I need Crush advice..?

Okay, This is probably the most awkardest thing for me to ask but I need one.
This guy name Jay, he's hearing and i'm hard of hearing. We're both percussionist. and I found out he liked me like 3 or 2 months ago when we were in honor band. I also had a crush on him as well. I got his screenname online and I accidently told him that i had a crush on him when it was supposed to go to a friend of mine. he admitted he liked me too. but then the next day i found out he blocked me when i went on my old screenname to get a screenname that my friend lost. I was torn. But then I had the guts to tell him that I missed being friends with him and being 2 goofballs that we were before. I still have a crush on him and I think he does too..He's probably going to be busy online and i know we both have marching band training this month on june 23rd. Which is okay for me because i'll get to see him.. But for the most part i also found out that before he blocked me on AOL, someone told me that he was going to ask me out as his girlfriend in high school. I felt like I ruined everything. and i wanted to fix it. But idk what my chances are now of him asking me out. Should I take it slow or what. because I've been having these mixed emotions about this. It's a hard emotion to describe. Since my friendship/relationship with jay has been on a rollar coaster. Help??

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Just go with the flow. If you keep blurting out too many things or expressing too many confusing things, then it will get out of hand. Stop trying too hard. Just go with the flow.

Try being friends again and see how it goes from there.

Ok, I see that you are oh so young at 14. If I had to be 14 again, I would have let all the boys alone, saved my virginity which I lost at 15, over 20 yrs ago! This Jay guy has way too much power over your thinking and behavior whether he know's it or not. It's nice that you are here and keep in mind, i am only one individual; not all the ADers are thinking along my lines. Just so you know. I say just be friends with him, don't force anything and if he wants to take you out, go but don't ever give him the power over your thinking/behavor.

NEWIDME said:

Ok, I see that you are oh so young at 14. If I had to be 14 again, I would have let all the boys alone, saved my virginity which I lost at 15, over 20 yrs ago! This Jay guy has way too much power over your thinking and behavior whether he know's it or not. It's nice that you are here and keep in mind, i am only one individual; not all the ADers are thinking along my lines. Just so you know. I say just be friends with him, don't force anything and if he wants to take you out, go but don't ever give him the power over your thinking/behavor.

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I agree with you..I wish I had focused on more important things,especially broadening my horizons, than on boys when I was in high school. I understand that being a teenager, emotions run wild and everything.

JJust go with the flow and most important of all, be yourself! I know it is hard when you are feeling this way. I have been there and even adults go through things like that too.

Good luck!

shel90 said:

I agree with you..I wish I had focused on more important things,especially broadening my horizons, than on boys when I was in high school. I understand that being a teenager, emotions run wild and everything.

JJust go with the flow and most important of all, be yourself! I know it is hard when you are feeling this way. I have been there and even adults go through things like that too.

Good luck!

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thanks. my mom was telling me about that. My mom also told me that most guys don't really care about girls in middle school or when they're a freshman/sohpmore in high school. I mean I don't reallly care about dating that much. I'm pretty much your average girl who wears a t-shirt and jeans with tennis shoes or flip-flops and wears her hair into a ponytail all the time. But ever since Jay likes me, i became pretty excited about that because no guy has ever liked 'liked' me before. Just like me as friends. But this is my first time having a guy to like 'like' me. I dated a deaf guy who is 3 years older than me but it didn't feel right. so I decided i wanted to date someone that is at the same age as me. And Hearing..idk y my feelings feel right by dating a hearing. But really. but after having the guts to talk to him, i told him i missed us being 2 goofballs and just being friends and i missed talking to him on the aim. but he said he was sry that he wasnt talking to me much, he was busy with things like school. I didn't bring the whole blocking thing to him at all. soo..yeah.

coolgirlspyer90 said:

thanks. my mom was telling me about that. My mom also told me that most guys don't really care about girls in middle school or when they're a freshman/sohpmore in high school. I mean I don't reallly care about dating that much. I'm pretty much your average girl who wears a t-shirt and jeans with tennis shoes or flip-flops and wears her hair into a ponytail all the time. But ever since Jay likes me, i became pretty excited about that because no guy has ever liked 'liked' me before. Just like me as friends. But this is my first time having a guy to like 'like' me. I dated a deaf guy who is 3 years older than me but it didn't feel right. so I decided i wanted to date someone that is at the same age as me. And Hearing..idk y my feelings feel right by dating a hearing. But really. but after having the guts to talk to him, i told him i missed us being 2 goofballs and just being friends and i missed talking to him on the aim. but he said he was sry that he wasnt talking to me much, he was busy with things like school. I didn't bring the whole blocking thing to him at all. soo..yeah.

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Hey even at 30 years old, I went thru the same self-doubts, emotional roller-coaster, and nervousness with a guy that I liked so much at Gallaudet. The whole stupid saga lasted for 2 years until I realized that he was playing me to use me. Even adults deal with stuff like that..just have to live and learn. Now, I learned from my mistakes and wont let anything like that last toooo long. LOL!

Good luck with the guy.

shel90 said:

Hey even at 30 years old, I went thru the same self-doubts, emotional roller-coaster, and nervousness with a guy that I liked so much at Gallaudet. The whole stupid saga lasted for 2 years until I realized that he was playing me to use me. Even adults deal with stuff like that..just have to live and learn. Now, I learned from my mistakes and wont let anything like that last toooo long. LOL!

Good luck with the guy.

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oo..yikes.. that must've sucked.. I haven't talked to him for awhile now. whenever he goes online I just immeditaly IM him.. i have GOT to stop doing that.. its hard not to cuz i like him you know. Soo... I know him from last year in the summer when we had middle school band camp, and when we were 8th graders we go to 2 different middle schools. I have 3 different middle schools im my home area, I go to Tower Heights Middle School. He goes to Watts Middle school. so in honor band (we had to sign up for that) I didnt know he was in honor band too since we're both percussionist. and I became kinda shy around him. We had honor band for 3 months at least. (jan,feb,march) and I noticed him talking to me more, and flirting with me more, and I started feeling more comfortable around him and I started to like him that way because he was being nice to me and treating me the way I wanted to be respected and be friends with. He's also a skate boarder boy..forgot to mention that.hehe. so after honor band thats when I accidently told him i had a crush on him. he lied to me he had a girlfriend named Sarah Mia. I thought it was kinda funny because Sarah Mia rhymes to me you know. anyways later that day it was dinner and he IMs back saying he lied about the girlfriend thing to hide his true feelings. and then the next day he blocked me. then after 4 weeks i Imed him again on my different screenname saying that i missed him,etc. and i didn't bring the whole blocking thing up to him because i did that by mistake with another guy who i thought liked me but didn't. and we had an arguement about it. so i didnt want to make that mistake again. So we're pretty much off to a friendship start after honor band and last year band camp when we were in middle school. What do you think i should do now? He's offline right now tho.