Deadbeat boyfriends or girlfriends or partner

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I wonder have any of you experinced having a "deadbeat" boyfriend or girlfriend or partner?

I have...


Most happen when I had long distance relationships or short term relationships.

Deadbeat means: Won't be there for you, never return call, stood you up, doesn't care about you.. like Deadbeat father won't be there for kids.. U know same idea..
 
Oh Yeah, My boys have a deadbeat dads. Who doesn't pay a penny in child support always cares about his drinking and about himself.


Cannot say about a deadbeat boyfriend, because I usual dumped a guy if he was not worth my time, such as cheating and lies.
 
cheating and lies counts...

Cheri said:
Oh Yeah, My boys have a deadbeat dads. Who doesn't pay a penny in child support always cares about his drinking and about himself.


Cannot say about a deadbeat boyfriend, because I usual dumped a guy if he was not worth my time, such as cheating and lies.
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There's a great book called "He is Not That Into You." I read it recently and it gave valuable tips on paying attention to red flags.

I've had my share of deadbeat dates but I'm good about cutting them off apruptly. No need to waste time begging for scraps of attention from them.
 
Meg said:
There's a great book called "He is Not That Into You." I read it recently and it gave valuable tips on paying attention to red flags.

I've had my share of deadbeat dates but I'm good about cutting them off apruptly. No need to waste time begging for scraps of attention from them.
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Meg -- who wrote the book q
 
I loaned the book to my girlfriend so can't remember the author's name. But its been on bestseller list for past few months. I'm sure you can find it at Borders or Barnes n Noble.
 
Sounds like you've had a bunch of those yourself.

I've never really had anyone like that. Whew!
 
I had an ex boyfriend who at first lavished me with attention, love and all...until about 6 months of dating -- he abruptedly stopped being attentive towards me and I found out that he had been seeing another woman behind my back which really hurt me, so I dropped him like a hot potato.
Funny thing was that the moment I dropped him - he suddenly came back to me and begged for me to take him back which I refused because I knew he'd do it again. No way was I going to fall for it again and end up hurt again.
 
PurpleRose71 said:
I had an ex boyfriend who at first lavished me with attention, love and all...until about 6 months of dating -- he abruptedly stopped being attentive towards me and I found out that he had been seeing another woman behind my back which really hurt me, so I dropped him like a hot potato.
Funny thing was that the moment I dropped him - he suddenly came back to me and begged for me to take him back which I refused because I knew he'd do it again. No way was I going to fall for it again and end up hurt again.
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That is what I dont get about these players .........they thrive only on conquering process itself, not actually the person theyre pursuing :ugh: Dont they realize that feelings are involved?
 
oh yea i dont blame yall for that.. same here.. i am sicko of my ex treated me shyt.. i dont like it.. it hurted me ofc! BUT i moved on anyway! :D
 
TweetyBird said:
oh yea i dont blame yall for that.. same here.. i am sicko of my ex treated me shyt.. i dont like it.. it hurted me ofc! BUT i moved on anyway! :D
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You go girl for moving on! These kind of toxic people dont deserve your time/heart anyway! :)

I just cannot fathom WHY some people are like that out - been there and that.
 
the authors of the book that meg mentioned are greg behrendt and liz tuccillo.. it is a great book!! :thumb: i have this book.. this was introduced on oprah's show recently as well!! ill tell you that this book is worth it if you are dating someone locally.. but if you are dating someone from long distance.. it is kind of hard to follow.. if you read the book.. you will understand what i mean...
 
Meg said:
That is what I dont get about these players .........they thrive only on conquering process itself, not actually the person theyre pursuing :ugh: Dont they realize that feelings are involved?
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thats right meggie girl!! we both have been through so much lately! :hug:
 
Meg said:
You go girl for moving on! These kind of toxic people dont deserve your time/heart anyway! :)

I just cannot fathom WHY some people are like that out - been there and that.
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*amen* u are right!!!! i agree with u.. i dont uddy why some ppl are like that out there... i guess they didnt get OVER! also BIG JERK! I GUESS.....:dunno:
 
Meg said:
You go girl for moving on! These kind of toxic people dont deserve your time/heart anyway! :)

I just cannot fathom WHY some people are like that out - been there and that.
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i just learned the new expression "TOXIC" people from meggie.. i love her wordings!! way to go meggie girl!!! :thumb:
she gets frustrated with me cos i am too soft with everyone.. :ugh: it is just me.. oh well!!
 
dated my ex bf for 3 yrs he dumped me by writing me a letter. I said what the f**k?! He can not approach in person to tell in my face, I knew he was an loser.

I started to date my friend (my DH now) who was also his roommate about 6 months later after the breakup, my ex did not like this at all, he started to STALK me,,,I eventually got him in act, made report and got him some couseling help. He is happily married over in California and please stay there on west coast so I can live with my life on east coast!!!!! :-o
 
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