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Probably. I try very hard to fit in w hearing community. I use residual hearing, lip reading, rtc in situations where I feel my asl would be distracting. I don't want to be excluded from a communit, friends,  and family that I have been a part if my whole life, but I also am very happy to have deaf/Deaf friends and community here where I live. I was despairing after my hearing loss when it first happened until I was given the new language of asl and a community of people who I could relate to. However, I do not feel Deaf in the community. I feel like a visitor maybe. Like a foreigner who the deaf community is kind to and allows me to be a part of their community, but I do not identify myself as part of the deaf community. I am so grateful to them though because having a language I can use has made my life so much more manageable in many situations. It's so nice to be around deaf people who are fun and friendly and intelligent to help me understand that I am not broken, and life is still good :) Although I identify myself with hearing, it is so nice to be around hoh and deaf people and use asl. It's exhausting having to work so hard to communicate with the hearing community. I value the deaf friends I have so much. They understand a part of me that hearing friends never will.


Also, I'm not sure if this is what you're asking, but I don't automatically tell heating people when I first meet them that I am hoh. I usually try to read lips and use residual hearing to get by in a casual conversation. If its a short conversation I can get by. If it gets lengthy, then I tell them. I just find it easier not to tell and get into a long discussion about it with every person I meet. So maybe that also comes into play with your identity question /study.


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