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pinkster

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This is not directed towards anyone in particular, but just in general. I just feel like venting.

Im sure you're all aware of the definition of annoy, right? Well, what do you do when you're spending time (without a choice) with someone who annoys you very much? Or if you happen to approach someone who annoys you? Often times I find myself in situations where I really don't want to be talking to a particular person, but I feel a social obligation to do so. How do you keep yourself in check, and not get angry with what they say to you, because you know they're just full of crap (hence the annoyance) and really have nothing worthwhile to say? I'm aware that I can be annoying every now and then, but often times I have something worth saying. I try to limit the stupid things I say to not so often, and I always ask myself, "why cant other people do this too?"

With no offense, dont just reply with "oh yeah i know what you're saying, i hate annoying people too." Who doesnt? :)
 
I know exactly how you feel. I've had friends who were very annoying. One thing you could do is to try to avoid the issue or change the subject.
 
I agree what u are stating. I have had a few people that I do not know who They are annoying too because one person that I do not know would imed me everyday talking nonsense. Sometimes I rather to be left alone and do my thing but then if I said be right back that person will keep talking its like don't u understand a word brb means?
 
VamPyroX said:
I know exactly how you feel. I've had friends who were very annoying. One thing you could do is to try to avoid the issue or change the subject.
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Its not necessarily an issue, but the person as a whole. =/ Everything that gets said, every movement, every everything! :) I suppose I cld just avoid people like that but sometimes its impossible.
 
Cheri said:
I agree what u are stating. I have had a few people that I do not know who They are annoying too because one person that I do not know would imed me everyday talking nonsense. Sometimes I rather to be left alone and do my thing but then if I said be right back that person will keep talking its like don't u understand a word brb means?
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Yeah... BRB does the trick! I had this guy annoy me all the time by IMing me all the time. Finally, I managed to escape by talking for a moment then saying something like, "Someone's at the door... BRB". After a few minutes, he'll get tired of waiting and leave.

This worked well, until this other guy became more annoying. This guy would IM me as soon as I get online or return from "away" mode. He actually sits at his computer waiting for people to get online. It's as if he's got everyone on his list on "alert"mode. Anyway, it got a bit out of hand... until I got Trillian. With Trillian, I was finally able to chat while being in "away" mode. After being "away" full-time, he was unable to know if I was at the computer or not... so he eventually stopped annoying me. Now, he will IM me from time to time... and we'll have a good decent converstation. Finally, I got it under control! Heh!
 
pinkster said:
Its not necessarily an issue, but the person as a whole. =/ Everything that gets said, every movement, every everything! :) I suppose I cld just avoid people like that but sometimes its impossible.
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Yes, it's sometimes impossible. Sometimes, you gotta try various things. Last week, I was at a huge party. This guy started chatting with me and would not shut up. From time to time, I would glance over his shoulder looking for someone I know. When I see someone, I'd act like that person wanted me so I'd say... "Oh, excuse me... someone's looking for me. I gotta go." He'd then shut up and calmly let me go... as I go running to my other friend. That's just an example of many situations. Heh!
 
pink, i have had the same situation happen to me so i wouldn t really talk to that person on a occasional basis, but the BRB does indeed do the trick for me, and sometimes i let the person talk it i deem nessacary to say i gotta go have things to do, OR if they show up talking the BS then i will indeed be looking over but when it comes to my work or my VP job i would calmly say, im sure u have alot to say but im right now talking to other members and communicating with them for thier needs, so why don't we talk another time when im not so busy, and it does work cuz by an hr later he ll be yapping with someone else which is a relive but a pity on them this one dude was constantly bugging alot of poeple and some just told him to get lost!
 
And also what annoying is a guy that has feelings for you is jealous that u talking to other guys and then it just annoying to me that he doesn't own me I am not with him and I just put my away message up to avoid this guy and he would leave 40 messages on my away message that is so Annoying!:roll:
 
With no offense intended, you're a bit hung up on it being online. Most of my encounters are with people in real life, my co-workers, my family, sometimes my friends. I think there's no real solution without hurting people's feelings so I think my vent was wasted.
 
okay, i think this would depend on what
kind of circumstances of how did your
friends annoy you in person ? just give
me a few examples...
 
Y said:
okay, i think this would depend on what
kind of circumstances of how did your
friends annoy you in person ? just give
me a few examples...
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I risk exposition if I do, so I'll pass.
 
pinkster said:
With no offense intended, you're a bit hung up on it being online. Most of my encounters are with people in real life, my co-workers, my family, sometimes my friends. I think there's no real solution without hurting people's feelings so I think my vent was wasted.
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So are you afraid of being around your family? Is that because of communication difficulties? I know you can't get interpreter for your family LOL.
 
tekkmortal said:
So are you afraid of being around your family? Is that because of communication difficulties? I know you can't get interpreter for your family LOL.
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My family is deaf, and even if they were hearing I'd have no reason to be afraid of them. Communication difficulties, yes, certain members of my family are hard to talk to, some I dont talk to at all. Thats just fine with me.
 
For myself, sometimes it's better just to avoid people who is very annoying but if the situation is unavoidable then it's good to have back up plans. Maybe you can actually have conversations but very limited one and have one person (very trustworthy buddy or something) you can send a hint and he/she can "rescue" you. Or if that person will not leave you alone, then take that person out somewhere privately and explain that you would like to continue to hang out but you feel that it has gotten too much for u. Make sure you use the I, me word a lot so that person will not feel like you are attacking them but that you are just trying to share your feeling. That is just a couple of suggestions. It may or may not work.
 
jams... i know theres many annoying peeps here in minn.. i uddy how you feel.. i have alot of annoying people around me.. but gladly i live in small town to avoid it a bit. but however when i am at social events.. some annoying people come to me and talk.. talk.. talk.. i just try to be nice. what i tend to do is... i just say nothing but listen.. or be boring to them like i say "yeah, yeah, yeah" all the time :-X

once at MSAD last week.. i told one person " I better go upstairs.. my son's upstairs with my friend and i better give my friend a break" this helps :-D
 
I dont know how much it matters, or what it means, but someone gave me a "red" reputation stating I did not explain myself.

Well somethings are better left off unexplained, at least publicly. I value all my friendships with people, and I would do nothing to ruin any of them. On occasion I get fustrated with the people close to me, and the people not so close to me. You realize, that coming out with how I feel publicly, and bringing a specific incident on here, how that can cause problems for me, yes?

Lets imagine I was talking about my roomie, and I mention a situation that happened between he and I. He is a member here, how do I know I won't be sticking my foot in my mouth for it later? Some risks are just not worth it.

Everyone has their struggles, and this one's mine - not being able to deal with the lack of understanding from my family/friends/peers. I, luckily, deal with fustration now a little better than I used to.

I'm sorry I can't bring myself to shoot myself in the foot and explain a specific situation. All that is left is for me to be vague and hope that people understand. And if you don't, all I can do is forget about it.
 
pinkster said:
I dont know how much it matters, or what it means, but someone gave me a "red" reputation stating I did not explain myself.

Well somethings are better left off unexplained, at least publicly. I value all my friendships with people, and I would do nothing to ruin any of them. On occasion I get fustrated with the people close to me, and the people not so close to me. You realize, that coming out with how I feel publicly, and bringing a specific incident on here, how that can cause problems for me, yes?

Lets imagine I was talking about my roomie, and I mention a situation that happened between he and I. He is a member here, how do I know I won't be sticking my foot in my mouth for it later? Some risks are just not worth it.

Everyone has their struggles, and this one's mine - not being able to deal with the lack of understanding from my family/friends/peers. I, luckily, deal with fustration now a little better than I used to.

I'm sorry I can't bring myself to shoot myself in the foot and explain a specific situation. All that is left is for me to be vague and hope that people understand. And if you don't, all I can do is forget about it.
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I know exactly how you feel. It gets a bit annoying when people leave me bad ratings without leaving a comment or for no good reason. If you want us to understand what we did wrong, please leave a comment. Also, please be reasonable when leaving ratings. Don't just do it cuz you hate that person or anything. Be nice.
 
pinkster said:
I dont know how much it matters, or what it means, but someone gave me a "red" reputation stating I did not explain myself.

Well somethings are better left off unexplained, at least publicly. I value all my friendships with people, and I would do nothing to ruin any of them. On occasion I get fustrated with the people close to me, and the people not so close to me. You realize, that coming out with how I feel publicly, and bringing a specific incident on here, how that can cause problems for me, yes?

Lets imagine I was talking about my roomie, and I mention a situation that happened between he and I. He is a member here, how do I know I won't be sticking my foot in my mouth for it later? Some risks are just not worth it.

Everyone has their struggles, and this one's mine - not being able to deal with the lack of understanding from my family/friends/peers. I, luckily, deal with fustration now a little better than I used to.

I'm sorry I can't bring myself to shoot myself in the foot and explain a specific situation. All that is left is for me to be vague and hope that people understand. And if you don't, all I can do is forget about it.
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I know how you feel. You are not the only one to feel this way. Someone did it to me, too when I first arrived to join this site after I introduced myself. It was very annoyin' to me, but I ignored it and moved on. Important thing is just be yourself. *Smile*

Hugs ...
 
Cheri said:
And also what annoying is a guy that has feelings for you is jealous that u talking to other guys and then it just annoying to me that he doesn't own me I am not with him and I just put my away message up to avoid this guy and he would leave 40 messages on my away message that is so Annoying!:roll:
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If I were in your shoes, I would put him a block. It will be more peaceful on my mind. If that person has no patient then block him or her. If that person really wants to talk with me very badly. Just simple to email me. I do not need to be annoyance from anyone.

I need to focus on my own time and family. Chatting sometime bores or not important. I did not want to waste of my time. I have 55 people on my list in my IM, they do most respect of my time.
 
pinkster said:
I dont know how much it matters, or what it means, but someone gave me a "red" reputation stating I did not explain myself.

Well somethings are better left off unexplained, at least publicly. I value all my friendships with people, and I would do nothing to ruin any of them. On occasion I get fustrated with the people close to me, and the people not so close to me. You realize, that coming out with how I feel publicly, and bringing a specific incident on here, how that can cause problems for me, yes?

Lets imagine I was talking about my roomie, and I mention a situation that happened between he and I. He is a member here, how do I know I won't be sticking my foot in my mouth for it later? Some risks are just not worth it.

Everyone has their struggles, and this one's mine - not being able to deal with the lack of understanding from my family/friends/peers. I, luckily, deal with fustration now a little better than I used to.

I'm sorry I can't bring myself to shoot myself in the foot and explain a specific situation. All that is left is for me to be vague and hope that people understand. And if you don't, all I can do is forget about it.
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Pinkster,

Because I come from "half Deaf and half Hearing family"
This is almost impossible for anyone to understand
you "exactly" about what's annoying ya... but
i think i can relate with you somewhat because there were
some things we cannot even discuss publicly.
Communication was not a problem in the family,
but there were some things that some of us
chose NOT to discuss. Some of us choose to
have a Good time with a Good Life.
Perhaps just leave it alone the way it is and let it go
and focus on what do you really want in your life ?
 
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