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SceneSierra

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I am hearing,and my soon to be husband is hearing impaired.I am not sure the reason since he himself doesn't know the truth and no matter who I ask,No one will tell me or tell him..

How likely is it that we will have hearing impaired/deaf children?

Looking for any useful information possible.
 
Sigh.....

Don't panic as if you are about to find out your future baby is deaf. Deaf is not disease. You learn ASL then there will be no problem raising your future child.

Jumping in listening to the option of cochlear implants from evil audiologist/doctor's is NOT the answer!! Implants does NOT make your future child a hearing. I hope you read this carefully, seriously.

Anyhow, this probably sounds like relating to my father's similiar situation. He didn't realize that he lost some of his hearing when he was in his early 30s of age. But my Deaf brother was born way before it happened. My mother is still with him ever since no matter what with his hearing loss situation. No big deal.
 
katz4life said:
Jumping in listening to the option of cochlear implants from evil audiologist/doctor's is NOT the answer!! Implants does NOT make your future child a hearing. I hope you read this carefully, seriously.
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You may have misunderstood her question.

And -- if you ever do have a deaf or HOH child -- listening to ALL options IS the first step.

A geneticist can look into possible hereditary causes of your husband's deafness with some blood tests. We had it done for our child, given that she was adopted, we had no family history, and we wanted to know if there were any of the common syndromes associated with deafness to consider.
 
SceneSierra said:
I am hearing,and my soon to be husband is hearing impaired.I am not sure the reason since he himself doesn't know the truth and no matter who I ask,No one will tell me or tell him..

How likely is it that we will have hearing impaired/deaf children?

Looking for any useful information possible.
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There are different factors involved. Such as was he born with the hearing loss or was it something developed later on? What kind of loss does he have? Sensoneurial? Was it genetic or noise induced, etc?
 
my husband was told by my MIL not to get me pregnant because we could have deaf children.

Implanting every single deaf children should not be the answer either. that is "oh, if we have deaf children, no big deal, all we have to do is implant them.... problem solved! " you know the saying "Love me, love my cat?" well it goes with deaf "love them, love their deaf"

If you are afraid of having deaf kids, don't marry him because it isn't fair tell him you don't want to have his children and he does.

If he doesn't want to have deaf children, and neither do you. you two can be happy being childless, just like my mom's cousin when her husband did not want to have kids out of fear of deaf children. they are in their 60's with no children now although she wanted children... but finally accepted it.

This is something you two should talk about.

Also ask him how he feels about the term "hearing impaired"
 
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HHIssues said:
There are different factors involved. Such as was he born with the hearing loss or was it something developed later on? What kind of loss does he have? Sensoneurial? Was it genetic or noise induced, etc?
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yes, There are medical condition that cause deaf to be aware of. He need to find out what caused it. if it just genetically deaf and no other medical condition, like me (I'm very healthy) , it should be fine.

, most people don't know what cause their deafness
 
90% of deaf people (even with two deaf parents) have hearing children.

Simple question, simple answer.
 
no it isn't simple...

Marriage will go downhill if they have an issue with deafness. There some soulsearching that need to be done here.
 
deafgal001 said:
no it isn't simple...

Marriage will go downhill if they have an issue with deafness. There some soulsearching that need to be done here.
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Nothing in the OP's post indicates that she or they "have an issue with deafness" or requests a public soul searching by strangers. There's no offense to be taken by someone wondering what the odds are of having deaf/hoh children (or whether or not my children will have brown eyes or blue, be tall or short). Maybe she wants to plan whether or not to begin learning ASL, to move near a great school for deaf/hoh kids, to save up for HAs. Or maybe she's just curious.
 
If she haven't thought about it, I'm giving her something think about it. Her post sounds like she is worried about it.
 
Do genetic testing. Or assuming he is the only deaf, and no idea can come to explain that phenomenon, think of Mendel's law.
 
katz4life said:
Sigh.....

Don't panic as if you are about to find out your future baby is deaf. Deaf is not disease. You learn ASL then there will be no problem raising your future child.

Jumping in listening to the option of cochlear implants from evil audiologist/doctor's is NOT the answer!! Implants does NOT make your future child a hearing. I hope you read this carefully, seriously.

Anyhow, this probably sounds like relating to my father's similiar situation. He didn't realize that he lost some of his hearing when he was in his early 30s of age. But my Deaf brother was born way before it happened. My mother is still with him ever since no matter what with his hearing loss situation. No big deal.
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My goodness where did that come out of? Absolutely no where did she say a thing about CI's in her post. Talk about bashing a device just for the whims of it!!!
 
Overall, only a very small percentage of hearing loss is genetic. Besides, even if you did have a dhh kid, that's not the worst thing in the world. There's hearing aids, ASL and all kinds of stuff out there. It's not like the baby is going to have Tay Sachs or end up being one of those profoundly disabled kids who is deaf blind and profoundly intelelctucally disabled.
 
GrendelQ said:
You may have misunderstood her question.

And -- if you ever do have a deaf or HOH child -- listening to ALL options IS the first step.

A geneticist can look into possible hereditary causes of your husband's deafness with some blood tests. We had it done for our child, given that she was adopted, we had no family history, and we wanted to know if there were any of the common syndromes associated with deafness to consider.
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In this new century, I was told that there is getting more and more of audiologists who are not supporting an option of ASL. They do offer all options but usually recommend and advise the parents to pick the better: C.I. and oral rather than ASL.:aw:
 
Deaffy said:
My goodness where did that come out of? Absolutely no where did she say a thing about CI's in her post. Talk about bashing a device just for the whims of it!!!
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Wtf? You must've overlooked the OP's post. Her post indicated that she wanted to ask a question whether or not a possible for their future child to be born deaf or hoh, she sounded like a worrying paranoid in such a way of her questioning. But she asked the question in ahead of time to get the answers so in that case, she would be prepared what she will do when she's planning to have a kid. Besides this, it's sort of same way of reaction for the first-time hearing parents to find out from hearing screening test doctors that their baby is deaf and there, *bam* recommended them to get CI asap.:roll:
 
deafgal001 said:
my husband was told by my MIL not to get me pregnant because we could have deaf children.

Implanting every single deaf children should not be the answer either. that is "oh, if we have deaf children, no big deal, all we have to do is implant them.... problem solved! " you know the saying "Love me, love my cat?" well it goes with deaf "love them, love their deaf"

If you are afraid of having deaf kids, don't marry him because it isn't fair tell him you don't want to have his children and he does.If he doesn't want to have deaf children, and neither do you. you two can be happy being childless, just like my mom's cousin when her husband did not want to have kids out of fear of deaf children. they are in their 60's with no children now although she wanted children... but finally accepted it.

This is something you two should talk about.

Also ask him how he feels about the term "hearing impaired"
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Freakin' OUCH!! That really hurts. If she is,........so freakin' selfish and names you know what I am referring. Of course, I had to be blunt about this.
 
deafgal001 has valid points to give the OP to think about it hard before OP goes down the road there with the spouse.
 
katz4life said:
Freakin' OUCH!! That really hurts. If she is,........so freakin' selfish and names you know what I am referring. Of course, I had to be blunt about this.
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of course it hurts... my ex told me he didn't want to have my kids. And for that very reason too. (well he just told me that he was scared of the possibility of deaf children and did everything in his power to prevent pregnancy)

It was VERY hurtful. But I was glad he told the truth.
 
Anyway, if he is genetically deaf, there's a 50% your child will be deaf if you are a deaf gene carrier. If you are not a carrier, more likely all of them will be hearing but they will be carriers . This mean if they married a deaf or another carrier, they have a high chance of having deaf kids, giving you deaf grandchildren or great-grandchildren. Two carriers is why many deaf come from hearing family.
 
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