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Have you ever feel soo left out or sad when you go over your family's house and sitting at the dinner table not knowing what everyone is saying or laughing about?...

How do you really feel about this?...
 
Oftentimes... if my deaf cousins are there, then we will sign without voicing anything... and when we are asked what we are talking about, we will often ask them the same question without giving an answer.

It usually works.

But if I'm alone, I just sits and thinks and sits.

I always bring books, crafts and my trusty pager.

Aint this gal gonna sit around and twiddle her thumbs!
 
Yes, It happen to me too often :( Everytime I see my Dad and my hearing sister going at a conversation ending up with laughters, I get so curious what is so funny? But, was more afraid to ask because I don't want them sighing that they have to repeated the story "again" to me. Sometimes I wish they would involved me in with conversations. Keep dreaming huh? I thought so.
 
I hate to interupt this thread but I have a related question. What do deafies prefer happen if they are with a hearie and associating with other hearies? For example, suppose I take a deaf friend out for the day and we are at the mall. We bump into somebody I know from work and there is a short conversation. Should I sign the conversation to my deaf friend (this may make the other hearie feel at odds, though). What is the best way to keep a deaf friend from feeling left out?
 
Taylor said:
I hate to interupt this thread but I have a related question. What do deafies prefer happen if they are with a hearie and associating with other hearies? For example, suppose I take a deaf friend out for the day and we are at the mall. We bump into somebody I know from work and there is a short conversation. Should I sign the conversation to my deaf friend (this may make the other hearie feel at odds, though). What is the best way to keep a deaf friend from feeling left out?
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Well, When I associating with hearing people, they always involved me in with conversation by talking slowly and looking at me mostly while talking, But if a friend who happened to bump into my hearing friends, My hearing friends tell me later what that person said. It always felt good about keeping me involved, not being left out, at other times I have tried to caught what that person says, but not everything just part of the conversation, then I firgured out what that person is really talking about sometimes I don't.

Forgot to add that, when I am with a deaf person and a hearing person bumped into me and say Hey! and go on talking, I would sign to my deaf friend and use my voice the same time while talking to my hearing friend.
 
I'm the only deaf in my entire family so it sucks to be left out. I'm left out about 95% of the time. My family just blabs away with a bunch of crap while I sit there wondering what's going on. I pretty much just ignore them and think about other things. Heh!
 
Omg yes, all the time. It sucks coz they just like ignore you, and when you miss something and they have to repeat it, and you don't understand what they mean and ask them to repeat it again, they make it seem like it's this big deal. They make you feel stupid when you don't know what they're laughing about and stuff like that. They always make me feel little, like i'm just stupid and there. It sucks and it's hurtful. Ppl can be assholes.
 
Taylor said:
I hate to interupt this thread but I have a related question. What do deafies prefer happen if they are with a hearie and associating with other hearies? For example, suppose I take a deaf friend out for the day and we are at the mall. We bump into somebody I know from work and there is a short conversation. Should I sign the conversation to my deaf friend (this may make the other hearie feel at odds, though). What is the best way to keep a deaf friend from feeling left out?
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actually signing what you are saying to the hearing person will make the deaf friend more comfortble, but my hearing friends tend not to interpret what the other person is saying because I am able to catch on several words as I know what the converstation is about and the hearing friend that is signing what he/she is saying as I am able to keep up and say something also. It does feel akward at first when you are not used to signing to a non-signer but most of the time the non-signers realize on their own that I am deaf and just continue talking like a normal person.
 
Good question Taylor, I am glad you asked that,

It would make a deaf friend to feel better if you were facing him or her by talking slow, while you talking to your buddy or someone you happen to bump into, you can always sign if you want, only if you don't feel embarassed to....The only thing count the most is making both of your friends by involved into a conversation so no one feels left out! ;)
 
yes... a lot of times... thats part of life... they always tell me they will learn signs and keep me company but never did happen but they do talk to me when necessary. *shrugs* I hated being left out... once in a while is fine but not all day being left out. GRRR
 
Yeah, ***sigh***. It is happen to me often!!!!!!!!

All what I watch my famliy chat each other happily longer. I asked them what you laugh for? They replied with short sentence which they talk toooo long. :eek: So I leave them alone and go for a walk.
They complaint when I was back from walk that I´m not nice and go off for walk. I was like :eek: and told them how I feel. They apologized and said that they doesnt mean it. I know they tried their best but it STILL the same. It´s also with my hubby´s family, too.


One thing, I never forget is my son´s Christening Day.
We invited the priest for deaf who sign for us in the church to celebrate with us. The priest is only a person who did not left us out. He terp. us what the relatives talking about and listen their talking until I saw something what they laugh so I asked my mother-in-law what they laugh for. She answer: "nothing important". The priest saw and terp for us front of her and others. They were like :eek: :eek:


I am lucky to have co-worker who can sign. We (2) work together in the office, that´s why she learn sign more from me. She alway tell me what she heard and what the people talking about/office gossip and rumor etc. BUT BUT BUT.... when we celebrated with other co-workers on birthday or Xmas party. She chatted with them to leave me out. :roll: She gave me short sentence what they are talking about.
 
i get so INCREDIABLY bored when im around family members

im the only one deaf in my family so whenever theres a family get together i tend to just go and do my own things be it watching TV or coming here on the compy -- i personally prefer to be with other deafies or hearies who already knows signs (terps, codas or etc)
 
I do feel left out of spoken convos, yes. I usually make it a policy walking away from the location, doing my own thing... not let it spoil my day or night. I'll go out for a walk... :) Usually my husband jogs up to catch up with me. :whistle:
 
My family have boring convos around the dinner table, I tend not to listen to them! I either daydream or watch TV instead.

On Talyor's question, Im lucky enough to have a lot of hearing friends who know sign language. However if one of my friends got talking to someone, I try and understand what they say, but usually I give up. Im quite patient and will wait while they talk, then when we walk away or something, my friend will explain what they talked about.

I feel a bit uncomfortable when I keep interrupting the convo to ask what they're talking about. My stepdad always picks on me when I ask what they're talking about, he goes "what? what? what?" Gets on my nerves :roll:
 
Yeah, I felt bored and not understand what my parents and my hearing brother were saying at the dinner table (my deaf brother moved out that time) when I was young so I bring my dinner with me to go other room to watch tv.
 
VamPyroX said:
I'm the only deaf in my entire family so it sucks to be left out. I'm left out about 95% of the time. My family just blabs away with a bunch of crap while I sit there wondering what's going on. I pretty much just ignore them and think about other things. Heh!
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Yep. I could do be doing other things like watch some television or play games with my cousins or whatever like that, while other people are in the "chat room" chatting stuff that I couldn't even know what it is about, but aw well...at least I could still do some things with other people anyway
 
Taylor said:
I hate to interupt this thread but I have a related question. What do deafies prefer happen if they are with a hearie and associating with other hearies? For example, suppose I take a deaf friend out for the day and we are at the mall. We bump into somebody I know from work and there is a short conversation. Should I sign the conversation to my deaf friend (this may make the other hearie feel at odds, though). What is the best way to keep a deaf friend from feeling left out?
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I tend to use voice AND sign at the same time. If these hearing persons I know feel uncomfortable with me signing, then I know they are not "suitable" to hang out with. Feel me? This way I won't leave anyone out of the conversation if I use both voice and sign. (I do that most of the time with my parents and my husband.)
 
I have grown up with a hearing family and extended family from both sides - both my sister and I would scarper off on our own and do our own thing, ha.

It can get quite irritating when I'm in the middle of the room full of hearies - and I end up feeling left out. :roll:
 
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