Reba said:
We also run into each other at other "outside" social events. I have to be mindful of which "hat" I am wearing at the time, and keep my roles clearly defined.
I always remember something one of my teachers said. She had interpreted a doctor's appointment for a client, and then the next day or so ran into that client at a party. So she used her standard greeting: "Hi, how are you! I haven't seen you in a while, what's up?" Basically letting the person know that it was as if the interpreter was "gone" and nothing regarding what had taken place privately at the appointment would be referred to. I do that all the time now but then my clients bring it up themselves.
Tousi said:
Ummm, this "helping" mode of which you speak is also known as "mothering", isn't it?
In the history of interpreting, you learn it as the time period when the "helping mode" was in vogue. (To be fair, this was in the 60s when the interpreter profession was brand new, and most interpreters were family or friends of deaf people, so those professional boundaries hadn't been established yet.) But I'm sure people who still encounter interpreters like this call it "mothering," and I wouldn't stand for it either.
Etoile said:
I can recall one specific experience where I broke the CoE and felt bad about it, but I had to do it for my own sanity...So my wife couldn't help with that stuff, but I was feeling worried and sick over the experience, and I had to tell somebody about it.
I've talked to experienced interpreters about this and it came up in the ITP. I believe there is a feeling that interpreters do have to deal with so much upsetting stuff that they do need ONE person they can fully unload on without worrying about confidentiality. It's not considered a breach of ethics; it's considered mental health for interpreters. It certainly helps if that person is not involved in the deaf community so they won't encounter any of the people discussed, and of course they MUST understand confidentiality themselves.
For example, I unload on my boyfriend all the time, but he will never meet any of the people I talk about, and he also knows I am rabid about confidentiality and he knows that he is the exception that saves my sanity. As you say, there are times when you do HAVE to tell someone about it and the confidentiality issue will come up if you go to another interpreter or a supervisor. I wouldn't worry about that one unless you mentioned first and last names, addresses, social security numbers, etc.