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Hello All, I am new to your forums. I have come on here for a specific purpose.....I am needing a bit of help and advice please.

I have a deaf son who has additional learning difficulties. He is 27. He went the RSDCM at Margate and left when he was 19. Because of his added difficulties he lived under the care of an outside organisation.

He lived in Margate in this organisation's care until January when I moved him to alternative care as I was not happy at the way my son was being treated. My son was supposedly in supported living care (which in this organisation seemed exactly the same as the residential care!). They took money from him each week to help with bills, for food and travel etc and it now looks as though for the four years my son was in supported living he was financially abused. Abuse of the vulnerable is beneath contempt. I have been in dispute with the organisation since January and they just stonewall me with feeble excuses....I don't want excuses I want the money they clearly cannot account for returned to him. And the cheek of it is at the moment they still use his photograph for publicity purposes on their website. I have written to the regional manager, the CEO and even my son's MP and am getting nowhere.

In his tenancy agreement (legal and binding document) there is a clause which says they will produce accounts each year to say how the money my son has paid in will be spent. Yet when I ask for accounts they have sent me scribbled illegible pages from a day care book.

Have just noticed smilies and this is what I would like to do to the organisation concerned :rifle: :rl: but unfortunately that is not legal!!!!!!! :fingersx:

Any thoughts on my next move? :pissed: I would welcome any suggestions.
Thank you for reading this thread.
 
Wow, what they did to your son is absolutely wrong, but sorry I can't be any help.. Feel welcome to All Deaf forum! :)
 
OOPS, have just re-read my thread......not only for a specific purpose!!!!

I have also come on here to widen my knowledge of deaf culture and meet new friends and maybe widen the circle of friends for my son.

Chris, my son, is a wonderful young man (of course I would say that...I'm his mum!) He is profoundly deaf and has a wicked sense of humour. Because of his added difficulties things were a bit bleak at the beginning and I wasn't sure how much Chris would be able to learn and understand. Needn't have worried there. Can't give enough praise to Royal School for Deaf Children at Margate.

Chris is very witty (I hope he gets it from me) and well over 15 years ago Chris and I were in Broadstairs window shopping at the antiques. There were some frogs, (stone, glass, porcelain) and not knowing the sign for frog I asked him. He gave me a sign which I later that day - when I re-used what I had learned in a conversation with staff at the school - I found out was not a true sign....Chris had a joke with me and that joke continues even now...its our pet sign for funny or joke. :h5:

And me....I'm his mum and I love him to bits...and I would like to say a big hello to all of you on this forum :wave:
 
Wow, what they did to your son is absolutely wrong, but sorry I can't be any help.. Feel welcome to All Deaf forum! :)

thank you....love the guinea pig. I keep rats but Chris over loves them and they don't mind a bit.
 
thank you....love the guinea pig. I keep rats but Chris over loves them and they don't mind a bit.

Haha thanks lol :) Yeah I think rats are rocks! They are very actively for small pet kind. Invite your son to this thread if you can.
 
I'm very sorry about what you're going thru. :(

I don't know the laws for your country, so my advice might not fit your situation.

In the USA, I would suggest getting in touch with your state's attorney general about the financial situation. Also, you could report the organization to whatever board is responsible for licensing them.

You've already contacted your MP, which I think would be the same as me contacting my state representative. Usually that gets the ball rolling. Your MP, as an elected official (I think?) should really follow up for you. You might have to go after him more aggressively, or even bring the press into the picture.

A lawyer who specializes in accounting fraud might be able to help you but I don't know how expensive that would be. Maybe you can hire one on a contingency arrangement. Your laws are different, so I don't know if these suggestions will help. :dunno:

I hope you get the help that you need. :hug:
 
:welcome: to AD!

I am really sorry to read about your situation. That's awful!


I used to work for a group home working with 4 deaf adults. We were required to keep a finance log of all monies spent or recieved. Does that organization do that? Also, the residents' cash were kept in a locked box that the senior counselor only had access to. We, resident counselors, were responsible for planning activities in advance and if any of the acitities involved spending money, we fill out a cash request form for each of the residents. Worked well!
 
Hello All, I am new to your forums. I have come on here for a specific purpose.....I am needing a bit of help and advice please.

I have a deaf son who has additional learning difficulties. He is 27. He went the RSDCM at Margate and left when he was 19. Because of his added difficulties he lived under the care of an outside organisation.

He lived in Margate in this organisation's care until January when I moved him to alternative care as I was not happy at the way my son was being treated. My son was supposedly in supported living care (which in this organisation seemed exactly the same as the residential care!). They took money from him each week to help with bills, for food and travel etc and it now looks as though for the four years my son was in supported living he was financially abused. Abuse of the vulnerable is beneath contempt. I have been in dispute with the organisation since January and they just stonewall me with feeble excuses....I don't want excuses I want the money they clearly cannot account for returned to him. And the cheek of it is at the moment they still use his photograph for publicity purposes on their website. I have written to the regional manager, the CEO and even my son's MP and am getting nowhere.

In his tenancy agreement (legal and binding document) there is a clause which says they will produce accounts each year to say how the money my son has paid in will be spent. Yet when I ask for accounts they have sent me scribbled illegible pages from a day care book.

Have just noticed smilies and this is what I would like to do to the organisation concerned :rifle: :rl: but unfortunately that is not legal!!!!!!! :fingersx:

Any thoughts on my next move? :pissed: I would welcome any suggestions.
Thank you for reading this thread.

From the way you write,,, grammar..i am asuming you are from UK area... get legal to investigate this place.... relocate your son to better place to live...I am not familiar with UK laws.... but you can get some kinds of help....

I am more familiar with laws in United States of America.. i usually try my best to help anyone who needs help... mostly domestic violences... and children with special needs...
I hope things will work out for you and your son...
 
From the way you write,,, grammar..i am asuming you are from UK area... get legal to investigate this place.... relocate your son to better place to live...I am not familiar with UK laws.... but you can get some kinds of help....

I am more familiar with laws in United States of America.. i usually try my best to help anyone who needs help... mostly domestic violences... and children with special needs...
I hope things will work out for you and your son...

Does my grammar give me away!!!! Yes, I am from Sheffield, England. :wave: I am new to this internet thing and up until now I have kept to a local (very popular) forum site. Meeting new people, especially from the States is a very wierd concept.....its such a long way away yet only next door on the WWW.

I will sort out my son's problem...I have tried to do it nicely. Now the gloves have to come off.....I won't do anything illegal but I will resort to trying to shame the organisation concerned. I am going to see if the press (either local to where my son lives) or nationals are interested. Abuse of the vulnerable has recently been topical (though I may have missed the boat). In my book this type of abuse is beneath contempt.

Still at least now he is removed from the situation and the organisation and he is in a much better environment than he was before and I suppose in the end it is only money. My son is truly happier in his new home and that can't be beaten. Thanks for your reply.:ty:
 
I am confused about your son. Does he have autism?

I met a nurse and her son has autism. He is 19 years old. He has a high intelligent. If Chris has the autism, then I am sure that he has a high intelligent because he has a sense of humor. I do not trust any organization because of the money issue, and it is so hard to find a good and honest organization.

Is there a home program for a private group of young people in your area? I am not sure how it works in your country. My sister works with a small group of retarded people in a private organization for home. Seven retarded people are happy to live in a nice home than living at a mental hospital.
 
What about contacting the Deaf Children's Society? Maybe other advocacy orgs as well? cerebal palsy, orgs for MR etc etc?
 
WebExplorer....yes he is autistic as well. His sense of humour is very much like his Dad's and I suppose like mine too (my own natural state of being is SILLY. I only do sensible when I have to, as a last resort and then I quickly revert back to silly!!!). I am going to visit him in ten days time....things should be clearer by the time I return. I will have had a chance to go through his finances thoroughly with his bank. :bigsmile:
 
TweetyBird...I know this is off topic but CONGRATULATIONS. Have a fabulous day and a brilliant and prosperous married life :party: :applause: :cuddle:
 
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