I remember reading that the majority of Deaf ed programs ARE SEE-based. Very few Deaf ed programs are bi-bi, since it's still relatively new.
Well that's YOUR experiance. As you said, you were in the grey area between being prelingally deaf and postlingally deaf. It does seem (from my observations) that many kids who went deaf during that time of development, tend to identify as more Hearing then Deaf. Perhaps if you'd been a prelingal deaf (or even hohie!) your experiance would have been drasticly different. Many of us who were born or became early deafened or became hoh and were raised oral, wish that we'd had access to ASL/Sign at an early age!
What about the fact that DODAs do better educationally then do Deaf of hearing parents? DODA's first language 99.9% of the time is ASL, and they approach English as a second language...Yet they do WELL in reading....Yes, some people have expressive concerns in English but so do many speakers of other languages. Have you not heard about the fractured English which is rampant in other countries? (eg my parents found some stationary from China that said " Are You Feel Better?" ) I would bet that the achievment rate for ESLers is probaly VERY simalir to ASLers! Let me guess...you support initivives that would get rid of ESL programs and that would immerse kids in English without the supports of their native language right?