Another icky sticky in-law dilemma

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My mother-in-law bought a gift for my husband's ex-girlfriend (yes, he's the father of one of her three kids)...and expects either him or me to deliver it to her. Wtf.

Am I wrong to feel that he should've taken a stand for me, and remind her 1) they broke up over 7 years ago, 2) he's married to me 3) this ex refuses to let him see his son AT ALL for the past year.

I'm furious with him for not saying anything to his mother. And I feel like shit for even being bothered by it. Normally I'm the person who lets things slide...but this felt like a slap to my face.
 
The mother-in-law should have been discreet about it and given it to the ex wife on her own.
 
Maybe she is hoping he will be able to make contact with his son when he delivers the gift.
 
deafbajagal said:
My mother-in-law bought a gift for my husband's ex-girlfriend (yes, he's the father of one of her three kids)...and expects either him or me to deliver it to her. Wtf.

Am I wrong to feel that he should've taken a stand for me, and remind her 1) they broke up over 7 years ago, 2) he's married to me 3) this ex refuses to let him see his son AT ALL for the past year.

I'm furious with him for not saying anything to his mother. And I feel like shit for even being bothered by it. Normally I'm the person who lets things slide...but this felt like a slap to my face.
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How does your husband feel about it? Besides just going with the flow.. Have you discussed this with him?
 
He doesn't seem to think it's a big deal. (Shel, they never married...just dated) ...I, on the other hand, feel totally disrespected from both my mother in law and him (for not saying anything).
 
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Sometimes the in-laws are not thinking straight. I agree, your husband needs to take a stand and approach his mother to send the gift by mail or hand it over to them in person herself.
 
Give MIL the addresses and hours of her local UPS and FEDEX.

Seriously, your husband should support you and handle all issues with his mother.
 
LOL@Reba's suggestion. Good idea but the MIL would just paint her as a snarky b*tch.

Let hubby deal with it. If he doesn't deal with it, leave the present in his closet. If your MIL asks if you delivered it, just say that you delegated the task to hubby. He can explain to MIL why it wasn't delivered.

All of the triangulation in these relationships is not healthy. Let people deal with each other directly. It'll save you some headaches.
 
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