Second Chance

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Calvin

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Hello ADers,

This is a long video (19 mins) which says it all. This comes to a true story and very common for deaf children around the world. This is a perfect example how this should take place and to educate hearing parents who have deaf kids.

Enjoy! and please comment as you wish.

Video: Second Chance
 
Very sad. And too bad not more parents choose to sign.
 
It's a very heartfelt video. I think every hearing parents of a deaf child should watch this video.
 
Ohhhhhh that really made me cry. I want to post this on my facebook..what's the link to it?

Parents need to learn sign language for their children and it is an utter shame that they dont. This video shows how truly a miracle it is for the mother to learn sign language before her daughter's death.

I would love to show this to all of my students' parents who never bothered. Would love for some of the parents here on AD who are believers of the oralist philosophy to see this as well.
 
Some people are lucky that they even learn sign language anywhere even if they didn't sign at home. I was hardly exposed to it. (except occasionally at church when i was a teen)
 
you know what, my mother and I never had a very good communication. She died young too so we never will.
 
that s excellent story. I m little cry. I will add it to my Facebook.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
you know what, my mother and I never had a very good communication. She died young too so we never will.
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My heartfelt condolences go out to you.

I worry that it will happen with my mom and my brother since she doesnt know any ASL and my brother has no oral skills. Even with oral skills, I still missed out on a lot what my family have said growing up. I always got the "oh nothings" like the family did to the girl in the video. When I saw that part, it stirred a strong emotion inside me. It is just not fair to us, deaf people to suffer just because our hearing family members dont want to take the time nor the effort to learn sign language.
 
Thanks

One thing that make my mother different from the mother in the video is that she was not as paranoid (You can't go because you can't hear)

I guess it is because my mother already had three independent deaf aunts so that helped alittle (I hardly ever got to meet them)
 
Lighthouse77 said:
Thanks

One thing that make my mother different from the mother in the video is that she was not as paranoid (You can't go because you can't hear)

I guess it is because my mother already had three independent deaf aunts so that helped alittle (I hardly ever got to meet them)
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My parents were never overbearing either and they let my brother and I roam freely in the neighborhood, in the woods, at the park and etc.

My brother and I were lucky we didnt get kidnapped as there were plenty of opportunites! That's how life growing up in the late 70s and early 80s was like. Kids stayed outside all day until sundown. Ah, the good ol' days.

I am sure my mom worried about our deafness putting us at more risk than our hearing friends but my brother and I were smart enough to use our eyes to keep us safe.
 
shel90 said:
My parents were never overbearing either and they let my brother and I roam freely in the neighborhood, in the woods, at the park and etc.

My brother and I were lucky we didnt get kidnapped as there were plenty of opportunites! That's how life growing up in the late 70s and early 80s was like. Kids stayed outside all day until sundown. Ah, the good ol' days.

I am sure my mom worried about our deafness putting us at more risk than our hearing friends but my brother and I were smart enough to use our eyes to keep us safe.
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That part was what made me saddest. I couldn't have a bike or do any of the really fun things as I might get hurt.

Of course then at 18 they dumped me in a group home, so I have always felt it was a false concern.

(Might be why I am a little weird.)
 
:( you seem like the person who is very capable to do all those things. And I don't think you are weird.
 
It is a very good video and sad that the hearing parents refuse to learn sign langauge like ASL and later have got to learn sign language so that the family and Deaf child can communicate better. Many hearing parents and siblings are not aware what deafness is like. They think all deaf children no matter how many degrees of hearing loss are suppose to be skill in oral language without signs. Not true. Very few oral kids can read lips but not accurate. That is why it is important for hearing parents and siblings to learn sign language to help the deaf children better than oral.

My parents and my sister don't sign while I was growing up. As a Adult, I tried to encourage my parents to learn sign language and I told them that it is never too late to learn sign language, but they don't want to. Later my sister only learn fingerspell to communicate with me sometimes. Only my son sign while growing up with me as a parent. It is very sad that I got bitter over my parents and my sister for not learning the sign language to help me communicate better with them. It made it harder to be closer to my family, and I stray away from them. :(

Thank-you, Calvin, for showing the video for "Second Chance".
 
Can someone post a summary of the video? (I realize 19 min is a bit long to transcribe.) :ty::ty:
 
CJB said:
Can someone post a summary of the video? (I realize 19 min is a bit long to transcribe.) :ty::ty:
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Just to let you know, they have some signing and spoken interpreter, and even I couldn't get everything. So I'm out of the loop to certain degree as well. I had to play it over 5 times to pick up the some of the spoken languages.
 
The idea of NOT signing is so completely foreign to me. I can't imagine a parent would not want to do everything the can to communicate with their kid. I can't even fathom HOW you'd raise a child with no communication method.

I have some family members who are extremely resistant to learn sign, even basic single signs. They want to rely on me or my other child to interpret for them but I won't have it. I will show them the sign and tell them to talk to her themselves. I've already made it plainly clear that if they can not learn enough to care for her there will be no solo visits/sleepovers with either of the girls. I don't expect fluency... they just need to be able to communicate the basics and understand what she's trying to say.

I understand wanting speech for your child, but, as the Rolling Stones said, "You can't always get what you want."
 
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