Body language and facial expression can totally contradict the words coming out of someone's mouth. And, when we are looking for meaning, research has shown that we will accept the meaning derived from the body language instead of the meaning derived from the words.
In written language, such as posts on this forum, the way things are phrased, the word choice, and the emotion behind the post are telling, just as body language in the above example.
Serious questions from someone who truly wants an answer are never a pain. Keep asking anytime you feel the need to.
