My daughter is being bullied! Help!

Yes, Danny was being bullied by children over our deafness. That's time my son goes his first school. I don’t blame the children because they didnt know what deafness are. We have Principal and teachers to give the children the positive information over deafness. The children understood and nice to us now.

Yes I support my children is go to my children's teacher/principal. It solve quickly than I thought. Teachers educate their students to not bully to anyone which it's good. Parents, also too. It's important for the children to know that they should not judge/bully others because it's mean and rude.

I remember that Alan, my young son who has floppy ears (otoplasty). I want my son’s ear to be correct before start his first school but he rejected it. I sat with him explain why I think it´s best to correct his ears before he goes his first school. The reason, I’m worried is because of bullies & Alan’s self-esteem. . I’m surprised to know that he stood himself in smart way toward bullies who make fun of him. They leave him alone and accept what he is long ago since his first school at 5 years ago.

A mother was at us and said in friendly way that she want to let us know that Alan made a fun of her son who has front teeth that’s time it’s just Alan’s first school at 5 years ago. I thanked her for tell me. I told him to not do that because it's not very nice front of mother and her son. This word is mean and rude. I got Alan to say “sorry” to him. Alan did and friend again with him. I teach them that bullied is not acceptance. Yes, I know the small children didn’t know what bullies are… Its parents who show their children that bullies are not okay.
 
I noticed no word of "beat up" in 6 whole pages thread here.

I would like to ask you question what you react if your children are being beat up by bullies? What would you do?

Danny was being beat up by 15 years old bullied teenager outside of school bus when Danny was 8 years old. I never forget that’s time I was at home due US public holiday how panic I was when I saw Danny ran to my house with bleed on his nose and mouth on his way from school bus. No teeth or nose damage but just swollen mouth. My hubby & I knew straight way it’s him before Danny named him to us because he & his family had bad reputation in village where we live. I nursed him and have him tell us what happened. He told me that he sat & chat with his mate on the school bus until the bullied teenager as Supervision (accord school rule, the teenagers from 15 years old should be supervision for small children in the school bus) came to them & forbid small children to talk & must keep quiet. Danny said to him that he can’t forbid him to talk his mate. It got him mad & said to Danny “you will have one from me”. Danny informed other teenager straight way but other teenager is scared of bullied teenager so informed bus driver. Bus driver told bullied teenager to leave small children to chat each other, not play around the bus. It got bullied teenager madder & said nothing. Danny said bye to his mates & get out of school bus & walk. Suddenly he was attacked by bullied teenager where he ran and hide after got out of school bus before Danny. He got Danny back to backyard of church where nobody can see & beat him up. It’s hardly for Danny to defend himself against tall & strong bullied teenager. We were mad because principal trust to offer bullied teenager as supervision which it's unacceptance since he know his reputation. We went to mother’s house. We saw mother with 3 dogs came (she went for a walk with dogs) but mother saw Danny's face & ignored it and then accused Danny for start it and it's Danny's fault etc. and then swear at us without give us the chance to have a talk with her. Okay, she asked for it, then we went to doctor then reported police and CPS straight way. Police and CPS were like *sigh* when they heard the name. Police went to them straight way. CPS told us that she know the family because she went to see them quite often. CPS decided to do something right now after saw Danny’s face. On next day we went to see Principal with Danny. Principal knew straight way it’s HIM and was like *sigh*. Of course we asked Principal why he trust bullied teenager to be supervision at school bus which it’s not acceptance. Principal explained that he want to give him chance to be responsible guy. Principal got school counselor to meet with bullied teenager and mother but we told him that we informed police and CPS yesterday and then give him their phone numbers and also told him that “beat up to bleed” is not acceptance but we CAN deal with bullies ourselves who make fun of or tease, etc. but beat up to bleed? No Way. Principal understood and told us that he take care everything. A lot of people in village where I live, complaint to landlord about them because mother with 3 teenagers boys bullied children in playground so landlord asked City (Rental legal act) for permission before he can ask family to move out. It took few months to resolve... CPS found somewhere for family to live in city out of villages – nobody knows where they live now…but we heard from my sons that 3 teenagers are not longer at school after 3 warnings and tried talk to mother dozen of times. They are now at boarding school.
 
When I was kid that bullied was picking on me and I never stand up front of kids. I just like afarid till graduation 8 and went high school no one was picking me whew I felt good but sometime like a rare picking on me in grade 9 to 10. after grade 10 no one picking on me getting better. graduated in 1996 when I see them who was bullied on me that we just doing fine cuase in school builled around.. in adult not doing buillied anymore. me refused go near who builled around me so we just short chat then bye cause wasnt used to chat with them longer. .. I know i am not likely strong to stand up on them when I was kid. Now I am adult and they are adult didnt go around being bullied anymore and they are doing be nice no more bullied :). I am sure if you already read of my post "beat up" in my tummy.
 
Liebling:-))) said:
I noticed no word of "beat up" in 6 whole pages thread here.

I would like to ask you question what you react if your children are being beat up by bullies? What would you do?

Danny was being beat up by 15 years old bullied teenager outside of school bus when Danny was 8 years old. I never forget that’s time I was at home due US public holiday how panic I was when I saw Danny ran to my house with bleed on his nose and mouth on his way from school bus. No teeth or nose damage but just swollen mouth. My hubby & I knew straight way it’s him before Danny named him to us because he & his family had bad reputation in village where we live. I nursed him and have him tell us what happened. He told me that he sat & chat with his mate on the school bus until the bullied teenager as Supervision (accord school rule, the teenagers from 15 years old should be supervision for small children in the school bus) came to them & forbid small children to talk & must keep quiet. Danny said to him that he can’t forbid him to talk his mate. It got him mad & said to Danny “you will have one from me”. Danny informed other teenager straight way but other teenager is scared of bullied teenager so informed bus driver. Bus driver told bullied teenager to leave small children to chat each other, not play around the bus. It got bullied teenager madder & said nothing. Danny said bye to his mates & get out of school bus & walk. Suddenly he was attacked by bullied teenager where he ran and hide after got out of school bus before Danny. He got Danny back to backyard of church where nobody can see & beat him up. It’s hardly for Danny to defend himself against tall & strong bullied teenager. We were mad because principal trust to offer bullied teenager as supervision which it's unacceptance since he know his reputation. We went to mother’s house. We saw mother with 3 dogs came (she went for a walk with dogs) but mother saw Danny's face & ignored it and then accused Danny for start it and it's Danny's fault etc. and then swear at us without give us the chance to have a talk with her. Okay, she asked for it, then we went to doctor then reported police and CPS straight way. Police and CPS were like *sigh* when they heard the name. Police went to them straight way. CPS told us that she know the family because she went to see them quite often. CPS decided to do something right now after saw Danny’s face. On next day we went to see Principal with Danny. Principal knew straight way it’s HIM and was like *sigh*. Of course we asked Principal why he trust bullied teenager to be supervision at school bus which it’s not acceptance. Principal explained that he want to give him chance to be responsible guy. Principal got school counselor to meet with bullied teenager and mother but we told him that we informed police and CPS yesterday and then give him their phone numbers and also told him that “beat up to bleed” is not acceptance but we CAN deal with bullies ourselves who make fun of or tease, etc. but beat up to bleed? No Way. Principal understood and told us that he take care everything. A lot of people in village where I live, complaint to landlord about them because mother with 3 teenagers boys bullied children in playground so landlord asked City (Rental legal act) for permission before he can ask family to move out. It took few months to resolve... CPS found somewhere for family to live in city out of villages – nobody knows where they live now…but we heard from my sons that 3 teenagers are not longer at school after 3 warnings and tried talk to mother dozen of times. They are now at boarding school.
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wow.. that awful!!!! i am glad that ur son is okay...i cant believe that...
 
RebelGirl said:
I meant to tell you that.. the bully is actually my neighbor.. i've gotta put up with that bullcrap with the "neighbor".. so you and i are very similar.. :thumbd:
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I read your post earlier and was surprised to hear it was your neighbor, you and I are very similar with the situation with our own children....

You and I need to talk girl.... :mrgreen:
 
Liebling:-))) said:
I noticed no word of "beat up" in 6 whole pages thread here.

I would like to ask you question what you react if your children are being beat up by bullies? What would you do?

Danny was being beat up by 15 years old bullied teenager outside of school bus when Danny was 8 years old. I never forget that’s time I was at home due US public holiday how panic I was when I saw Danny ran to my house with bleed on his nose and mouth on his way from school bus. No teeth or nose damage but just swollen mouth. My hubby & I knew straight way it’s him before Danny named him to us because he & his family had bad reputation in village where we live. I nursed him and have him tell us what happened. He told me that he sat & chat with his mate on the school bus until the bullied teenager as Supervision (accord school rule, the teenagers from 15 years old should be supervision for small children in the school bus) came to them & forbid small children to talk & must keep quiet. Danny said to him that he can’t forbid him to talk his mate. It got him mad & said to Danny “you will have one from me”. Danny informed other teenager straight way but other teenager is scared of bullied teenager so informed bus driver. Bus driver told bullied teenager to leave small children to chat each other, not play around the bus. It got bullied teenager madder & said nothing. Danny said bye to his mates & get out of school bus & walk. Suddenly he was attacked by bullied teenager where he ran and hide after got out of school bus before Danny. He got Danny back to backyard of church where nobody can see & beat him up. It’s hardly for Danny to defend himself against tall & strong bullied teenager. We were mad because principal trust to offer bullied teenager as supervision which it's unacceptance since he know his reputation. We went to mother’s house. We saw mother with 3 dogs came (she went for a walk with dogs) but mother saw Danny's face & ignored it and then accused Danny for start it and it's Danny's fault etc. and then swear at us without give us the chance to have a talk with her. Okay, she asked for it, then we went to doctor then reported police and CPS straight way. Police and CPS were like *sigh* when they heard the name. Police went to them straight way. CPS told us that she know the family because she went to see them quite often. CPS decided to do something right now after saw Danny’s face. On next day we went to see Principal with Danny. Principal knew straight way it’s HIM and was like *sigh*. Of course we asked Principal why he trust bullied teenager to be supervision at school bus which it’s not acceptance. Principal explained that he want to give him chance to be responsible guy. Principal got school counselor to meet with bullied teenager and mother but we told him that we informed police and CPS yesterday and then give him their phone numbers and also told him that “beat up to bleed” is not acceptance but we CAN deal with bullies ourselves who make fun of or tease, etc. but beat up to bleed? No Way. Principal understood and told us that he take care everything. A lot of people in village where I live, complaint to landlord about them because mother with 3 teenagers boys bullied children in playground so landlord asked City (Rental legal act) for permission before he can ask family to move out. It took few months to resolve... CPS found somewhere for family to live in city out of villages – nobody knows where they live now…but we heard from my sons that 3 teenagers are not longer at school after 3 warnings and tried talk to mother dozen of times. They are now at boarding school.
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Oh my goodness, I'm really sorry to hear what Danny and your other son went thru, that something that should have never happened, if some parents would pay more attention to their own children maybe they wouldn't have turn out to be a bully one day, also sometimes they jumped in the wrong crowd of friends and that can happen also, its better to start teaching your children about bullies and not to mess with the wrong crowds.....

I have seen and read too many stories about bullies in school, and the problem doesn't seem to go away cause no one is really paying any attention and it needs to stop....


I'm surprise to see this pages all the way up to 7 already...AWESOME!! :giggle:
 
I am so behind on news! Sorry! I am so sorry about that, hope everything is okay now. How is your daughter doing? How did the meeting go? Let us know! Praying for you and your daughter! :hug:
 
TweetyBird said:
wow.. that awful!!!! i am glad that ur son is okay...i cant believe that...
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Yeah, that´s time Danny was 8 years old. thank you... Thank God, he is okay with no stitches, etc.
 
^Angel^ said:
Oh my goodness, I'm really sorry to hear what Danny and your other son went thru, that something that should have never happened, if some parents would pay more attention to their own children maybe they wouldn't have turn out to be a bully one day, also sometimes they jumped in the wrong crowd of friends and that can happen also, its better to start teaching your children about bullies and not to mess with the wrong crowds.....
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Thanks about my son Danny... but my young son Alan? Alan has no problem to deal with bullies because he stood himself in smart way toward bullies... No more bother him ever since. Danny is senstive than Alan but Danny learn to stand himself which it´s good. I taught them to not hit or swear back to bullies but give bullies something positive in return. My children haven´t any problem with bullies for long time now but they will come to us if their resolve with bullies is not work.

I taught my children that bullies are not acceptance at long time ago... Alan bullied other boy over front teeth like what I said in my previous post that a boy´s mother was at me... I got Alan to say sorry a boy... they are still friend since they were 6 years old.

Yeah, it´s bad if the children join wrong crowd. No problem at school for 5 years since 3 teenagers left school and village at 5 years ago. Bullies are not acceptance at my children´s school.

I have seen and read too many stories about bullies in school, and the problem doesn't seem to go away cause no one is really paying any attention and it needs to stop....
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Yeah, I read too many stories about bullies in any cities here in Germany. *sigh* It look like that they want to get attention from anyone.
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RebelGirl, I am very sorry to hear about that.

I would be so devastated if someone is bullying either one of my sweet innocent girls who are 9 and 10.

If someone is bullying my girls, I would walk into the principal's office and ask to see their policy on bullying. My girls' school does have a no-tolerance policy and will follow up on any cases if that ever occur.

If your daughter's school does not have one, go up further to the education board and demand that the school implement one period or you will raise a fuss. Because the bullying issue has gotten media attention lately so there is no excuse that your daughter's school should be behind that serious issue.

Best of luck!
 
Liebling:-))) said:
Yeah, that´s time Danny was 8 years old. thank you... Thank God, he is okay with no stitches, etc.
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he was very young... they know better not do that.. gee! but good thing that he dont get stitches or broke... whew... :hug:
 
Lieb, That's a very good post you made! I can imagine what you went thru with your kids.. I know it hurts cuz I'm feeling it now. :tears:

DeafMonkey.. I read every word you posted in here. Don't think I'm ignoring you! :ily:


Thank you for the great suggestions and your opinion has been very helpful.

I had a bad day today I'll explain tonight :cry:
 
RebelGirl said:
Lieb, That's a very good post you made! I can imagine what you went thru with your kids.. I know it hurts cuz I'm feeling it now. :tears:

DeafMonkey.. I read every word you posted in here. Don't think I'm ignoring you! :ily:


Thank you for the great suggestions and your opinion has been very helpful.

I had a bad day today I'll explain tonight :cry:
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:giggle: it is ok :hug: hehe
 
Cheri, I didn't deny anything.
Let the child stand up for self.

Because there are parents that might
get violent..

For example, remember when the father got angry with coach for rejecting his son and that father bang that coach's head on the hard floor many many times and killed him.

That father wanted his son to not have low self esteem.

Same thing with Cheerleaders' moms...
A mom wants her daughter's self esteem to be high and got angry when her daughter didn't make the team and shot the other girl who made it.

So you don't need to worry so much about your child's self esteem cause you're gonna get so obsessed.

I don't care if you put me on ignore.
 
RebelGirl said:
Lieb, That's a very good post you made! I can imagine what you went thru with your kids.. I know it hurts cuz I'm feeling it now. :tears:

DeafMonkey.. I read every word you posted in here. Don't think I'm ignoring you! :ily:


Thank you for the great suggestions and your opinion has been very helpful.

I had a bad day today I'll explain tonight :cry:
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yea i know.. take ur time..allright! :hug:
 
RebelGirl...

I just want to give you Huggs.. Hang in there. I know its so hard to deal with bullies..

I have been there for long time.. because of my son who have EBD, the kids made fun or bully him.. and my 2nd daughter too..

What I have learned... Like you went through.. just same..
Talked to parent.. parent denied..
Talked to counselor at School.. Counselor took care and discussed with
Prinicpal.. then they contacted to Bus Co...

things went wrose.. they stick by it, warned the bullies.. and removed them from bus..

Bullies threatened my son or my daughter (before).. I went to school office and told them.. they said if its outside my home.. call police.. I went ahead.. and call police.. the police warned the bullies and parent..

things settled and quiet since.. (knocks on wood)... Call police if its getting out of hand.. since its outside of school and in your home area.. its best idea to have police notify.

wish you luck and hope things ok.. huggs
 
Here's what happened....

The principal did call the bully in into the office and had a talk with her. She denied everything and said my daughter had lied about everything. My daughter comes home from school and told me what happened today at school and I said they didn't do anything to her?? She said they are putting the bully up front in the bus.

Then I get a knock on the door, I was napping (had a bad headache).. my daughter said it was the bully's mom, I told her that she will have to come back later. Then about 2 minutes later, my daughter comes in and said the bully's mom told her to stay away from her daughter. I jumped out of bed, put my shoes on and got my keys and drove over there. I go knocking on her door, she comes out with a notebook and said she wrote me a letter.. I told her I didn't want her letter and I'm here now to get this over with. She asked me why I called the principal and I didn't come to her first. I told her I came forward to her before and she did nothing about it. This is like the 5th or 6th time. She said her daughter didn't do anything wrong and didn't do those things to my daughter and that my daughter was lying, a troublemaker, and has a bad attitude. I laughed at her and told her.. compared to your daughter?? I told her that no one is this neighborhood likes her or your other daughter. Tell me why they don't come out and play?? she said that's none of your business.. I said oh yeah it is.. its all about bullying and i live in this neighborhood and we have to put up with your girl's bullshit.

She said how do you know her daughter was bullying my kid.. I said I have witnesses that have said she was picking on my kid and calling her names. The kids in the bus said they told the bully to shut up.. stop it.. etc.
She said did i see them.. and i said no.. then i said did you see my kid doing anything to her? she said no.. then I said did you try to find out if your daughter is really doing this.. I told her I did! I talked to the school, the bus driver, and some students.. they all the say the same thing that her daughter has caused trouble! Then i told her that they were jealous of my daughter cuz she's got allt he friends she got and they don't..

Then she said I'm WARNING YOU if you or your daughter come any closer to my kids, i'll call the cops for harrassment. I told her "I have proof of evidence that she has done crap to my kid and other kids and that's no problem.. cuz I'll be sure to call the cops for your kid harrassing my child.. you have no proof! I also have the school watching her too! and GO AHEAD AND TRY ME!" then she said stay away from her family.. and i said "i'm warning you again.. if you mess with my kid.. i've got proof and you all stay the hell away from my daughter.. your daughters need to be disciplined!" she said "GET OUT OF MY FUCKING PROPERTY!" I scoffed and said whatever and walked away.. then she slammed the door so hard that her trailer shook!

so now.. i feel better that i had my say! on the other hand.. i'm worried what's gonna happen next. I just feel that they'll find revenge.. the bully can turn around and say my daughter did this and that for something she didn't do. the bully is vindictive!

I'm not trying to be harsh but the mother was harsh to me especially saying those things in front of my child. I think I did the right thing.
 
Dang!!!!!!!!!!!! That woman is damn :crazy: You or your daughter do not deserve that kind of bullsh.t from them. Damn, I hope everything works out the best for you and your daughter.

You are not the only one here. My baby nephew been thru it and the kids who been messing with my nephew were suspensed for 4 days because of that. They have not messed with my nephew ever since. *knocks on wood*. We have ZERO TOLERENCE at our schools and we really take it very serious. So I hope everything works out for the best for both of you. Sigh, man you both dont deserve that. :hug: for you and your daughter.

Will pray for both of you!
 
Oh RebelGirl, I am so sorry that things didn't go well after the meeting with the principal today. You did what you thought was the best. I applaud you for standing up for your daughter.
Now you are worried about what is going to happen to your daughter next. If I were in your shoes I would not put her back in the same bus with that bully again for the sake of her safety. Others might disagree with me but being an overprotective mother myself I just don't want to see your daughter to get hurt.
 
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