What Ticks You Off (Most) About The Deaf Culture?
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What ticked me off was how everyone knew my business from my telling one person so I just stopped sharing too much with anyone but my family and best friends. Since then, I havent really had too many problems with the Deaf community. Everyone has their flaws including me so why sweat all the small stuff?
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Right now, I am from Australia and you all know that. I was pretty ticked off with the deaf community of Sydney in my age group (No offense, Sydneysiders, if you are here) all they do is to gossip stuff around which is not true. It has been around for a while now. I am currently staying away from Sydney for a while. (Lucky, I live 3 hours drive from Sydney, in another city)
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Looks like the biggest peeve for you regarding deaf culture is also the biggest peeve many deaf have with hearing culture. Guess there is ethnocentricsim everywhere!
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I haven't been involved in the deaf community enough to be able to answer that.
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They argue that hearing people should treat them with respect. Yet, they go around acting like... "Deaf Power!"
That's like a black person saying that a white people should treat them with respect, then they go around rejecting whites and going "Black Power!"
What about those that are stuck between? I'm hard-of-hearing. I have a hard time mingling with the hearing world because I'm deaf to them. I have a hard time mingling with the deaf world because I'm not deaf enough to them.
I know a lot of people who are HOH and are strongly involved with the deaf community. I think it's a relevant concern that you brought up because that does seem to happen in some places.
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They argue that hearing people should treat them with respect. Yet, they go around acting like... "Deaf Power!"
That's like a black person saying that a white people should treat them with respect, then they go around rejecting whites and going "Black Power!"
What about those that are stuck between? I'm hard-of-hearing. I have a hard time mingling with the hearing world because I'm deaf to them. I have a hard time mingling with the deaf world because I'm not deaf enough to them.
I gotta be honest with u...there are times I feel like going around saying "Deaf Power" but not because I want to discriminate anyone. It is cuz all of my life I have been made to feel inferior to hearing people due to them telling me constantly that I cant do this or that or with how they treated me with all those "never minds" or "u just wont understand". Anytime I get into a situation when someone says or acts that they are better than me or say they have more independence than me cuz they can hear, then that is when I feel very much like a Deaf militant cuz it is my way of showing them that I am a person who is just as capable. Hope that makes sense.
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Makes a lot of sense. For every action is an opposite and equal reaction.
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It's true. Self-esteem is a wonderful thing . . . until it morphs through chauvanism into supremacy.
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Agreed.
They argue that hearing people should treat them with respect. Yet, they go around acting like... "Deaf Power!"
That's like a black person saying that a white people should treat them with respect, then they go around rejecting whites and going "Black Power!"
What about those that are stuck between? I'm hard-of-hearing. I have a hard time mingling with the hearing world because I'm deaf to them. I have a hard time mingling with the deaf world because I'm not deaf enough to them.
Wow! I agree with you 100%, I'm glad I'm not alone in this, same here I have a hard time mingling with the deaf world also because I sign SEE most of the time, and I never attended school for the deaf, so to them, I'm not deaf enough but, however I think we should be thankful that we know sign language no matter whether its ASL/SEE/PSE, I don't understand why do we have to be like everyone else?. I must say I was surprised and speechless to get that kind of response from deaf people like me, and how they picked on the way I signed. It's quite sad to see that too. Perhaps they need to stop looking down on us and others, accept the fact that everyone is different. It's similar to accents, parts of the country here in the USA, the way they speak according to their geographical area will be different from another area, we don't see them picking on one another for how they may speak differently. So why does the deaf culture being so hellbent and fussy with how one signs or chooses to sign? I don't get that and don't understand why we have to put down those who signs one way and not the other way. To me, signing, no matter what format, it's communicating and without it, (any of it), we sure would be lost and writing a whole lot more just to get our communication across!! Rather than picking apart the Deaf Culture and the way signing ought to be, at least we can be encouraging and be thankful we're able to communicate with one another, even if some signs might be done differently.
No culture is perfect, we aren't perfect, but we sure don't need to pick apart our own culture just because we don't sign in the way others want it to be.
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What ticks me the most about this is the DST (Deaf Standard Time), or so to speak.
Sometime it doesn't bother me but sometime it does. For example, I'd be with a group of friends at an event. We would be chatting about general stuffs and when it is time to close up, the group would be moving from one spot to the next spot, and to the other next spot SLOWLY. I'm like "Hello? I don't have all day to wait."
To a point, It peeves me because it's like when you need to go, Just go and get over with it instead of milking the clock up. If I was not in a hurry, I wouldn't care about it because I'd like to chit chat about other stuffs but when I am in a hurry, that's when I need to make a move and get going.
Sometime it doesn't bother me but sometime it does. For example, I'd be with a group of friends at an event. We would be chatting about general stuffs and when it is time to close up, the group would be moving from one spot to the next spot, and to the other next spot SLOWLY. I'm like "Hello? I don't have all day to wait."
To a point, It peeves me because it's like when you need to go, Just go and get over with it instead of milking the clock up. If I was not in a hurry, I wouldn't care about it because I'd like to chit chat about other stuffs but when I am in a hurry, that's when I need to make a move and get going.
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What ticks me the most about this is the DST (Deaf Standard Time), or so to speak.
Sometime it doesn't bother me but sometime it does. For example, I'd be with a group of friends at an event. We would be chatting about general stuffs and when it is time to close up, the group would be moving from one spot to the next spot, and to the other next spot SLOWLY. I'm like "Hello? I don't have all day to wait."
To a point, It peeves me because it's like when you need to go, Just go and get over with it instead of milking the clock up. If I was not in a hurry, I wouldn't care about it because I'd like to chit chat about other stuffs but when I am in a hurry, that's when I need to make a move and get going.
Deaf people love to milk the clock, it's the deaf way
!! I totally agree with you, After my first brief encounter with a few deaf people in real life, they find every part of you wrong in their eyes, like if you speak, raised oral, learned sign language in your lated adult life, you're no part of the deaf culture. Not all Deaf people are the same, Being different is not the defining characteristic of "you're not deaf like us"
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Deaf people love to milk the clock, it's the deaf way
Jclarke, that is exactly right. It becomes a habit and it is like a book that is really hard to put down and just want to finish at the end of the story. I have been there and done that. Uh, Jollie_77, I understand your frustration when you need to hurry to do what you have to do. You will just have to tell them that you are leaving and got to run for something that you need to do. But the deaf friends will still stay around to chat some more and that is the Deaf way which is part of Deaf Culture. I hope you understand what I am saying here.
