Getting in contact with old Classmates via FB

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I have been corresponding with over 50 of my former classmates from high school lately through FB. It has been fun and interesting but a strange part of me is starting to revert to my old self...the "hearing" self. I dont share with them about the new me..the culturally Deaf parf of me that I discovered 10 years after graduating. I find myself talking about the good old days as if everything was great with me but not once, I didnt even think about bringing up my issues I had trying to fit in by being as "hearing" as I can with them. I feel that they wouldnt understand.

My best friend who is deaf who also graduated with me is also feeling the same way as I do. She said she feels herself denying her deafness when corresponding with our former classmates.

It is soo weird! I can talk about Deaf culture, ASL and blah blah here but with them, I do not even bring it up cuz it is like they represent or a part of my old life.

I have been having a lot of dreams about my old days in high school but instead of dreaming about the bad parts, I dream about the good parts. Also, thru written English, I feel like I am getting to know them like I never was able to before thru spoken English. I am discovering that there were so many things I didnt know back in high school.. like two of my classmates who were popular and everything were actually first cousins. I thought they were just good friends.

Damn...I have mixed feeling about this whole thing. My best friend says the same too...
 
IslandBreeze07 said:
Hell, it's FUN! Enjoy it.
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Yea, it is but there is the issue that I am finding out about things I didnt know in high school that they all knew and it kinda bothers me. I shouldnt dwell on it. Oh well. Makes me kinda sad in a way cuz my best friend and I were really seriously out of the loop big time back then.
 
Its a growing experience. It does hurt to realize how much you missed, but think about everything you have gained in the last 10 years. You are way ahead of the game, because you have a wider perspective than most.
 
jillio said:
Its a growing experience. It does hurt to realize how much you missed, but think about everything you have gained in the last 10 years. You are way ahead of the game, because you have a wider perspective than most.
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:werd: everybody changes... mostly a good change... your old enemy can be your new friend :cool2:
 
Jiro's right, everything changes in a good way. I have the same effect as you with my primary school (elementary peers) when some of them found me via FB after 10 years of high school and whatnot.
 
we ought to thank to facebook genius who live nearby to my local.

most of them found me via facebook from colleges, hs, middle school AND elementary! What a shocking, indeed. im so glad to have that facebook. What a innovate, yes?
 
NorCal20 said:
we ought to thank to facebook genius who live nearby to my local.

most of them found me via facebook from colleges, hs, middle school AND elementary! What a shocking, indeed. im so glad to have that facebook. What a innovate, yes?
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Innovation. I-N-N-O-V-A-T-I-O-N :cool2:
 
Jiro said:
:werd: everybody changes... mostly a good change... your old enemy can be your new friend :cool2:
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The funny thing is that I had no enemies in high school. On the surface, I was popular and well-liked and so many of my former classmates tell me that they are excited to see me on FB...if only I knew back then. Strange...
 
I felt same way. I just added and some old hearing friends added me and it was very strange that take me back old days that I was very well-liked with hearing people in middle and high school. I never learned ASL until I was 18 years old and left to deaf school for a 2 years. They don't know that part but one of my old classmate do know ASL that she learned from college so it was nice to know they don't care but they do know I am deaf at that time I was in school with them. They were nice but some are making fun of me that now they are my friends. How strange! Some guys apologized me what they did back in school. Of course I forgive them.
 
shel90 said:
The funny thing is that I had no enemies in high school. On the surface, I was popular and well-liked and so many of my former classmates tell me that they are excited to see me on FB...if only I knew back then. Strange...
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welcome to internet life! :cool2: some people tell me that i'm an internet hermit (due to lack of social networking) but I limit myself when it comes to social networking because of privacy reason. It's so easy to gather personal info on you for identity theft purpose :mad2:
 
Actually, I know exactly what you are talking about. One time in Las Vegas an old friend from my "hearing" high school contacted me via FB and asked me to hang out with a group of them who were in town for a few days. So I went ...and it was so awkward because I was so used to signing and not speaking exclusively. Needless to say, I did enjoy catching up with them and all of that...but the awkwardness was there. It really made me stop and realize how much I've changed since that period of my life. But at the same time, it was interesting to hear their perspectives of who I was to them back then.

I'm a completely different person with my hearing friends than I am with my deaf friends. It is almost as if I have a split personality or something.
 
deafbajagal, that is pretty normal but changing times are different. I found some old friends from my college, when I graduated grade 12 there three years ago on FB.
 
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