For more information, it's a big workplace and we routinely take training for sexual/workplace harrassment. Hell, there's even a big notice on the door to the breakroom that talks about Workplace Harrassment/Violence.
So I am PRETTY sure training is pointless.
Now, I brought up to "Bob" the idea of talking to the offender directly. Bob believes that it won't make a difference since Bob has no "power" over him, only our boss. Knowing the offender somewhat personally through a close friend, he is very anti-gay. So I know he won't change his ways, only that he MAY stop doing it to Bob ONLY. However, if the boss tells him "Look, there's been complaints...." then he'd stop doing it to everyone... hopefully.
Here's the other thing.. I have a strong feeling that if Bob brings it up to the offender directly, the offender will be like "Um... okaaayyyy. It was just a joke, man... Lighten up." and sort of not taking it seriously. Which means Bob has only 2 choices, let it go, or threaten him with some sort of action and, to be honest, the action isn't even THAT serious in the first place to warrant a "threat"......
It's really amazing how the little things do make a big difference. A little flirt here ("Oh Im just being harmless! Its not sexual harrassment!"), a little racist/gay joke there ("It's just a little joke! I dont hate Mexicans!"). One can get away with so many things at work, really.
