Does sex really stop after marriage?

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Does sex really stop after marriage?

Only in about 100 percent of cases. In the other zero or so percent, sex is usually brought on by a certain level of familiarity between partners, something that sex therapist Norman Fertel likens to the sensation of "putting on an old slipper." (Note: When referring to your spouse as an "old slipper," be sure to specify that she is a really nice old slipper, like the kind you'd get at a high-end department store.) There are three basic reasons for the cessation of sex that accompanies marriage: the newness wears off, the intrusions of everyday life take precedence, and spouses get a good, long glimpse of the real person they've married (Liza, I'm sorry). However, new evidence seems to indicate that sex after marriage is not only possible but occasionally increases. Therapists claim the means to this increase is open (yawn) communication (snore) about each other's needs (zzzzz). Otherwise, you risk having even less sex than you're already not having. Rachlin suggests occasionally doing it even when not in the mood, since "many people don't realize that the less sex they have, the less sex they want." On the bright side: Soon they won't even miss it.
 
I don't like the word, "partner". Sound stupid.
Why not "couple"?


Is this why Husbands cheat or Wives cheat?
 
There's nothing to panic if there is less sex after marriage. That happens when life got busy with responsibilities and duties to do (especially when the children are involved). As long as the married couple get along famously (yeah, communication is important, of course) they will always find time to have fun behind their bedroom door. ;)
 
Toonces said:
There's nothing to panic if there is less sex after marriage. That happens when life got busy with responsibilities and duties to do (especially when the children are involved). As long as the married couple get along famously (yeah, communication is important, of course) they will always find time to have fun behind their bedroom door. ;)
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I secondly their statement correctly....
 
Toonces said:
There's nothing to panic if there is less sex after marriage. That happens when life got busy with responsibilities and duties to do (especially when the children are involved). As long as the married couple get along famously (yeah, communication is important, of course) they will always find time to have fun behind their bedroom door. ;)
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That is why it is extremely important that when one marry, it is for friendship and good communication because sex drives wanes. If one marrys for lust, the marriage will never last.
 
Meg said:
because sex drives wanes.
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I disagree. But it will be offtopic so I couldn't say any more than that.

Meg said:
If one marrys for lust, the marriage will never last.
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I agree with you. Beside money and lust, marriage usually stay longer if marry for other reasons like you said, friendship and communication.
 
ROTFLMAO
Guess you'll have to find out, eh, DoVIP?

It's why it is important to make each other feel loved and accepted unconditionally... trust is a big must! Don't take each other for granted. :ily:
 
Magatsu said:
I disagree. But it will be offtopic so I couldn't say any more than that.
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Hmmm you dont agree that sex drive will wane when people marry? Sex drive goes up and down. It takes 2 people to work extremely hard to keep it kindled but unfortunately kids, jobs, and other stresses does take a toll on it.
 
Meg said:
Hmmm you dont agree that sex drive will wane when people marry? Sex drive goes up and down. It takes 2 people to work extremely hard to keep it kindled but unfortunately kids, jobs, and other stresses does take a toll on it.
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I will take it up thru AIM to discuss with you if you don't mind? ;)
 
Meg said:
That is why it is extremely important that when one marry, it is for friendship and good communication because sex drives wanes. If one marrys for lust, the marriage will never last.
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i totally agree.. cuz i see so many ppl rush into marriage due to lusts and later realizing it was a major mistake after realizing their issues over the lusts... sheesh!
 
zesty said:
meggiegirl!! PSSSST!! :laugh2:
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Don't take it any wrong way than what you have to! -_-

zesty, you and I had this discussion before. It is related to diet thingy :P
 
Magatsu said:
Don't take it any wrong! -_-

zesty, you and I had this discussion before. It is related to diet thingy :P
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hey hey.. don't take this in the wrong way either, dear! .. this a joke btwn me and meggie.. she knows about it.. hehe..

what discussion? pls refresh my memory?? :confused: pls email me or IM me..
 
heh okay.

Sure, I will im you about it or maybe we can create a chatroom and discuss?
 
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