Non Health Related Off Topic Issues

I wanted to lay out some few things in this thread.

I've noticed that there are a lot of threads that are often hijacked with mental disorder issues. There are a lot of threads that are non-health related being hijacked with comments regarding of mental disorder discussions. This really need to be stopped because it loses the purpose of a certain thread when other members would like to be able to discuss a specific topic rather than letting the thread go astray with mental disroder issues or rather, letting it be overlapped by a conversation that leads to elsewhere. It's been given the repeatable cycle. It's like asking for a broken record to be played over and over again.

This is not in a way to say that I'm insensitive or being mean about it. I'm not saying that you shouldn't be doing this or that. This is to only to make it clear that if any one of you want to discuss about a certain issue - It'd be better to create another thread or go to a correct thread that is health related to a mental disorder topic that you wish to discuss. Please at least give some respect to other threads and discuss about the original issue. At least, stick to to the original thread instead of discussing a whole different issue on a thread that is not even related to the original post.

I think it would also be fair enough for other threads to have a breather and to discuss about this certain topic for what thread it has to offer.

Also, I've noticed a thing after another - When a thread goes astray with mental disorder issues, I often see that there is almost NO respect at all for going off topic and it continues to be off topic. I'm not talking about one or two posts that goes off topic. It's fine to be off topic once in a while but when it is constantly off topic - that is where it needs to be changed.

If you guys have any feedback or wish to discuss about this issue, Please do so and of course, with respect as well.

I agree. A lot of the threads are turning into a mental health issue. Some posters have said other posters are insensitive towards their illness and posts triggers their illness. We do not know what triggers what. A public forum may not be the best place to go if it triggers negative emotions and memories.

Sorry for going offttopic..sometimes, I click on the "last" post of a thread without looking at the topic and respond to that post without thinking whether it was offtopic or not. Bad habit, I guess.

shel90 said:

Sorry for going offttopic..sometimes, I click on the "last" post of a thread without looking at the topic and respond to that post without thinking whether it was offtopic or not. Bad habit, I guess.

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There are two ways to do it...

Clicking on takes you to the first UNREAD post in that thread. If you've already visited that thread in the past and 7 new posts were made to that thread later, clicking on that would take you to the first of those 7 new posts.

Clicking on takes you to the last post in that thread. It doesn't matter if it was READ or UNREAD, it's still the last post in that thread. By clicking on that, you're missing out a lot of what's going on in the thread.

Babyblue said:

I agree. A lot of the threads are turning into a mental health issue. Some posters have said other posters are insensitive towards their illness and posts triggers their illness. We do not know what triggers what. A public forum may not be the best place to go if it triggers negative emotions and memories.

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I agree.

If it bothers you, don't go any further. Just ignore it.

This is a public forum. We can't be expected to change everything so that it satisfies one person because it was offensive or caused nightmares.

If it was an one-on-one conversation through IM, PM, VM, or in person... then feel free to express your concerns if that other person does or says something that offended you or caused mental harm to you.

If it's in a public thread related to another subject, then jumping in and telling everyone that it gave you nightmares is like trying to ruin the thread when that wasn't their intention.

I'm also guilty of going off topic once in a while.

I'm sure we all are.

VamPyroX said:

I agree.

If it bothers you, don't go any further. Just ignore it.

This is a public forum. We can't be expected to change everything so that it satisfies one person because it was offensive or caused nightmares.

If it was an one-on-one conversation through IM, PM, VM, or in person... then feel free to express your concerns if that other person does or says something that offended you or caused mental harm to you.

If it's in a public thread related to another subject, then jumping in and telling everyone that it gave you nightmares is like trying to ruin the thread when that wasn't their intention.

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exactly!!

I feel it is making a lot of posters feel like they are walking on an eggshell. It is not fair to them.

Just an opinion.

Babyblue said:

I agree. A lot of the threads are turning into a mental health issue. Some posters have said other posters are insensitive towards their illness and posts triggers their illness. We do not know what triggers what. A public forum may not be the best place to go if it triggers negative emotions and memories.

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I agree.

Don't get me wrong - I do enjoy reading information that comes in light which are related to the mental health issues. Some of them I find so interesting to read.

A public forum is only to serve for everyone else to participate in it rather than letting everyone else stay on the fence being unsure of what to say just because it is unsettling for a certain member. It shouldn't be like this at all.

Also another thing is -- This forum is not the place where a person can come to ask for professional help. We cannot help him/her with that. They will still need to see their counselor/psychiatrist.

That is why I brought this thread up to make it clear that it is still ok to discuss about mental health issues but at the same time, at least - to bring some respect for other threads that has nothing to do with mental health issues.

As for walking on the eggshell - We shouldn't be treated like this or to deserve this.

Jolie77 said:

I agree.

Don't get me wrong - I do enjoy reading information that comes in light which are related to the mental health issues. Some of them I find so interesting to read.

A public forum is only to serve for everyone else to participate in it rather than letting everyone else stay on the fence being unsure of what to say just because it is unsettling for a certain member. It shouldn't be like this at all.

Also another thing is -- This forum is not the place where a person can come to ask for professional help. We cannot help him/her with that. They will still need to see their counselor/psychiatrist.

That is why I brought this thread up to make it clear that it is still ok to discuss about mental health issues but at the same time, at least - to bring some respect for other threads that has nothing to do with mental health issues.

As for walking on the eggshell - We shouldn't be treated like this or to deserve this.

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I agree.

One question if, I may ask.

How do you mods and this site handle "suicide threats" online. Are these people reported to their local authority?

If not, I feel they all should be.

Jolie77 said:

I agree.

Don't get me wrong - I do enjoy reading information that comes in light which are related to the mental health issues. Some of them I find so interesting to read.

A public forum is only to serve for everyone else to participate in it rather than letting everyone else stay on the fence being unsure of what to say just because it is unsettling for a certain member. It shouldn't be like this at all.

Also another thing is -- This forum is not the place where a person can come to ask for professional help. We cannot help him/her with that. They will still need to see their counselor/psychiatrist.

That is why I brought this thread up to make it clear that it is still ok to discuss about mental health issues but at the same time, at least - to bring some respect for other threads that has nothing to do with mental health issues.

As for walking on the eggshell - We shouldn't be treated like this or to deserve this.

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Thank you so much because today I felt fed up with walking on eggshells and flowering up my posts to mollycoddle some people.

They should take personal responsibility themselves, not us. It's odd when members ask us to watch how we word our posts so we don't trigger them when we should feel comfortable posting here.

It's all about personal responsibility here, don't post too much information that can damage you here on the internet.

i'm sorry, but i don't see anywhere any ad'er has specifically requested that someone else not post something because it is a trigger. if any of you can point me in the direction of a post and/or thread where this has happened, i would appreciate it.

having said that, i admit my responsibility in talking about bipolar when it is off-topic and getting too wound up in some threads so that i rapid cycle. i'm trying to improve on my ability to leave threads that annoy or irritate me.

LOL @ Miss Bucket twisting words.

funny how someone without mental illness can tell the rest of us to take personal responsibility when they have NO idea what it's like to have mental illness.

i'd also like to say one more thing and this will be the last comment i make in this thread for now. i have problems with rapid cycling due to my bipolar and am doing the best i can to leave threads that irritate or anger me. having said that, rapid cycling is still something i can't help and will always be an issue for me despite my being on meds. the fact is, there are going to be times where i rapid cycle. there's nothing i can do to prevent that. at the same time, i will do everything i can to remove myself from those threads which have the potential to cause rapid cycling.

i also think those who admittedly feign suicidal ideations and psychosis ought to be permanently banned from ad.

It's true that people without mental illnesses might not understand all that's involved but that's even more reason not to expect us to word our posts in ways that won't trigger a rapid cycle or some other negative mental reaction. The posters without mental illnesses are not responsible for the mental health issues of other posters.

No one should mock or be harsh about mental illness but neither should posters be afraid to engage in debate lest someone be blamed for setting off another poster's mental upset.

Mrs Bucket said:

Thank you so much because today I felt fed up with walking on eggshells and flowering up my posts to mollycoddle some people.

They should take personal responsibility themselves, not us. It's odd when members ask us to watch how we word our posts so we don't trigger them when we should feel comfortable posting here.

It's all about personal responsibility here, don't post too much information that can damage you here on the internet.

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I agree. It's about personal responsiblity and I am one that does take personal responsiblity for the things that trigger me. If I find myself getting upset, I leave. Having said that, I also think and feel it's perfectly OK for us to say to someone "That triggered me." It's about empowerment. Unless you've been in our situations, you shouldn't judge. If you feel like you've walked on eggshells around people, use ignore. It's very simple. You can also use your PM and send a message, too.

Until you walk a mile in someone's shoes, you shouldn't judge.

This is a two way street. Post whatever you want, but if someone is offended - deal with it. People get offended either way. Don't expect to post POTENTIALLY offensive material and then whine and cry when someone doesn't like it.

Emphasis: two-way-street.

someone suggested in another thread, not sure where and im too lazy to look it up, that a private section be created called Psych Ward i believe it was for mental health topic discussions.

Oceanbreeze said:

I agree. It's about personal responsiblity and I am one that does take personal responsiblity for the things that trigger me. If I find myself getting upset, I leave. Having said that, I also think and feel it's perfectly OK for us to say to someone "That triggered me." It's about empowerment. Unless you've been in our situations, you shouldn't judge. If you feel like you've walked on eggshells around people, use ignore. It's very simple. You can also use your PM and send a message, too.

Until you walk a mile in someone's shoes, you shouldn't judge.

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I am not judging anyone at all. I have always believed personal responsibility was each person's own.

When I get upset, I leave too. Today I actually typed "STFU" when I normally keep my cool.

I prefer not to use ignore because how can we deal with reality if we use the ignore button. In reality, there's no ignore button.

I've yet to judge a person here in AD and why would I want to?

Honestly, it's tiring to go through this. Reba just said it all for me.

We feel we aren't able to meet anyone halfway at all if anyone accuses us of judging, or any other action.