' I love you Mom '....*eyes watery*... :ily:
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Your children can always tell you that they love you through their hands, their eyes, and their actions. Deafness doesn’t take that away from you. Your inability to hear does not in any way diminish your capability to receive or express love. Only people who cannot receive or express love are diminished.
 
yea -- my mom has mentioned she has wished shes deaf so she can actually :zzz: thru a thunderstorm!!! hahaha
 
Fly Free said:
yea -- my mom has mentioned she has wished shes deaf so she can actually :zzz: thru a thunderstorm!!! hahaha
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:laugh2: That was funny! LOL But, cool !
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Levonian said:
Your children can always tell you that they love you through their hands, their eyes, and their actions. Deafness doesn’t take that away from you. Your inability to hear does not in any way diminish your capability to receive or express love. Only people who cannot receive or express love are diminished.
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but, I want to hear their cute voices!....
 
Have u thought about getting C.I. Angel? I remmy Miss America Heather Whitestone had C.I. done because she wanted to hear her children calling "Mommy".

Personally I wouldn't go for C.I. but it can be done at the last resort.
 
Well, I think that the girl that I was talking about in my reply to your other thread last week falls into that category. I think that she’s so enamored with Deaf culture that she tells people that she is d/Deaf because she secretly wants to be. Her hearing loss can be corrected by a simple outpatient procedure that only costs a few thousand dollars. But every time I ask her about it, she says "oh—maybe one of these days". I’ve also met a few HOH people who gravitated towards Deaf culture in their teenage years who wished that they had no residual hearing and had been raised signing. This is easy to understand—when you’re stuck between two groups of people, not quite fitting in either, it is natural to want to share the characteristics of the group that rejects you the least.

I’m profoundly deaf in my right ear, but I have so much residual hearing in my left ear that I’m essentially a hearing person. When I first became exposed to Deaf culture about 3 years ago, I at first developed such a strong attraction to it that I occasionally found the idea of being profoundly deaf appealing. Perhaps I’m a prime example of a person who got his hands on a little too much Harlan Lane a little too soon. But I still stand by this—in many ways I still consider Deaf people to be somewhat superior to hearing people, and I believe that deafness can be an enhancement to a person’s state of being, rather than a diminishment. But I also realize that although Deafness is by no means a disability, it can be a colossal pain in the ass sometimes. For example, since I can’t localize sound, if I’m in a room with more than one telephone and one of them rings, I have to quickly feel both phones to see which one is vibrating. It is very sobering to take this one step further and imagine myself being unable to even hear the phone in the first place.

Maybe in a strange way I’m the most fortunate of all because I can partially exist in both worlds. Deaf people sometimes act cold and distant towards me, but not very often. And I assume that when it does happen it’s because my ASL is unsophisticated. Certainly nobody on this message board has ever told me or bbnt or Matty to get lost (at least, not because we’re hearing ;) ). And of course I occasionally get grief from hearing people when I don’t catch what they’re saying because my left ear is pointed away from them or there’s some sort of loud background noise. But who gives a shit what they think. Maybe someday when I become proficient in ASL I can somehow use my strange uniqueness to the benefit of both hearing and Deaf people.
 
tekkmortal said:
Have u thought about getting C.I. Angel? I remmy Miss America Heather Whitestone had C.I. done because she wanted to hear her children calling "Mommy".

Personally I wouldn't go for C.I. but it can be done at the last resort.
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Actually, I honestly went to the Cleveland Clinic after my first child was born....I wanted to see about the C.I.....What happened was I took tests for the 3rd time and it turn out that I lost most of my hearing since I finished high school....C.I. wouldn't work for me as what the doctors had said.....

So , I accept that decision and moved on...

I am happy for who I am.....I did not meant it that way.....I was just implying ' I wish I could hear my children say I love you Mommy '.... that's all :D
 
I think you should get a second opinion and maybe even a third. My friend got a CI at the age of 43 and she’s doing great with it. I’ve heard about this—the medical yahoos think that if a post-lingually deafened person receives a CI, that that person’s brain won’t be able to figure out how to process the information, or something like that. I’ll go see what I can dig up on Google for you. If our resident expert deafdyke would be so kind as to spare $.02 worth of brain tissue on the subject, I’d like to hear from her.
 
i normally sometimes wish i could hear.. much easier to communicate with the hearing co-workers, better understanding my boss command while working hard.. he shouts like a staff sergant what to do this, now, later.. anyhow.. more likely wish to hear the sounds underwater :D and my son say "DADA" "DADDY" "DAD" "POP" "I LOVE YOU" :D
 
DeafSCUBA98 said:
i normally sometimes wish i could hear.. much easier to communicate with the hearing co-workers, better understanding my boss command while working hard.. he shouts like a staff sergant what to do this, now, later.. anyhow.. more likely wish to hear the sounds underwater :D and my son say "DADA" "DADDY" "DAD" "POP" "I LOVE YOU" :D
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Awwww I know u do.. *sniff*
 
Her hearing loss can be corrected by a simple outpatient procedure that only costs a few thousand dollars.
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On the other hand, maybe she doesn't want to go through the heartbreak if the proceedure doesn't work.
Maybe she thinks that people should learn to live with their disabilties rather then always searching for an cure.
I’ve also met a few HOH people who gravitated towards Deaf culture in their teenage years who wished that they had no residual hearing and had been raised signing.
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That would be me...I am glad that I can hear and talk and interact with the larger world, but I sometimes envy the kids of the parents who choose to raise their kids ASL only.
the medical yahoos think that if a post-lingually deafened person receives a CI, that that person’s brain won’t be able to figure out how to process the information
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Don't you mean prelingally deafened person?
Posties and late-deafened people tend to do the best with the CI as they have very good auditory memory. Perilingally deafened people (people who were deafened on the cusp of learning language) do well too, as well as kids who had at least a year's worth of listening (b/c their brain knows how to process sound like a hearing person does) However classic prelings and congentials have the hardest time learning how to listen and talk. Cheri, did you hear well with hearing aids? They are now implanting people who have relatively good comprehension with hearing aids. (60% with aids) I would also get a couple more opinons....then again, maybe you're not qualifed at all for CI. It's relatively hard to qualifiy for CI and not every deaf kid or person qualifes for CI.
 
i used to pray that one day i would wake up hearing and not need hearing aids anymore...........
 
Of course I wish I was born hearing, to hear everything, and not feeling left out in hearing world.

Out of curious, I asked my children question to see if they wish born deaf? They yelling at me NOOOOOOO WAAAYYYYY. They are grateful to be HEARING!! But my 10 yrs old daughter said "But I would like to be deaf for just ONE day to know what it is like being deaf".
 
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