Thanks folks. 
Part of the problem is that a lot of time I don't know about these things, and kind of rely on other people to tell me how these procedures work so a lot of time these kinds of thing don't really pop up in my head until it's too late.
I know what it is. My mom fall for the same thing... we have a bit of a weird saviour complex. In February, I had to be admitted for a combination of chronic disorganization, caregiver stress syndrome and a few other things I am forgetting at the moment since I am a ditz. My mother had to be treated for the same thing, ironically two years earlier. Both therapists say it come from not be able to set limits.
