girlfriend left me for deaf girl

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My (hoh) girlfriend and I broke up after 10months because we had been having a hard time connecting recently and 10 days later she was in a relationship with a deaf girl that she has known since they were 13 and went to school with. I know that they have had a connection for a long time and that she and I were having some relationship problems but it is very hard to watch the woman I am in love with fall in love with someone else. I know she always said she didn't care that I was hearing but I can also see the ease in which she and her new girlfriend can communicate. They share a language and a culture that I will never be a part of, they can express things to each other that leave me completely lost.
One of her friends is getting married to a hearing boy that she met at Gaulladet and they have an amaIng relationship so I know its possible but I think until I am much more fluent I will just stay friends and not date again.
 
Communication is always the key to a successful relationship....no matter if ur deaf or hearing. So no matter how hard it is, wish them luck and happiness. Ur turn will surely come around, finding someone that you can relate to 100%.
We all go thru trials and errors, the key is not to give up!....So hang in there, give urself a little time to grieve over the breakup, then get back out there....
 
wrong team

Not to be harsh but seems she wanted to play on the other team.
 
Robin has given you sound advice. I know that break up's are hard. It took me a long time to get over my divorce because I was madly in love with my wife, but somethings are just not meant to be. I hope your healing process will be quick and as painless as possible. I also wish you the best of luck in finding another partner in life. There is someone out there for you and you will find them when you most least expect it :)
 
Yes I am doing my best to move on and still support her and also hoping to take this time to become more fluent in ASL.

DDU- I am female as well.
 
same team

Ah so. Same team. I think it could have been a deaf thing. No matter how well you accept her hearing impairment you are still hearing. I am stone deaf but only date hearing women since I think hearing. Hearing is where I am most comfortable even if communication isn't always the best.
Take it as a good experience and remember the good from it
 
Yes, I think it's communication. I have lost some more hearing and am beginning to think of myself as deaf rather than HoH. Without my aids I can't go outside, so I am learning Auslan to balance it out. You may think you're deaf, but you may seem hearing to others. That's not a fault, just a difference. (hope that makes sense).
 
Yes she is only hard of hearing but the most culturally Deaf person that I have ever met. I never wanted it to be a barrier but it was inevitable I suppose. When I see her and her new girlfriend talking and laughing and its so easy and fast and carefree... I can't hold that against her. I tried my best but its just not the same.
 
It shouldn't really be an issue for hearing vs. hoh/Deaf I'm deaf and my girlfriend is hearing and we get a great! I have my days where I get really frustrated with my hearing or lack there of shes there for me and is patient. I don't think you should get discouraged about it and let it get you down. Of course you're going to be upset but look on the bright side of things and don't let this experience put you off from dating for too long. Do you still talk to her? If you do maybe take a break from the friendship for awhile. It sometimes can be hard to be friends with someone you cared about so much and esp if they are with someone else already and you are around them often. That's something I wouldn't be able to deal with...I know my gf will pipe in at some point on here after she stalks my posts lol

And BTW welcome to AD :)
 
when love someone, the person need to be totally motive in learn sign language if you're willing be in love with someone so much.
 
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