Family members being sorry that you're deaf?

[pixiestix]

I am mad at my neice. She thinks I lack social skills and communication skills. She even sent me a link to a book on deaf and language, forgot the title. I looked at it and I don't even fit the citerias (spell?). I do not lack social and communication skills at all.

I am always frustrated at the holiday gatherings bec I often feel left out being the only deaf.

She said she is so sorry that I am deaf and that she can sympathize that I feel left out.

She has no freaking idea what it is like to be deaf, at all and I don't think she has ever met any other deaf people before. She doesn't even sign, only finger spelling.

UGH!

I don't need anybody's sympathies for my deafness.
This was all started when I did a christmas survey on facebook and I said that I miss the times when it was just me and my parents when I was growing up and she said that I am selfish. I am not! I just miss it.. is that so wrong? When it was just me and my parents there were no problems, no feeling left out, etc. I grew up mainly the only child with my brother living in other state living with my grandma bec he was too much for my parents to handle. He has moved back here and the family grew.

 

[posts from hell]

You're not the only one.

 

[Bottesini]

A lot of people's emotions come out strongly at the holiday times. It can be a really bad time of year.

Since I have Blackberry and Netbook to take along, I just talk to people here or on FB if I feel bored or left out.

 

[posts from hell]

I have a personal interpreter at my gatherings. You should do the same.

Just thought of that.

 

[Bottesini]

I have a personal interpreter at my gatherings. You should do the same.

Just thought of that.

Don't think most of us have that much money.

 

[pixiestix]

A lot of people's emotions come out strongly at the holiday times. It can be a really bad time of year.

Since I have Blackberry and Netbook to take along, I just talk to people here or on FB if I feel bored or left out.

Yeah I do get on computer or my sidekick, but then I get yelled at "is being on computer all you ever do??" UGH!

 

[shel90]

I am looking forward to my deaf friends' gathering on Thanksgiving Eve where everyone will be signing than my hubby's family gathering on Thanksgiving where nobody but my hubby will be signing. I know how you feel.

 

[posts from hell]

Yeah I do get on computer or my sidekick, but then I get yelled at "is being on computer all you ever do??" UGH!

Tell them to provide an interpreter. They'll get the point.

 

[posts from hell]

Don't think most of us have that much money.

With families it is pretty easy, everyone chips in $10-20 and you have 1-2 interpreters all day long.

 

[Bottesini]

Yeah I do get on computer or my sidekick, but then I get yelled at "is being on computer all you ever do??" UGH!

I may have missed something. Are you a child? First person who yelled at me for such would be picking themselves up off the floor.

But then I did have a rough childhood and it has made me mean.

 

[CJB]

My computer comes with me everywhere now because if people aren't willing to have the patience to communicate with me then I will go into another room and go on my computer.

 

[Bottesini]

My computer comes with me everywhere now because if people aren't willing to have the patience to communicate with me then I will go into another room and go on my computer.

I am just staying in the same room, then I have the lights and motion and anyone who wants to talk to me can.

 

[Jiro]

With families it is pretty easy, everyone chips in $10-20 and you have 1-2 interpreters all day long.

and also - offer free thanksgiving dinner all day

 

[Glenn]

I have a personal interpreter at my gatherings. You should do the same.

Just thought of that.

How do you afford that? Everyone pays?

 

[Loghead]

My dad is the only one that has ever expressed sorrow for me being HOH. It came across as rather pathetic.

 

[TWA]

Since my family is all back in California, I'm spending Thanksgiving at my friend's house with her family. She is an interpreter and her three kids all know how to sign and are used to being around deaf people. Even though my sign comprehension isn't good enough that I can use an interpreter yet, it will be nice to be at a gathering where everyone is accommodating and knows that deafness is no big deal. I'm looking forward to it.

 

[posts from hell]

How do you afford that? Everyone pays?

Nah, I pay. Usually the going rate is $60 an hour here.

 

[SuperChris]

You not alone , i have large hearing family. No one deaf family member. When go meet family and face to face is hard communication for me. But i keep touch with them msn,facebook and email.

 

[FxAvatar]

You not alone , i have large hearing family. No one deaf family member. When go meet family and face to face is hard communication for me. But i keep touch with them msn,facebook and email.

I am close to this myself. The difference is that most of my family are HoH, but I am the only one that will admit to it. Growing up I thought it was normal for my family to be yelling to each other (not in anger, but just loud) whenever they all get together, I look back at is as funny now. The thing is, they all do it, or pretend to hear one another and not understand a dam thing. I am the first that I know of to even start to learn sign after my hearing has started to go out as well.
I plan to use these holidays as a test, I am going to sign a few things to see if anyone is a "secret signer".. IF anyone else knows sign, they have never shown it.. they just yell a bit louder.

 

[pink-studs]

I am always frustrated at the holiday gatherings bec I often feel left out being the only deaf.

She said she is so sorry that I am deaf and that she can sympathize that I feel left out.

She has no freaking idea what it is like to be deaf, at all and I don't think she has ever met any other deaf people before. She doesn't even sign, only finger spelling.

UGH!

I don't need anybody's sympathies for my deafness.
This was all started when I did a christmas survey on facebook and I said that I miss the times when it was just me and my parents when I was growing up and she said that I am selfish. I am not! I just miss it.. is that so wrong? When it was just me and my parents there were no problems, no feeling left out, etc.

i have the same proplem! i often wonder what other deaf people do at famly/big gatherings where its jus u n a whole bunch of hearing ppl dat dun sign or understand sign language.

actually i jus got deafen 2years nearly 3 ago (jan 2010 will b starting on 4th year)... i did not know any sign language or have any deaf friend b4 so yeah... it was n still is... bloody hard. im really enjoying learning sign language now but it is a struggle for me as i dun have any deaf or HOH friends who i can turn to for help in my homework.

wat really ticks me off is the same reason dat ticked u off as well pixie...

i dun get why ppl automatically "feel sorry" for deaf ppl..its not like theyre comepletely qualified as a disable!yeah they cant hear... so wat???? they can still feel u know gzzzz im really glad n thankful that i got to experience both hearing world n deaf world n my life, and if i had a choice i would choose the deaf life....