I would love to share what my thoughts about Deaf, Hearing and in between people. I can understand why his reaction been like that.
I tried to talk with some people who are "in between" trying to understand what WE (Deafies, not deafies) were missing from? I am not saying who is right and who is wrong. Really, no body is right, nobody is wrong period.
I can see why hearing people made so much deal with hearing issues than anything else. It was not their intention to be like that. However, Deafies were very upset that Hearing people were ignorant. I can understand why they felt that way and like I said in the beginning that no one is right, no one is wrong.
What I just said were based on my life experience and what I have been though. I have seen almost ALL "walks of life" and I see the root of the problem. It is just a sense itself that is the problem.
I have observed born blind people,
I have observed how specific animals pick and used one of these senses.
I have worked in Relay industry and have met thousands of faces for more than 5 years. This helped me understand whats the problem between H and D
I have heard a story of born Blind who finally had eye implant and were able to see again and over-reacted and wanted to go back to blind again, his response to why really hits my understand of whats between Hearing and Deaf people were, and it is just sense itself.
I have met and chatted with a person with specific disability that I find difficult to understand his/her disability, that got my thoughts in the same way how Hearing people are trying to understand Deafness. (I wish I can share what is this specific disability but, because there are very limited number of people having that specific disability and I don't want anyone to figure out who... Privacy is respected)
To make it short, Hearing people were born and learn how to use sounds first as I believed and picked it up and use it much more than any other senses, resulting they find verbal to be the best method of communication and map their own environment than visual. We the Deafies don't have that opportunity so we will NEVER know what it is. We, the Deafies born Deaf and learn using our sense, feel of our environment which develops our understand of what we see and feel and respond accordingly.
Just like dogs, when they born, first 2 weeks can they really see anything? We all know FOR sure, no, they were blind to begin with. They use their nose, sniffing sniffing to learn their environment and to locate the food. They use nose more than anything else, the result? Rest of their life, they sniffing all the times, like in rear to identify other dogs, We don't do that, thank God!
I believe that the sounds were very similiar as visual like various color, brightness, contrast and whatever the sounds is like. We, the Deafies "sees" is like maybe only three different "Images" as a sounds and can not see any more than that. How can Deafies be able to understand arrays of the sounds where they don't see much? Even after years of training, how can that help? This is the reason why Hearing people NEEDS to adapt with our (Deafies) losses, but the problem is Majority of Hearing people don't understand the issues we are having.
Again, it is all about sense really.
I would love to chat with people, preferred 100% CODA with excellent understand of Hearing people and the world of sounds. I tried to find right CODA to chat with and try to learn about Hearing and try to get the idea of the world of the sounds. If your one of them can start off though PM and maybe Videoconferencing.
Enuff talk, but that is what have been on my mind in the last 5 years. Again remind that there is no "Right or wrong" in this case, and it is only about sense. So, I don't want to offend anyone nor drama. Drama over this post is not going to be tolerated, thanks.