SpiceHD said:
how long does it usually take an average hearing person to learn sign language or even abcs? ( for my own experiences... 2 weeks to a month max)
how frustrated does deaf people tend to get when they try to communicate with one who dotn know abcs and sign language? (for me.. depends... if that person was truly trying.. i seem to have more patient for that person than the one who doesnt want to try and acts like communication itself is a chore)
why is it that people who learned them more quickly than others? (i think its moviation)
what about u guys... whats your answers on that?
As people have already said, age and motivation are big factors. It took me like a day to learn the alphabet when I was in elementary school, because I was younger and I thought it was really cool; sadly, I didn't get to learn more until fall 2003. (about 7 years later) I am really motivated, so for me, learning new signs is pretty easy. However, learning ASL is another story. I almost never see pure ASL when I am at deaf events, or if I begin to, when someone finds out I'm hearing, they switch to PSE. I appreciate the gesture, and in the necessity of rapid communication it does work better, but it makes it REALLY difficult to really get the ASL grammar down. Even my ASL teachers (many deaf) sign using PSE most of the time, at least in class.
When I have seen deaf people who have had to communicate with hearing who know no sign language, I have seen generally positive responses from the deaf people, only changing if the hearing person is rude. For example:
Deaf Expo, Anaheim, CA, 2004 - There was a hearing man who was running an ice cream stand. A deaf person was in line ahead of me and the hearing guy asked him what he wanted, (voiced); the deaf man signed, then realized it was no use, pointed to a picture of what he wanted. When asking about "cup" or "cone" rather than pointing to them, the hearing man simply voiced it, seemingly annoyed at the deaf person not understanding, but eventually the message was conveyed. While the hearing man was making the ice cream, a second deaf man walked up to the first one and the two just started signing (I am paraphrasing) "hearing?... oohhh, that's strange. here, oh well." All is okay, until the hearing man answers his CELL PHONE and starts essentially ignoring the deaf man. The ice cream worker starts putting toppings on that the deaf man didn't want etc. and the hearing man was too busy talking to notice. Oy! That made me so embarrassed to be hearing. YAR! In general, I think deaf people are used to having to deal with hearing people and are fairly nice and calm about it because it is part of their daily lives, being constantly unhappy would hurt them more than the hearing people.
Answering the last question of why some learn faster than others, although a lot has to do with age and motivation, there are other factors. If one has already learned a second language, learning a 3rd is easier. Every language one learns, the easier it gets. Also, the more practice someone gets, no matter the motivation they have, the faster they will learn. (However, those who are more motivated tend to reach out more.) Another factor can be physical though. There is a woman who took ASL II & III with me, and is now retaking ASL III. I have never met a hearing person who has been more motivated to learn sign. However, this woman had to have eye-replacement surgery when she was 21. Not only is this woman in her later 40's, but she is watching signs through foreign eyes and has a really difficult time seeing, mimicking, and receiving signs. She is learning sign becaus she wants to communicate with deaf-blind people using whatever method they prefer, which sometimes includes ASL, or other 3 dimensional signing systems.
On a final note, what really motivated me to learn ASL, and continue using it for the rest of my life, was learning from a deaf teacher. Seeing a Deaf person sign, seeing how much the Deaf love their language, how much they can do with it, and how invaluable it is, I just... I can't think of a better language to learn.