Hello and welcome to Alldeaf! Indeed it takes much encouragement and love to do what you feel is best for your son...don't dwell too much on whether the community will be acceptable or not on the decisions you and your husband make, afterall, do they 'live' with your son, 'love' your son like you and your husband does? I didn't think so-- 
Looks like you'll explore and research all possibilities and whatever you do decide to do, wishes you, your son, family the very best! 
Anyhow, do enjoy your stay here in AD!
Have a great day! 
~RR
