I'm sorry you feel discouraged Colesmum. I think there is indeed a lot of frustration on these boards.
However, opinions are very fluid with time, people have been known to mellow and even change their minds. That's why you have to stay centred on Cole - not on other people who you don't even know. You'll most likely find that when Cole comes of age, that CIs on kids will be less controversial and more "normal" in the deaf community. Many of his same age peers will be like him.
I think that your efforts in trying to hear both sides and in learning sign language will be very much appreciated by Cole when he is grown. You are obviously a very caring and sensitive mum and that's all I want for any deaf child, whatever communication method they end up with.
