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Has anyone ever been bullied by someone or a group of people in real life or online? and how do you protect yourself from a bully and how do you handle this sort of situation?...

Please share your stories and views here... :)
 
I have been bullied, countless of times. Mostly in high school years. Mostly were name calling, being beat up, and all that. There was nothing I could do to protect myself, they did it without anyone witnessing or didn't care about it. I was out of luck. :(
 
Same here, no wonder why there is such event like Columbine! Eric Smith's hindeous crime about 14 years ago, etc.

If same thing happens to my son, I will take it SERIOUSLY! I can NOT tolerate this childish behavior of bully.

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I have been bullied, countless of times. Mostly in high school years. Mostly were name calling, being beat up, and all that. There was nothing I could do to protect myself, they did it without anyone witnessing or didn't care about it. I was out of luck. :(
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^Angel^ said:
Have you ever been bullied by someone or a group of people in real life or online? and how do you protect yourself from a bully and how do you handle this sort of situation?
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Let me share a story from my experience, and it relates to my old high school days. :)

Now, remember, I was a kid who didn't learn all the good ways to deal with hard situations - childhood programming, I suppose, to not make it so easy for me to stand up for myself.

I had a so called "best friend" (she proclaimed herself that) who was always badmouthing about me behind my back, and sometimes she'll belittle me too. I always felt I had to walk on cracked eggshells around her - albeit I've had some good times with her, when she wasn't on "bullying" mode. This went on for about 4 years, with me staying away here and there, hanging out with other friends. I don't remember ever standing up to her before my senior year.

The final straw was when I had found out she was once again spreading shit about me... I walked up to her and confronted her, and I remember throwing the word "bitch" in there - she was really stunned to the point of slapping me. I didn't fight back, but I smiled. I also wrote her a letter saying she was the queen of bitches. Heh. Then she had one of her friends who bought her crap without hearing me out - you know, one of those friends who was popular and didn't really dig at depths even if she had the intelligence? I was made the bad guy - and worse, my "childhood programming" kicked in, so I didn't want to talk with her about my side. That pisses me off when I froze in these moments when I think I could've gotten a good word in. :crazy:

Granted, I could have done things differently with all the knowledge I have now. :greddy: Life's just funny that way. We all have a problem with a sense of loss in control in these things - and I think a good way to take it back is to own up to our feelings and reactions. I'm still angry about what happened in high school, yes... and I own that. :)

Some of us put together a blog on bullies - http://antibullying.blogspot.com
Let us know what you think!
 
I forgot to add that the moral of all bullying experiences, is to know where to own your stuff and where to NOT be fooled into owning stuff that isn't yours but instead is the "bully"'s stuff. And what you do with that knowledge is entirely a different matter. Any bad social or childhood programming can really mess up our radar or filter in dealing with these things, so that also needs to be resolved by allowing yourself to learn better and healthier patterns in dealing with bullies and your own stuff - IMO.
 
I was being bullied back in junior high, When I had been pushed, shoveled against hallway walls, just because there some hearings that didn't like deaf students, Of course I stood up for myself and told this person off and even report this person to the Principal's office. Ever since then didn't bother me anymore.

I've been bullied on line too, I think it is just because there are some people who thinks I get upset too easy. I've learned that I don't let them get the best of me. It's hard to believe that bullies on line are mothers, married/single or an adult acting this way, It's not a good lesson to be teaching their own children how to respect others the way they want to be respect. I think those who bully on line need to get a life, get off the Internet and do something in their life, instead of bully those on-liners around.

All you can really do is ignore the person who is a bully. Don't scoop in the same level in what they are doing to you. They are nothing but, troublemaker. :mrgreen:
 
Yes, I've been bullied few times in my life.

While I was in middle school there this deaf girl who wouldn't stop punching my shoulder because I had no shoulders. :dunno: One day she punched me so hard and of course I was furious! I waited until I gained my strength then I gave her a one b-i-i-i-i-ig punch on her shoulder. The look on her face was classic and of course she was in so much pain. Now she can imagine how I felt. She never punched me again, ever. A year later my shoulder broadened. I guess that's from climbing up the tree so much? :rofl:

Again the following year I was also bullied by the same group people (the girl who hit me and her friends) who they thought that my old best friend and I were lesbians. We were being constant teased so much and we went home crying to our mom. We were told to ignore them then eventually they'll stop and they did. :thumb:

Nineth grade, my very good (male) friend and I hung around *a lot* because we trust each other and enjoyed each other company, but there was no attraction between us. Though *everyone* (just deaf) at the high school were constantly teasing us so bad and they were very mean to us. See why I have trust issues with people because the things they do and say just hurts me a lot. I learned to ignore these type of people and move on.

I have no intention of going to the reunions. If they ever come to me and apologize, I'd simply say, :fu2: . If they want to be my friend, I'd tell them to go make new ones, but be *very* nice to them.


:fu2: BULLY SUX. :fu2:
 
*wooOoOoo* am I bully.. sounds reasonable word..

oh err.. not mentioned Bully... oppiSe, I'm Bullymom but not "BULLY" (chuckles) it's related bulldogs...
:lol:

Anyway, Long years back when I was young and open minded social hang'n around w/peers. Mostly they are trying to bully me and realized that really wrong.. They thinks that Im not whine or complain at all.. All the way I laughing at them. They decide let me part of them peers until I discovered some of student who really hell bitch being sick of prank things... I made my own decision and worth try become "Bully" againist one of student. Finally turns it out real hell sweet revenage againist her because she really stupid prank revenage other studens who nerds. I did successed revenage her.. She ran into the office, and bawling over princpal's shoulder.. Few hours later, Princpal came and see me... asked me question why you doing that to her ? I was proclaimed she doing wrong ways done to other student nerds. Princpal stunned surprised how am I dare guts and making her wake up call!
I never forget that she really piss'n me big time until after the graduate high school. Guess what, She fought me real claws huge ones.. I was awful enjoy beat her up.. then final my word, What am I doing overall the years.. They were shocked and not surprised what happend rest of years my enjoyment.. (chuckles) ran into the last bus trip... *vanished* Few years later, I went into the bar and spotted her.. Oh my my... you're my favorite dish! Come over here.. She stunned and afraid of me.. I told her, don't need afraid of me.. I spoke her, How's your rot hell year ? She explained me whole thing.. Finally forgiven the old High school last resort over.. become good friend. She quite learn her lesson what have she done...

I'm glad she is no longer bully what she learned from me.. (devil-laughing)

Pretty quite great memories what I had been there! Oh boy~:sure: :rofl:
 
Yea I was being bully by one girl in H.S. oh boy oh boy she really does hate me so much cuz I am deaf. So what if I am deaf geez. Anyway she kept calling me dumb and deaf mute. A friend told me that and I told a friend to tell her to go back to Kindgerden *sp* and look up the dictorary *sp* HE HE HE. I aint no dumb to learn something in school, aint total deaf and I can talk so pffffffffffffffffft to her. I have report her to the principle many times and she ended up getting into trouble then she thinks. LOL About a year after the graduation from H.S. she saw my sister and asking my sister about me. Oh Brother!!!! and told my sister to say hi to me for her. HA!!! I dont need that. Then my sister went to 10 yrs reunion which I missed * my life was messed up at that time* . My sister told me that she sat at the table all by herself and smoking cirg. and no one talked to her. I laughed so hard and said boy I wish I was there. :D
 
Thanks Liza for the link :kiss: , I'll be sure to read into that :hug: and I'm sorry to hear what you've been thru during your school years with your friend and same goes for everyone else here in this thread....I've been bullied during my school years too and going thru some sort of situation on line too...I'm usually a chicken to say anything or to stand up against those bullies....maybe in time I will be able to but for now Ill look into that link you had provide....

Thanks once again for sharing your stories and views! :grouphug:
 
I was a bully myself, I beat up other boys if they picked on me. And I always get trouble for beating those boys (actually, I kicked their crotches).
 
Haha Crazymomma, way to go! heh I don't recall being bullied by someone, I was always very athletic, very much involved in the hearing world (don't get the wrong idea that I'm not interested in deaf world) So I don't recall being called names, beaten up, etc. But the biggest issue is my daughter was being bullied before school was out. She said the girls especially were calling her names like shorty, midget, dwarf, etc. Of course, she's pretty short for her age but very beautiful. I had to go to the principal and tell them this girl bullied her, pushed her, tattle-tailing for something she didn't do, etc. The Principal did nothing. The bullying continued on, I went back to the principal and told him that I want to put my daughter in a different class, then he decided that the girl (the bullier) will change to another class. He did what he said he would do. Everything has quiet down, made more friends. Now, she had a bestfriend for a year and a half, they loved doing things together until recently, her bestfriend has changed a lot, doing more of a grown-up thingy. my daughter wasn't ready to grow up yet. Her bestfriend started picking on her, hurting her feelings, not calling her to spend the night, etc. So, I confronted her mom just to see what was going on. she said my daughter did this and that, like isolate herself from a group and won't play with that group. She prefer to play by herself (she's an only child). Well, her mother became very very defensive of her daughter and I was just only trying to fix the problem and maybe work it out. But now, we're not even talking :ugh: Its been over a month now, my daughter is missing her bestfriend and want to work it out. We've called them almost everyday and they're not answering the phone, perhaps, they're out of town or refuse to talk to us. Its hard seeing this, sometimes I don't know what to do except to move on and find new friends.
 
i have been bullied myself and i have had to bully the others who constantly bullied me, see what went ard came ard so i don't allow anyone to put me down.

and u know all thru ur life there will be a bully in some form or ways!
 
I've been the victim of bullies before, too. Teasing, redicule, physical cruelty. You name it. The scars of which I'm still dealing with. It can and does last a life time. I have nasty trust issues that I'm still working through. I have other issues, too, that I am working through.

I can see how my experience with being bullied had both a postive and a negative affect on me. The negatives are pretty obvious, but the postive side of it, is that is has made me stronger, albeit, battle scarred.
 
I used to be a BIG BULLY on ppl .. since i dont like they hurt or picking on my friends or my family .. so i stood up for them , whipping ppl's arses, beat them up .. boys too... they afraid of me since i was tough , tall girl .. :D


and i used to bullying kids for $$$$$ for my lunch , etc.. blah .. i dont know how it happened .. haha.. thank god i ain't do bullying right now .. i am nicer girl now.. no more meany girl ! :)


I never bein bully by someone else!! haha, they scared of me!!!


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