I agree. These are not character flaws but something to sort out with time.
Still, I went out there this afternoon, assuming that we would talk, but he had his best friend there, they were smoking BC cigarettes, which turns me off because of how different he is, and they sat and watched football. His friend talked to me more than he did.
I gather he had sent me a text long before I arrived there indicating the situation and basically said I could come out if I didn't have a problem with it. When I finally read the message I told him I am leaving. That I didn't feel comfortable. That I thought we were going to talk. That I'd rather be at home where I feel more comfortable.
Men!!! 
