Evil Mother nor Evil Father,

C

Cheri

Prayers for my dad.
Premium Member
Joined
Nov 24, 2003
Messages
22,755
Reaction score
9
Have you had a parent that doesn't want anything to do with you, put your children in the middle of the mess?


For the past 35 years, I've referred to my mom as an evil mother, Why? because she never accept the fact that I'm deaf for a long time and doesn't know how to deal with it, Recently she had informed my hearing sister that she would not buy any presents for my children for Christmas, nor even want us over their house for Christmas. If she doesn't love me, Fine! But, that doesn't give her any right to put my children in the middle of it. I just stood there and cried for hours. Why does she have to be so evil? I just felt like shutting her out of my life completely. I gave her so many chances, forgave her so many times that you wouldn't even believe. I can only handle so much, why I even bothered trying so hard to win her love? It's worthless! :tears:
 
oh man! how is evil ur mother did that!!!! i cant believe that.. ur mother is very WRONG and MEAN!!! she dont know how give a love for u and ur kids... *smh* but but u are wonderful mother to kids, show ur kids that u love them so much!!! u are not same as ur mother.. thanks god!!! so u are different than ur mom.. i am happy that u are soo sweet, wonderful mother!! i am serious abt this..

also u can ingore ur mom, let her will be sowwy a$$ someday that she is very wrong and mean.. sigh.. just not worry abt her... u can STAND UP and u CAN DO THAT!!! I mean u can be BESTEST MOTHER THAN UR MOM!! TRUST ME!!!

everyone, am i right???


:hug: tight! BELIEVE ME! ;)
 
umm Cheri and ^Angel^ are deaf? am i correct? if I am right so that mean other hearing sister eh? ..

Sound like your mom is scoorage (spelling) wont give the christmas to your kids oh man!..unless you are very good mother to your kids than your mom
 
Cheri, I have no idea what to tell you about what you should do in your family relationships, and I wish I could be more helpful. But I've read something else today from a friend at a different forum, who has also had problems with their parents playing "politics" with Christmas gifts. I think it's a very mean-spirited thing to do, and please always remember that it has nothing to do with how YOU or your children are, but everything to do with the people who make these kinds of choices. :(
 
DeafMonkey said:
umm Cheri and ^Angel^ are deaf? am i correct? if I am right so that mean other hearing sister eh?
Click to expand...

I have one more sister who is hearing, from the same mother. I also have a step brother and step sister who are from my step mother. All together in the whole family of sisters and brothers I have are 4. ;) Sorry for the confusing.
 
Cheri said:
I have one more sister who is hearing, from the same mother. I also have a step brother and step sister who are from my step mother. All together in the whole family of sisters and brothers I have are 4. ;) Sorry for the confusing.
Click to expand...


Now I got it lol .. ^Angel^ same as like you are deaf ? hmm lol

(sorry my mind is tired and hopt so not make confuse or repeat ) hehe
 
Rose Immortal said:
Cheri, I have no idea what to tell you about what you should do in your family relationships, and I wish I could be more helpful. But I've read something else today from a friend at a different forum, who has also had problems with their parents playing "politics" with Christmas gifts. I think it's a very mean-spirited thing to do, and please always remember that it has nothing to do with how YOU or your children are, but everything to do with the people who make these kinds of choices. :(
Click to expand...


I understand what you saying, but my mother treats my hearing sister like a princess, and even her granddaughters too. My mom never treat Angel and I equally with my other sister. It's always a completion. When she brought Christmas gifts to the children, I noticed that my nieces has a lot more and a lot nicer gifts than my children and my other nephews. I know she doing this because, she blames us for being her daughters, When she wants perfect children, not children who are disability even deaf.
 
DeafMonkey said:
Now I got it lol .. ^Angel^ same as like you are deaf ? hmm lol
Click to expand...


Yes, Only two of us are deaf in the entire family. It's no problem about the misunderstanding. :thumb:
 
Cheri: That just tells me what a spiritually poor person she is, if she can't look at her child and love her. :(
 
I'm sorry to hear this and how u had to deal with ur evil mom.... that really sucks..... biggest :hug: to cheri and ^angel^ you guys are GREAT people.. don't let anyone stop you for who you guys are. :)
 
Your parents have no right to treat you like that. You're deaf... but you're still her daughter, the same daughter as every other daughter. I wish people weren't so ashamed of having deaf kids. Jeez!
 
Man sorry to hear what she has put you and your sister through. I dont know what to say but even if it was my sister and I would argue with her.
 
I was thinking about this thread last night, and if I were one of your hearing siblings, I'd probably do something like this: I'd talk with my spouse, if I had one, and the two of us would send back any gifts we received from your parents unopened. The message would be very clear: Mess with one of us, mess with us all. I wouldn't do this to any children I might have, of course, in order to set an example that involving children in such matters is wrong. But then I would contribute (along with any other siblings I could get involved) to buy your families and children additional gifts to make up for what the parents didn't get.

I really hope your siblings step up to the plate.
 
That's exactly my plan Rose Immortal, IF my real mom send us gifts later on in the furture, I will send them all back to her unopened, that way she knows that it hurt what she had done not only to me but my children as well...They don't deserves to be put in the middle and it's Christmas, it should be all about forgiving and loving each others, not about what happened or what made her feel the needed to do that etc....

I didn't want to post in this thread is because I don't want to hurt her feelings but it seems that everything effect her even when she thinks we don't thank her enough which that isn't true, sometimes I don't understand why or what made her do those things, I honestly don't think my real mom is evil, but she may have some emotional problems that making her do those things, yet at the same time, I've forgave her so many times and blow it off by pretending it doesn't hurt my feelings, but it does...

I believe later on when her husband isn't around anymore, she will regret what she had done to hurt us by pushing us ALL away....

All I can do is pray for her and let God take care of it....
 
I am very sorry about your family situation. :(

I will pray for your whole family, especially for this Christmas time. :hug:
 
First thing it's so terrible to see your own mother to do that, it's not worth to welcome her back in your life unless it's a worth reason to have her back.

I have a 5 year old daughter, Joranna She is so beautiful to me and i wouldn't never want to anything happen to Joranna, Her mother leave us and it's so much hurtful but I do see my ex wife for our kid's needs. My family cherish all of me and Joranna.

My wife's family is just out of control and her brothers in jail and i don't like her brothers and i will never let them to near my daughter.
 
Cheri,

It brokes my heart about ur mother. It is shame on her. It is not ur fault and ^Angel^'s being deaf. Put ur chin up. U should be thankful that ur children & ur family love you.

:hug:
 
I just hope your hearing siblings will be ready to stand with you two, and show that they're better than this kind of nasty treatment.
 
Cheri and Angel,

Don't worry about your mother has done to you ordeal hell things giving to you and your children.. isn't worth.. Let her go.. don't visit her for good.... One day, your mother will thinking of you and being gulity what she did to you terrible her past done damaged!

Totally ain't going any goods!
Same thing as my Adopt father who treat me hell... because I'm Deaf-slave and gave me shit my life.. I"m glad out of picture and ain't see him since when I was 16 yrs old and recevied the xmas gifts so totally cheap.. I did send him back everything xmas gifts and wrote to my adopt Dad, "You're cheap!" you treated my adopt sister and brother so GOOD".. Good Bye.. signature my name.. I have not heard from him since..
I'm glad out of picture..

My adopt sister told me, My Adopt Dad was gulity and wanted to see us again.. I told her.. Hell no way, He knew that I'm disowed him permantly! what he done to me horrible abused and slave me.

Which the best of you guys, let your mother GO... useless... you have wonderful sister, and beautiful children and bonded your twin sister and includes Road Runner part of your life as family!

*wink* :ily:
 
When was ur last time to see ur mom? It depends how often u both see each other if she doesn't see u as much as often, she's probably happy w/ someone else & have her own new children more than ur own dad. Maybe, ur mom know what ur hearing sis wants for xmas that's why she bought her more closer to her and probably she lives with her more often than they know u.

Is ur hearing sis lived with ur mom what about telephone do they call often to each other?

Some mother cannot afford to buy another more presents from first family to second family. Every parent has a different story what she wants to expect her new life w/ hope, love n' all so forth.

Your father is the one responsibility to take care of u and ur sis that's all he can do to give u the best gifts. Next time, ask ur dad what you want a gift card or check instead of gift from ur step mom. That's what I think all about life.
 
Back
Top