Deaf parents communication issues with hearing child

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My son is 2.5 years old, and he has deaf parents (us), so he's taking advantage of us, and will hit anyone and laugh. The teacher thinks he has behaviorial issues.

I don't know, maybe he does, maybe he doesn't. We're going to take him to a specialist that knows how to deal with deaf parents and hearing child, and we're going to try to get him to communicate with us. He knows very little sign (if any)

We are both guilty of sticking our son to the TV and let him educate him. Maybe we should cut off the violent stuff such as Spongebob and put him in one of those cutesy fartsy shows on Sprout or Nick Jr. My parents has emphasized us on taking the TV away from him and moving to another room where he has more space to play.

What do you think? Any advice or suggestions are welcome.

We live in Colorado.
 
He 2.5 years old - sounds like he's acting like he has the terrible twos - and it's a bit much for teachers to say he has behavioural issues when he's only 2 and a half!

Enforce consequences for unwanted behaviour. I was a single mother of two sons - I have zero tolerance for bad behaviour and have very high standards for good manners so instead of making "empty threats" - I enforce the consequences like taking something away or making them sit in time out for a few minutes after I explain why they had to go to time out. If they kept leaving time out before the time was up, I would, without saying a single word, keep dragging them back to time out until they sat for the full time out session. the length of timeouts matched their age - 2 minutes for 2 year olds, 3 minutes for 3 year olds, etc. After time out, i would explain again why they were in time out then give them a hug and a kiss and move on.

But honestly, the most effective technique is to ENFORCE CONSEQUENCES. Do not threaten to take something away then fail to follow up or they will never take you seriously or respect you.

p.s. I babysat someone recently who is almost 2. His mother had a bad habit of using the tv as his sole source of entertainment and he acted up a lot out of boredom and resentment that he had to stay on the couch for hours. I cut down his tv time to one hour a day and played with him alot - took him outside for hours every day and ran around with him as much as possible - they need that physical activity. the more I played with him, the more independent he became to the point where he would easily keep himself occupied while I was making meals.
 
Hawkeye-X said:
My son is 2.5 years old, and he has deaf parents (us), so he's taking advantage of us, and will hit anyone and laugh. The teacher thinks he has behaviorial issues.

I don't know, maybe he does, maybe he doesn't. We're going to take him to a specialist that knows how to deal with deaf parents and hearing child, and we're going to try to get him to communicate with us. He knows very little sign (if any)

We are both guilty of sticking our son to the TV and let him educate him. Maybe we should cut off the violent stuff such as Spongebob and put him in one of those cutesy fartsy shows on Sprout or Nick Jr. My parents has emphasized us on taking the TV away from him and moving to another room where he has more space to play.

What do you think? Any advice or suggestions are welcome.

We live in Colorado.
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Start interacting with your child instead of sticking him in front of the TV. He is getting your attention (all he really wants) by behaving badly because it's the only thing that works.
 
1. Sign sign sign. Unless you oral, his first language ought be sign. He should learn sign naturally. You not sign?

2. Turn tv off. Play groups, playgrounds, friends...these much better source learning.
 
What everyone else said. He is going through a rough age and it is a great time to set your expectations now instead of later when he is older. That way it wont be as hard later.

*FOLLOW THROUGH* with giving the consequences..never never give in.
 
DeafCaroline said:
He 2.5 years old - sounds like he's acting like he has the terrible twos - and it's a bit much for teachers to say he has behavioural issues when he's only 2 and a half!

Enforce consequences for unwanted behaviour. I was a single mother of two sons - I have zero tolerance for bad behaviour and have very high standards for good manners so instead of making "empty threats" - I enforce the consequences like taking something away or making them sit in time out for a few minutes after I explain why they had to go to time out. If they kept leaving time out before the time was up, I would, without saying a single word, keep dragging them back to time out until they sat for the full time out session. the length of timeouts matched their age - 2 minutes for 2 year olds, 3 minutes for 3 year olds, etc. After time out, i would explain again why they were in time out then give them a hug and a kiss and move on.

But honestly, the most effective technique is to ENFORCE CONSEQUENCES. Do not threaten to take something away then fail to follow up or they will never take you seriously or respect you.

p.s. I babysat someone recently who is almost 2. His mother had a bad habit of using the tv as his sole source of entertainment and he acted up a lot out of boredom and resentment that he had to stay on the couch for hours. I cut down his tv time to one hour a day and played with him alot - took him outside for hours every day and ran around with him as much as possible - they need that physical activity. the more I played with him, the more independent he became to the point where he would easily keep himself occupied while I was making meals.
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I agree he sound like at the terrible two sage. I agree he should not be stuck in front of a TV all day. I had my daughter play outside with me or with my friend baby that was the same age . The twos are a hard time and I would not any teacher putting a label on my 2.5 years old baby as having an attitude! I would made sure this is not written in your child school records.
 
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