Do you weight in who your significant other interact with before dating?

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When you're interested in someone, do you pay attention to whom the person interacts with?

For example, maybe your friend has no work. He/she chose to interact with a lot of people who have no work. Does it make you wonder if this person is ever interested in getting work?

Do you ask questions such as who you're friends with or what you tend to do with your friends? Do your friends get in a lot of trouble or abuse alcohol/drugs?

Or do you just keep it between you and me?
 
dereksbicycles said:
When you're interested in someone, do you pay attention to whom the person interacts with?

For example, maybe your friend has no work. He/she chose to interact with a lot of people who have no work. Does it make you wonder if this person is ever interested in getting work?

Do you ask questions such as who you're friends with or what you tend to do with your friends? Do your friends get in a lot of trouble or abuse alcohol/drugs?

Or do you just keep it between you and me?
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Little confused with ur title....should be "weigh" not "weight"...??
 
Oh, sure. If I didn't like my husband's friends or environment (drugs, etc.) I think I would not have married him. We were friends for several months before we even started dating, so I really got to know what he was about even before dating.
 
Sure, it's your life who will go out with the person everyday that leads to a social life.
 
Its an interesting question. Itll depend on the individual honestly. I didnt like some of my partners friends because theyre airheads and shallow into fashion etc while Im into football and dressing comfortable it would make it harder for me to relate to them as far as im concerned she can have her friends while I can have my football/poker buddies. We need some separate time. There are some friends that we both like and hang out with together. It makes her more interesting and mysterious that keeps me entertained and on my toes.

But im glad both of us agree on our friends being in the postive zone that is mature and adult about handling life situations and isnt backstabbing gossipy drama queens.
 
My husband liked that I worked with a lot of male friends and was super outgoing. I also liked the people he worked with and hung out with. We did a lot of fun things when we were dating. If he just sat home and played video games or I just sat home and watched tv all the time then yes I think things would have been different when we were dating. I enjoyed his world and he enjoyed mine. It worked, we have been married almost 27 years. I think it is important to pick someone out that will enhance your life, get you to try new things etc.
 
I definitely pay attention to who they interact with.

I don't ask if they get into trouble... that's kind of a odd or childish question... :hmm:

I do ask if they or their friends do drugs... of any kind. I will not date someone ( anyone ) who does drugs of any kind... ( Marijuana included ) for any reason... No exceptions. I can lose my job and medical certifications for that... no thanks. I will not go anywhere around it for any reason. If you do it, that's your thing... but I can not be around it and risk all of those years in school for nothing. I might as well take a check and flush it down the toilet... Oh, and a few years of my life if I'm going to go and do that.

Their education is important to me, though. I do value someone who is educated... I enjoy intelligent meaningful conversations.
 
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