Curious about single mothers.

Are you single mother or used to be?

  • Yes, I'm a single mother.

    Votes: 7 70.0%

  • I used to be a single mother.

    Votes: 3 30.0%
  • Total voters
    10
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WhisperHorse

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Are you single mother or used to be?

Since, I'm a single mother right here and have been single since November 2007 when my baby's father ran out of my life and consider that I'm cheating on him with my roommate(my ex, you guys know him since he's member of this website) which I didn't cheat on him. So, some questions for you that Im curious...

How do you feel to become single mother?

Do you let their father to be in their life?

How can you handle your kids during there's no father in their lifes?

Does it make you feel sad or lousy or anything?

I know there's to omany questions to ask but I just can't think of more since Im in horrible mood right now. =( but you can add more up to share and helping so I could know and understand. Thank you.
 
What about single dad? It's not fair!

Perhaps, the vote should saying "single parent"
 
I am with my DHB since our son was born. I felt I was a single mom because I did all the work. That's because I breastfed my son, bathed (DHB did give him bath few times), fed him, etc. I do miss having newborn in my arm. :(

Wish you best of luck! I cannot answer the questions you are asking. I hope others will answer. :)
 
PowerON said:
What about single dad? It's not fair!

Perhaps, the vote should saying "single parent"
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*sighs* Well... Im very sorry since Im a single mother, I just want to be sharing with single mothers or used to be single mothers. I noticed that there's many single mothers more than single fathers in my life. I could be wrong but, my mom and two sisters used to be single mothers. Now they have their own man in their lifes. I just wanted to seeing how alldeaf single mothers(used to be also) are doing and could share their informations with me.

Sorry again.
 
LakeTahoe said:
I am with my DHB since our son was born. I felt I was a single mom because I did all the work. That's because I breastfed my son, bathed (DHB did give him bath few times), fed him, etc. I do miss having newborn in my arm. :(

Wish you best of luck! I cannot answer the questions you are asking. I hope others will answer. :)
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I understand, thanks. :hug:
 
Yes, I am a single mother since my daughter was born last year 2007 and she be one year old next week. It was scary being single mother but I had to stay strong for the sake of my child. Once she was born, I was no longer afraid of being a single mother. I am stronger because of my child. Her father is very abusive to me and he won't face his responbilities. So I don't allow him in my life or my daughter s life since I have full coustody of my child. He have not seen her since she was born. I have done everything for my child. I just glad he is out of my life because he nothing but a monster. But I am greatful to have my daughter in my life. My daughter mean the world to me.
 
I used to be Single Mother until I met my husband. Who we shared 7 years marriage (7 years itching) yesterday!

altho.. its hard work on both single mother and marriage couple because most of times Mother/Wife does everything in their household THAT IS I SAID MOST! not all! smile.......

Altho, My sister and her ex-husband are both single parents. my sister has youngest daughter, the ex has 2 middle children (sis has 5 girls, ex has 3 real daughters with her to concerned to him that her middle children are his oldest blood flesh daughters who lives with him now and my sister has 2 older girls who are 21 and 23 :) )

Girls choiced to go to dad's.. the youngest spend back and forth on who should get custody of her, dad realized shes lot of work to deal with since she has pdds and epiplsey.. It's not easy!

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PowerOn do you feel better now I sure hope you do and should. because single father can post here that is IF THEY ARE member of AD too :)


Wendy
 
Been a single mom for 8 years - it certainly wasnt easy - but I think I did a good job of raising my two beautiful girls :) There is no "manual" for single parents whether it be a single dad or single mom so I always had to learn by mistakes or experiences.

Best thing is NEVER be so hard on yourself or doubt yourself whether you made right or wrong choices. You do what you can and your heart knows that you are doing your best. That is what kept me going all these years :) Sometimes I feel I could have done better but again like I mentioned earlier, there is no manual and there is no co-parent to support or help me out so I rely on my inner strength and friends/family to help me out whenever I needed.
 
WhisperHorse said:
*sighs* Well... Im very sorry since Im a single mother, I just want to be sharing with single mothers or used to be single mothers. I noticed that there's many single mothers more than single fathers in my life. I could be wrong but, my mom and two sisters used to be single mothers. Now they have their own man in their lifes. I just wanted to seeing how alldeaf single mothers(used to be also) are doing and could share their informations with me.

Sorry again.
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Well, it's true that it's most common there are single mother. It's rare to see single dad to take care if mother isn't in condition to take care. I know one deaf here in alldeaf isn't quality to be mother and leave up to the father to take care.
 
awww Poweron your right. I totally realized now we havent heard from this person.. Must be very busy guy to do anything :)



Anyway...
I couldn't vote because I was BOTH of used to be single mom and am single mom even tho I still am married to him, i do the most! work, bills, kids, feed, shopping, everything you name it all... yes a very worn out jobs FROM BOTH my work and my family :)
 
I'm a single mother. I hate that because I feel that a child should have both a father and a mother. Their father is somewhat involved in their lives, but not consistently. Being a single mom is very hard work and sometimes I feel so overwhelmed with doing all the work. I get scared that I have this huge responsibility on my shoulders...and I'm the only one who can provide for the children. But- it is worth it because I'm happier without him. I am strong, and I know I can do it. My girls have a good roof over their heads, have good food on the table, and they are healthy, happy, and well-behaved. So, I can pat myself on the back and remember that when times are tough.
 
deafbajagal said:
I'm a single mother. I hate that because I feel that a child should have both a father and a mother. Their father is somewhat involved in their lives, but not consistently. Being a single mom is very hard work and sometimes I feel so overwhelmed with doing all the work. I get scared that I have this huge responsibility on my shoulders...and I'm the only one who can provide for the children. But- it is worth it because I'm happier without him. I am strong, and I know I can do it. My girls have a good roof over their heads, have good food on the table, and they are healthy, happy, and well-behaved. So, I can pat myself on the back and remember that when times are tough.
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You go girl!!!!!!!!!!!! That is what I do to myself constantly too :) HUGS
 
Well, my situation is kinda weird...after my ex and I split, my daughter lived with him full time for 2 years so I had her during the summers and weekends. I wouldnt count those years as me being the sole parent but I had to pay child support while being a college student. After I got a full time job, she moved in with me and saw her dad ever other weekend. Yea, it was tought but not too bad cuz I roomed with two of my good friends who helped me a lot. I will always be forever grateful for them for letting me room with them and give each other the support since they had 2 kids themselves and both parents worked 2 jobs each so I helped them out as well. I have been blessed and then my hubby came along.

I cant say that I really experienced being on my own with my daughter where everything fell on my shoulders. My ex hubby was and still is a very devoted father to her.

Yes, I felt guilty that my daughter wouldnt be raised by both of us in the same household but in the long run, she came to love my current hubby and my ex's girlfriend as a major part of her life. I have been lucky and I wont take it for granted cuz I saw how much my mom gave up so much of her life raising my brother and I being a single mom.
 
I am a single mother of 13 years and still going, I've cooked every meal, changed every diaper, took them to every doctor appointments, every dentist appointments, deal with every temper tantrums, been there for every injuries, helping them with homework, clean every room in the house, do laundry.

Being a single mom makes it more difficult having to be the only one responsible, You don't get much sleep, nor much time for yourself when a baby is born in the world, I've been there, did it all. Being a single mom is a hard job, almost a second career, but I made it through, I've survived it all. I feel like a hero to both of my sons, because I've done it all by myself, and I've never gave up on them. ;)
 
I was a single mother fromt the time my son was 6 until present. It isn't easy. You just do what you have to do for your child.
 
I was a single mother from when Tj was baby to 5 yrs old then he was taken away from me. I took care of him and changed his diapers. get up in middle of night to tend him and give him bath..Taking him to therapy and doctor appointments, etc. Also taking care of my apartment and going to work. it was HARD being a single mother! doing everything... whew!

his father said TJ is easy to take care of.. i said yeah TJ is almost 9.. he is more independent.. when he was baby it was hard cuz he was austitic and lost in his world. It was not EASY! so his father have it easy right now. he is lucky! but thats ok.. cuz i know i did take good care of him and did right what my heart tell me to.

Now look at the father.. he doesnt take tj to eye dr when its suppose to be last march? he said i cant.. i have to work... oh excuses!!!! shell was suppose to take beth and tj to eye dr yesterday. shell changed her mind and took tj to school. She only took beth to the eye dr appt?? may is time to make dr appt for tj to be seen by the dr for lung check up due to asthma. he didnt do it.. nothing.. he didnt buy medicine for TJ as he need asthma medicine every day?? he doesnt care.. said tj is fine.. tj always tell me his chest is hurting.. i am mad... :(
 
No I am not single mother. I have few friends who are single mothers. I notice that things are hard for them to raise kids. BUT my husband and I were raising stepchildren and it was not easy at all because rebelling, living, money etc. Now We are raising our son and it still not easy. I handle my son everything expect my husband help him do homework and do fun. I feel like single mother because I feed him, dress him, clean his mess. My husband helps very few time but he is very busy with his full time job.
 
As a parent, a single mother you are bound to face a few challenges but as single mother you are bound to face challenges everyday. Any single mothers would tell you it tough and it hard raising a child. You know what? I hate it when hearing people say to a deaf single mothers like this " "Oh you are a single mom, I am sorry". Geez we just the same as hearing mothers handle the tough time raising a child alone. Only thing is we can t hear don't means we can' handle being a single parents.
 
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