Pinkster,
Because I come from "half Deaf and half Hearing family"
This is almost impossible for anyone to understand
you "exactly" about what's annoying ya... but
i think i can relate with you somewhat because there were
some things we cannot even discuss publicly.
Communication was not a problem in the family,
but there were some things that some of us
chose NOT to discuss. Some of us choose to
have a Good time with a Good Life.
Perhaps just leave it alone the way it is and let it go
and focus on what do you really want in your life ?